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Do you count on your spouse to make you happy?

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BucketlistBob 8 June 26
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I don't agree it's a waste of time trying to please a spouse. Also, it's okay to treat yourself and not be codependent. As a single lady, im completely happy. Must take care of yourself as well

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That was why we got married, but it has to work both ways.

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No, I gave up on that decades ago. Now he might be able to make me happy by giving me a quick divorce.

Carin Level 8 Dec 23, 2018
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No

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No, though lunch would be nice.

@Holycowballs Holycowballs! Where did you come up with that monicar? LOL

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What? No!

No idea what Will Smith was saying as it wanted me to install an app to play it.

But to your question — I'd never expect any person to take responsibility for 'making' me feel anything... They have their stuff going on, I have mine. How I feel about their actions comes down to my own mental filters. My partner can be a dreadful arsehole at times (as can I), but I take a step back and consider what's going on in her experience at that time before I react or take it personally.

...Hasn't always been that way, but I've developed the skills over the years we've been together, and now it makes for a much happier state of mind and a calmer relationship.

Hmmm..... my wife makes me happy when we play around and get serious. I enjoy her craziness on trips and where ever we go. Yeah.... i kind of count on her to play back when we're having fun. That makes me happy... her kisses and hugs and bringing me coffee in the morning makes me happy. I count on that...

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I don’t count on her, but she says and does things that are conducive to my happiness.

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She does

Marine Level 8 June 27, 2018
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When I was married - if I counted on that I would have been constantly miserable. I took care of my own happiness and I guess I still do. What really sucks is when they think it's your job to keep them happy.

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Well , she did.. she left ! 🙂

Buddha Level 8 June 26, 2018
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OHHHH, no! We're all responsible for making ourselves happy. I'd never put that burden on someone else.

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No way! That is giving away my power and putting an unrealistic expectation on my partner
I'm one of those who thinks we're responsible for our own happiness.

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No one can "make you happy". You can choose to be happy regardless of the circumstances.

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too single to have a wife.

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Yes. We're very happy together.

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