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Long distane relationship..

How many of you are willing to date long distance if you know the Person on the other end is genuine?

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I want too much attention from my fella for us to be long distance. I have tried before. It just doesn't work for me.

CeliaAnne Level 6 July 8, 2018

Provided there was a possibility that the distance could be greatly reduced at some not too distant future time.


It is very hard on the cars.but living together is even harder on my peace of mind.


I'm a older woman liberal atheist living in the reddest state in America. I am also a realist, therefore I've determined that long-distance is probably my only option.

Lorajay Level 7 July 9, 2018

I did this a decade ago in courting my now-wife. We met online (not on a dating site though, on a writer's site). We were 2200 miles apart. After each of us traveled to see the other, with her permission I just removed that obstacle and took up in a nearby Residence Inn to give us a chance to explore the relationship seriously, put her in the driver's seat as to when I would meet her children (then HS age), etc. I was able to do this because I'm a 100% telecommute worker. Job portability goes very well with LDRs.

mordant Level 8 July 8, 2018

Agreed! I'm a telecommuter as well and it is proving helpful in my LDR.


Been doing it for over 15 years...challenging, but willing to make the effort...but, I have the time and the means, which a lot of people don't. I would not recommend is often sad, lonely, and frustrating.


I voted "maybe" but the person would have to prove pretty amazing, and the long distance part would have to result in some relocation. I would have preferred to vote "Unlikely."

Deb57 Level 7 July 8, 2018

Long distance is my only option since I travel for work and stay away two months at a time. Video chat can help with staying in touch. But I definitely would spend extra time with the other person on extended visits


I don't know if I could be in a relationship with someone that is 3,000 miles away from me again UNLESS they were the right person. But, the first LDR failed horribly and so it really puts me off from wanting to attempt another.

MelanieV Level 5 July 8, 2018

I am datting Dan who I met here - he lives 3 hours from me. We are making long distance work.

Three hours apart isn't so bad it would be impossible to pursue the relationship. Hardly convenient, to be sure, but you could make weekends of it.

Good luck to you two!


I am currently in a long distance relationship. I know the other person is real because we meet as much as we can and have a great interest in each other. Now the fact we are a long distance apart does make it difficult - but it can be done and be very rewarding. The hope is of course - that it won't be "long distance" for a long time

HeraTera Level 7 July 8, 2018

It depends on the person.

Love is so rare. Rarer than winning the lottery, so if you find it you've got to fight for it.

But I'm quite skeptical and cynical.


The right person is out there somewhere, I love traveling or road trips, if I find my match I'm willing to relocate for happiness


@BlueWave OH, Hmmmm, am I coming to Covington for a visit? smile009.gif


If it were guaranteed to be short term and one or both of us had solid plans to shorten or eliminate the distance.


I am willing to date long distance, but I would not relocate but for very exceptional circumstances. My blood family are already all dead, and I have 3 children. The family of friends that I have built over the years are invaluable to me. I am a very affectionate person and quality time is my second biggest love language, so I would have to live at least in the same city as the person that has my heart. I feel a little trepidation about the issue, actually because the members here are so far and wide.


I answered maybe, but it would be REALLY difficult for me. I'm a physical, affectionate guy. I enjoy being near the woman I'm dating. But if she truly sparked my interest, I'd want to try.

KCjoe108 Level 6 July 8, 2018

This would occur after many conversations, my enjoying his voice and good sexting. I found it ti be a new avenue of sensual communication. Since i have no desire to leave Arizona exceot to have fun. It is a good "ice breaker"

EvaV Level 7 July 8, 2018

I'm willing if they're are.?

Sheannutt Level 9 July 8, 2018

OK, let's give it a go.


Twice done, twice failed. Not for me.

Sticks48 Level 9 July 8, 2018

For me it can be an adventure....i enjoy sexting and voice.... Meeting every once in awhile doable....playtime is even more fun. The shared time is not wasted and I listen better and mire appreciative. Just me

EvaV Level 7 July 8, 2018

Agreed!! ?


I said I am not.

However, if money was no issue and either of us could afford the time and expense of FREQUENT travel, I could see it working for a while. I think eventually, if the relationship were to be headed toward Foreversville, the long distance factor would have to be removed.

BlueWave Level 8 July 8, 2018

What if your partner is a soldier or an astronaut or something?

@goldenvalleyguy Hmmmmmm.......or most time? smile001.gif As time has gone on, and I hear about more and more couple doing it, I agree there can be valid reasons for some people to sleep in different beds at times. Depends on lifestyles, needs, how loudly one or the other snores, medical issues, shift work, yadda yadda yadda.

@goldenvalleyguy I wouldn't even want to share a bed full time with someone a few miles away !


My other half and I were together for several years before he took a job that required him to move cross country. At the time I was taking care of my disabled father and could not follow. We texted constantly and visited each other frequently, but it was damned hard. I sometimes don't even understand how we ended up making it work.

I was able to move to be with him after two years, and things were good again immediately. I admit I wondered if that would even be the case, if perhaps we'd grown in different directions and that was why those two years had been so difficult. Nope, it was just the distance - we're as close now as we ever were. We will not be attempting long distance ever, ever again. Where he goes, I will follow.

synergy Level 6 July 14, 2018

As it happens, I am planning on moving a considerable distance in the near future, as soon as I can sell my house where I'm at right now. I made the decision on a trip there, and then met up with her: she had been a non-romantic friend before this visit, and upon our meeting this time around, the sparks really flew and, well, now I have a lot of extra incentive to finish up the moving project.

So for the time being, it's a long-distance relationship. Which is okay for now, but much less than ideal. It's a challenge to develop the relationship this way. She and I could have made a lot more progress developing our relationship than we have because phone calls, texts, and other remote communications are just not the same as being together in person.

Update: I spent a pleasant weekend there, much of it with her.

My profile has now been updated to "single."

At least we parted ways smiling and may maintain a friendship.


I did (DC - San Diego), and we've been together for just short of 30 years, married for going on 27.

jeshuey Level 7 July 8, 2018

As long as I can see that person a few times a year, I can live with long distance.

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