I can also say my kids are my principal motivators, but as they inch closer and closer to becoming adults, I now look towards a future for myself with fewer restrictions and barriers. Having a goal is a huge driver for me. I have reached the top of my ladder where I work, and I am already researching where to go next. Perhaps a PhD? This is something I couldn’t do now, but the kids will be grown before I know it, and then...maybe...

Hobbies are also important to one’s quality of life, in my opinion. People who spend all day parked in front of a tv wasting away depress me. I like to be working on something. A painting, a song, a project around the house...I guess you can say they are little goals too. I like working towards something to keep me going. I like to have something to look forward to in the future. A hiking trip or any trip really. I love to explore and travel and get out there in nature.

And then there is what I’m here for, which is to find someone with the same life goals to be my teammate. So I guess making someone special feel really happy is a part of personal happiness to me. I’m missing that, and I’m coming out of a nightmare mind fuck where I thought I had found my person that I was looking for, but instead I had found a wicked monster who’s goals seemed to be destroying my happiness instead of building it up. So be careful putting yourself out there, but I know that’s a big part of general life satisfaction.

As far as helping people, I love doing that too. I am a teacher now at a college and I have the same students for two solid years. I love that I get to teach them life lessons on top of the required lessons. It is very fulfilling. Have you ever thought of teaching? It’s not something I ever thought I would do. But I certainly do love it.

A few people have an exotic destiny, for example Elon Musk. A few people have a vitrolic destiny, for example Trump. Everyone can live to make a better world by being kind. All you need to do is to be cordial with everyone. People are suffering from the criminal activities of the current administration in Washington, whether red or blue. At least, do not make anyone suffer, and if you can make someone smile, good for you. Your imagination and energy limit you from doing more. Don't fear failure. If you try and fail, you will have memories of an adventure. If you succeed don't let it spoil your life.

I had kids. Before that I just drank a lot and played video games. After having my oldest I went back to school, got my degree, changed my career, and slowly moved up the ladder. I know it's a cliche, but my kids gave me something to be someone for. I was never important to myself. Before them, just feeling good was enough.

I think that this can fall inside or outside of life purpose, to be honest. Not every type of person is going to be able to make the necessary changes to improve their life, nor will they be able to do it for others.

If people want to do this, I think the self-crit route is one good way, but it's possible to get seriously disabused by doing a thorough self-crit.

I live within my means. Treat others as I would like to be treated this makes me happy with my life. Make the best of things. Help others. I do not try to out do others and if I do make some extra money sometimes I splurge or give a needy person some money. Remember when you die you can't take anything with you. The real heaven is how people remember you after you are gone. The real hell is when people celebrate your death (glad you are dead). The goal to be richer than others is greed lack of humanity!

My motivation comes from within. That may sound selfish but it's not. If the impetus to effect change comes from an external, then it becomes a set-up for disappointment. My avenue is being an advocate for mental health awareness and life post-cancer, because those are issues I can speak about.

A long time ago I volunteered in a nursing home. It was only a few hours a week but it was really rewarding. When my mom and then later my dad were in nursing homes I always tried to visit other patients a little or volunteer on bingo nite. Maybe it did make me feel better about myself but what's wrong with that.
As far as hobbies, consider checking out your creative side even if it only taking photos with your cellphone and playing around with editing features.
What about volunteering at a pet shelter if you honestly believe people are poop piles.

Being a Sevite of the natural world from a kid I observed that everything works as a system to maintain balance...I always pledge to give the best of me in any circumstance. My life is gift, it's a composition composed just for me, a fine work of art by the great architect-author unknown....my mission is to evolve and collectively participate in the evolutionary process of our species into the majestic creatures we have the potential to become.

Look for anyone who needs help and help them. Once you make the first step the rest is easy and the feeling is unmatched. Try it!

Someone told me once, we all are rabbits chasing different carrots. Meaning, what works for me may not work for you. I can tell you this much though, once you find purpose then gates are open and the possibilities are endless. At my age, the one thing I wish for day in day out is to feel healthy enough to have energy to do the million things I still want to do everyday.

While you can look to others for inspiration, comparing is a bad idea. No matter what you do be it financial, spiritual, physical, someone else always has more or better, or both.

Compare yourself to you. Have you learned more? Progressed? Consistent and gradual, always aiming to do just a little more. It adds up.

Empathy. Unlike many others.

I agree with the philosophy of antinatalism, in that none of us had a choice in being here, and our self righteous culture has made it hard to exit.

So there are many people suffering in their own way. Trying to minimise their suffering is the most appropriate response, since we are all in this together.

Giving makes me feel good and it makes others feel good...I am aware that part of the reason I am giving is for myself, but I'm OK with that. Ultimately, it positively impacts others and that is what I find most important. I try giving without expectation. If someone takes advantage of my kindness, that is on them, not me. I agree that there are some shitty people in our world, but I still believe that for the most part, people are good.

Money and sex usually does the trick for me !

We're not here to do anything. Our only purpose in life is to be happy.

There's no god in the sky demanding anything of us..we're our own gods.

Find something you think had intrinsic value and multiply it, be it a hobby, or art, literature, whatever. Create beauty. Do it anonymously if you feel your motives are selfish. But add light to the world. Every candle counts.