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Long distane relationship..

How many of you are willing to date long distance if you know the Person on the other end is genuine?

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Nope. I don't entertain it at all. If I can't touch someone, feel them, look into their eyes, feel that spark... I'm out. There's 7 and a half million people in my state, 700,000 just in Seattle. I'm sure there's someone around here I could meet and get along with smile009.gif

pepperjones Level 8 July 8, 2018
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Pepper!
I'm sure that there are eligible young guys knocking at your door constantly.
smile009.gif

@bigpawbullets you flatter me ❤

8

I want too much attention from my fella for us to be long distance. I have tried before. It just doesn't work for me.

CeliaAnne Level 6 July 8, 2018
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8

Provided there was a possibility that the distance could be greatly reduced at some not too distant future time.

Flyingsaucesir Level 7 July 8, 2018
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8

It is very hard on the cars.but living together is even harder on my peace of mind.

Spinliesel Level 8 July 8, 2018
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7

I'm a older woman liberal atheist living in the reddest state in America. I am also a realist, therefore I've determined that long-distance is probably my only option.

Lorajay Level 7 July 9, 2018
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I'm too old and set in my ways and have no intention of ever moving from this beautiful hollow. Best I can do is someone within a four-drive and I'm doing that now. If it were to get serious and the distance become too much for us to deal with, then I guess either we'll have to part company or he'll have to move here.

ProudMary Level 8 July 8, 2018
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I did this a decade ago in courting my now-wife. We met online (not on a dating site though, on a writer's site). We were 2200 miles apart. After each of us traveled to see the other, with her permission I just removed that obstacle and took up in a nearby Residence Inn to give us a chance to explore the relationship seriously, put her in the driver's seat as to when I would meet her children (then HS age), etc. I was able to do this because I'm a 100% telecommute worker. Job portability goes very well with LDRs.

mordant Level 8 July 8, 2018
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Agreed! I'm a telecommuter as well and it is proving helpful in my LDR.

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Been doing it for over 15 years...challenging, but willing to make the effort...but, I have the time and the means, which a lot of people don't. I would not recommend it...it is often sad, lonely, and frustrating.

thinktwice Level 8 July 8, 2018
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It's not practical for anything to be more than a half a days drive away...unless you are really building towards 1 moving to where the other is eventually...people do make it work though....

goldenvalleyguy Level 7 July 8, 2018
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I voted "maybe" but the person would have to prove pretty amazing, and the long distance part would have to result in some relocation. I would have preferred to vote "Unlikely."

Deb57 Level 7 July 8, 2018
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Long distance is my only option since I travel for work and stay away two months at a time. Video chat can help with staying in touch. But I definitely would spend extra time with the other person on extended visits

minhmeister Level 8 July 8, 2018
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I don't know if I could be in a relationship with someone that is 3,000 miles away from me again UNLESS they were the right person. But, the first LDR failed horribly and so it really puts me off from wanting to attempt another.

MelanieV Level 5 July 8, 2018
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I am datting Dan who I met here - he lives 3 hours from me. We are making long distance work.

sassygirl3869 Level 9 July 8, 2018
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Three hours apart isn't so bad it would be impossible to pursue the relationship. Hardly convenient, to be sure, but you could make weekends of it.

Good luck to you two!

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I am currently in a long distance relationship. I know the other person is real because we meet as much as we can and have a great interest in each other. Now the fact we are a long distance apart does make it difficult - but it can be done and be very rewarding. The hope is of course - that it won't be "long distance" for a long time

HeraTera Level 7 July 8, 2018
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6

It depends on the person.

Love is so rare. Rarer than winning the lottery, so if you find it you've got to fight for it.

But I'm quite skeptical and cynical.

Ellatynemouth Level 8 July 8, 2018
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The right person is out there somewhere, I love traveling or road trips, if I find my match I'm willing to relocate for happiness

CourreurDeBois Level 6 July 8, 2018
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Awwwwww.....

@BlueWave OH, Hmmmm, am I coming to Covington for a visit? smile009.gif

5

If it were guaranteed to be short term and one or both of us had solid plans to shorten or eliminate the distance.

JenBeberstein Level 7 July 14, 2018
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I am willing to date long distance, but I would not relocate but for very exceptional circumstances. My blood family are already all dead, and I have 3 children. The family of friends that I have built over the years are invaluable to me. I am a very affectionate person and quality time is my second biggest love language, so I would have to live at least in the same city as the person that has my heart. I feel a little trepidation about the issue, actually because the members here are so far and wide.

FlippantLlama Level 7 July 11, 2018
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I answered maybe, but it would be REALLY difficult for me. I'm a physical, affectionate guy. I enjoy being near the woman I'm dating. But if she truly sparked my interest, I'd want to try.

KCjoe108 Level 6 July 8, 2018
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This would occur after many conversations, my enjoying his voice and good sexting. I found it ti be a new avenue of sensual communication. Since i have no desire to leave Arizona exceot to have fun. It is a good "ice breaker"

EvaV Level 7 July 8, 2018
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I'm willing if they're are.😉

Sheannutt Level 9 July 8, 2018
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OK, let's give it a go.

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sheannut let give a try and see where we go

5

Twice done, twice failed. Not for me.

Sticks48 Level 8 July 8, 2018
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For me it can be an adventure....i enjoy sexting and voice.... Meeting every once in awhile doable....playtime is even more fun. The shared time is not wasted and I listen better and mire appreciative. Just me

EvaV Level 7 July 8, 2018
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Agreed!! 😄

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I said I am not.

However, if money was no issue and either of us could afford the time and expense of FREQUENT travel, I could see it working for a while. I think eventually, if the relationship were to be headed toward Foreversville, the long distance factor would have to be removed.

BlueWave Level 8 July 8, 2018
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What if your partner is a soldier or an astronaut or something?

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Yeah, eventually sharing a bed full time should be the end game, right?

@goldenvalleyguy Hmmmmmm.......or most time? smile001.gif As time has gone on, and I hear about more and more couple doing it, I agree there can be valid reasons for some people to sleep in different beds at times. Depends on lifestyles, needs, how loudly one or the other snores, medical issues, shift work, yadda yadda yadda.

@goldenvalleyguy I wouldn't even want to share a bed full time with someone a few miles away !

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My other half and I were together for several years before he took a job that required him to move cross country. At the time I was taking care of my disabled father and could not follow. We texted constantly and visited each other frequently, but it was damned hard. I sometimes don't even understand how we ended up making it work.

I was able to move to be with him after two years, and things were good again immediately. I admit I wondered if that would even be the case, if perhaps we'd grown in different directions and that was why those two years had been so difficult. Nope, it was just the distance - we're as close now as we ever were. We will not be attempting long distance ever, ever again. Where he goes, I will follow.

synergy Level 5 July 14, 2018
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