None of that for me. They had their shot.
So it was always someone else’s fault?
@ezwryder The question pertains to lovers. In this case, yes. If it were just girlfriends, that's a different question with a different answer.
Most of the time its a bad idea! Those are my feelings on it, usually there is a reason why it didn't work the first time
If both of you feel like it was wrong to separate or if you miss each other, then by all meas, but if you are only returning to each other because of familiarity, do not. Familiarity brings the problems back, while actually missing them can help you realize where you were wrong and try to fix the flaws you previously had.
Yes! If there were a way to rate this answer 5 stars I would.
NEVER GO BACK! I think that people move on for a reason, and however much I may miss an old lover, it would be putting myself in a weird situation to try and reconnect to the way things once were.
This is just my situation, I know, but I change so much as the years go by, and whilst my old lover would get a greatly improved version of me if we hooked up again now, I'd feel weird about it — like I'd regressed. Not a reason not to do it, I suppose, but.... They wouldn't get the same person, and I'm betting that neither would I.
Yes..better the devil you know..?
I haven't done it exactly..as in returned to reprising a relationship with an ex.
However on two ex girlfriends..it seemed almost impossible to extricate ourselves completely because sexually speaking we found it difficult not to have sexual relations even though we were no longer together..its silly but..the love of body didn't die with the end of the love of mind or direction.
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Strictly as lovers or in a relationship?
Only if they want to. Sometimes it might work. It will never work if either of them keeps on mentioning or asking about relationships they had while apart. To be together again they each might have to drop a few friends.
Ignorant people still want to ask me about my breakup with my ex. I start to cry and say everything was OK until she ran off with that circus clown. LOL
Possibly. Imagine you had a chance meeting with your boyfriend/girlfriend from when you were 18, 25 years or more since you last saw one another... you'd both have changed a lot since then, but maybe you both still have those characteristics that made you attracted to each other. Who knows - it might work out.
Well hell... you said lovers. That means romance. whats wrong being friends with benefits? People make mistakes and you can learn from them. I say if it brings what you need back onto your life then go for it...
Why visit the past and expect a different future?
Exes are exes for a reason! I never once took one back, regardless of how much they begged. It's like wiping your butt before you poo!
Generally there is a reason an ex is an ex. However, I have seen some cases where reunited exes made it work. Could be that immaturity got in the way the first time around.
Asking for a friend, are ya? If they mature, it can happen, but it will be over in an eyeblink as soon as one of you says, " you haven't changed at all"!
When I was 19 I went down to New Orleans with my cousin and a friend to check out Paul Prudhomme's Louisiana Kitchen as a budding young chef in the making. While enjoying a very underage drunk, I heard a regular down there sing one of his best that I think sums up my opinion on the matter pretty well... "Baby if I went back to you, it'd be like cookin' in 'Old Grease'. Lol
But honestly, while it may be comfortable, whatever separated you in the first place will always be there and you just cannot turh back the clock. Unfortunately.
Not really. Most often, there was a really good reason it didn't work the first time.
For some its possible. I have had dreams of past lovers. So maybe it might work for me.
I know that some people can do it, but not me. I move one, and don't go back.
I have done this with a few people in my life. Sometimes it was just a matter of needing a break. But with one, we went on to have a relationship that lasted nine more years. And it wasn’t horrible. With another I got back together with him and we stayed together another 4 years. No regrets. There’ve been a few online relationships where I’ve gotten back together with somebody, again no regrets. I’m a firm believer in the fact that I have a special place in my heart for all my exes. I will always have love for that person. I don’t rule out anything.