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14 months.

It has been 14 months since my stepmom Teresa passed.

Today it is not so bad for me to type those words, see them on the computer screen … perhaps it is because today is also my father’s birthday, and we, for once, had a wonderful conversation. We don’t talk often – last time was my birthday a couple of weeks ago – and many times I leave the conversation feeling saddened and drained of energy for various reasons: he can be rude, demeaning, unsupportive of my career endeavors, we are politically polarized, etc. However, today he was in a great mood and we had a lovely conversation – it ended in a high note, which caused me to cry tears of joy rather than sadness once we ended the phone call.

It also caused me to miss my Teresa – one of her dying wishes was for me to make-up with my dad … she would have been so happy to have overheard the conversation, as it was a step in a good direction.

In a similar note, this week I decided to try planting some flowers outside my apartment this year (first time) as a way to remember Teresa – she would plant flowers and plants every year … this is something I would like to do as a way to keep her in my life, something constructive.

So, I would like to share my first flower “garden” with you all, since you guys have been a great support system for me since Thanksgiving. Thank you. hugs!

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What a beautiful garden tribute to your step-mom and having a good conversation with your father is even better. It sounds like you're healing at a good pace. Thank YOU for sharing with us. HUGS

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It warms my heart to read your positive words. Your flowers look lovely and bright. Thank you for sharing this. Aren't you glad you found this place? =]

IAMGROOT Level 7 May 19, 2018
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It's nice and inspiring to read what you are doing with all this. Hugs and peace.

kmdskit3 Level 8 May 19, 2018
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Beautiful. So sorry for your loss but what a wonderful way to honour her memory. Families can be difficult can't they. I am pleased to managed to share some positive time with yer Dad

Amisja Level 8 May 19, 2018
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Thank you for writing this. It touches on our heartstrings - many of us have estranged relationships with our family , and all of us need that kind of conversation you had with your dad. Hugs !

Ohub Level 7 May 19, 2018
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They're all beautiful!
I love the colors!

Paul628 Level 8 May 19, 2018
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It looks wonderful! I love the impatiens and lily. I think flowers are an excellent tribute. I'm happy that you had a good conversation with your dad.

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Who wouldn't be proud and honored to have such beautiful flowers to keep a memory alive.

jlynn37 Level 8 May 19, 2018
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Sending you hugs. Everything you wrote resonated. I have these situations too and it makes me sad. Life is very difficult.

The flowers are beautiful.

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