How many of you are willing to date long distance if you know the Person on the other end is genuine?
I did this a decade ago in courting my now-wife. We met online (not on a dating site though, on a writer's site). We were 2200 miles apart. After each of us traveled to see the other, with her permission I just removed that obstacle and took up in a nearby Residence Inn to give us a chance to explore the relationship seriously, put her in the driver's seat as to when I would meet her children (then HS age), etc. I was able to do this because I'm a 100% telecommute worker. Job portability goes very well with LDRs.
I am currently in a long distance relationship. I know the other person is real because we meet as much as we can and have a great interest in each other. Now the fact we are a long distance apart does make it difficult - but it can be done and be very rewarding. The hope is of course - that it won't be "long distance" for a long time
I am willing to date long distance, but I would not relocate but for very exceptional circumstances. My blood family are already all dead, and I have 3 children. The family of friends that I have built over the years are invaluable to me. I am a very affectionate person and quality time is my second biggest love language, so I would have to live at least in the same city as the person that has my heart. I feel a little trepidation about the issue, actually because the members here are so far and wide.
I said I am not.
However, if money was no issue and either of us could afford the time and expense of FREQUENT travel, I could see it working for a while. I think eventually, if the relationship were to be headed toward Foreversville, the long distance factor would have to be removed.
My other half and I were together for several years before he took a job that required him to move cross country. At the time I was taking care of my disabled father and could not follow. We texted constantly and visited each other frequently, but it was damned hard. I sometimes don't even understand how we ended up making it work.
I was able to move to be with him after two years, and things were good again immediately. I admit I wondered if that would even be the case, if perhaps we'd grown in different directions and that was why those two years had been so difficult. Nope, it was just the distance - we're as close now as we ever were. We will not be attempting long distance ever, ever again. Where he goes, I will follow.
As it happens, I am planning on moving a considerable distance in the near future, as soon as I can sell my house where I'm at right now. I made the decision on a trip there, and then met up with her: she had been a non-romantic friend before this visit, and upon our meeting this time around, the sparks really flew and, well, now I have a lot of extra incentive to finish up the moving project.
So for the time being, it's a long-distance relationship. Which is okay for now, but much less than ideal. It's a challenge to develop the relationship this way. She and I could have made a lot more progress developing our relationship than we have because phone calls, texts, and other remote communications are just not the same as being together in person.