Considering the God Squad thinks the only reason any of us are agnostic/atheist is so we can do whatever we want without consequences and turn this planet into one giant hedonistic party, would you ever be part of a polyamorous relationship?
It's weird how I have this situation. In my last two previous relationship, I was being used and it was expensive. So, I put it out to the universe, I want to be in total control of my next relationship. And it happened... I got into a relationship with a submissive. She told me, she has to be monogamous and I get to do whatever I want. Ok, great! But I noticed she tried to subtly manipulate/control me into monogamous relationship. I would have to order her to find me another girl and I know she would do it, but I'm not ready for that level of drama in my life.
I was with a guy who was into this sort of relationship. Except, at the time I didn't know it. I found out by a friend that he was screwing another girl, and I knew he didn't like to use condoms so I had MAJOR problems with this. If you're going to screw different people let them know because ain't nobody trying to share diseases and shit. I also find it disrespectful to not tell the person, sooo. Never again though. I'm just too territorial for all that mess.
One on one relationships are challenging enough but I can see the up side to polyamourous relationships.
Polyamorous should not mean irresponsible. Perhaps more responsible than monogamous persons indulging in affairs or using prostitutes. But it is based on people being open and loving to each other.
I find the mainstream legal/moral position in many countries towards bigamy and fornication more puzzling.
I absolutely would. I'm not attracted to women, but I could share a man, I do actually, but I'm the secret other woman, I would love for him to be able to tell her about me but she would end their marriage if she ever found out. I had my heart broken (15 year marriage) a couple years ago and I learned about myself that I still have lots of love to give, what I lost was my faith in forever love. In possessive love. I long to be able to love who want without anyone trying to own anyone and without any lies.
I got a match on Tinder telling me about her boyfriend. I asked her why she swiped right if she has a boyfriend. She said she was polymourus and her boyfriend approved of me also. We were soon unmatched. No thank you.
I call that being single and not wanting to start a family or needing to be co-dependent in any way. What would it matter if two people totally have trust between each other and spend enough quality time together that suits the other or others. They used to call that swingers. As humans we are perfectly capable of form deep emotional bonds for the long or short term with one or more persons - which can constitute and extended family. It's not always about sexual fidelity. I think in the future the roles of families will have radically changed. The US is 50 years behind European families, probably because of the influence of religion on culture and it's identity.
I for one would welcome such an arrangement if the opportunity were to arise. Unfortunately, I have yet to find even one that I could maintain a lasting relationship with that wasn't already committed to a monogamous relationship. (Which is why I voted number 3, although I don't think 'satisfaction' had anything to do with it)
Yes I would how ever the head of the family should be able to take care of and have authority over the family with out making everyone feel like slaves
I'm not quite sure what a polyamorus relationship is -I should probably Google it before commenting but why change the habit of a lifetime
As I don't even have one relationship at the moment it seems unlikely that I would get involved with more than one....
Chance would be a fine thing -as we say around these parts
Tried it when younger, thought it was the solution to a few things. Felt radical and honest. But yea, na. Now I think monogamy is a nice idea, if it works for a couple. Real nice. Don't mind abstinence either. Be honest with yourself and your partner. But that does NOT include telling your partner every (or any!) detail of an erotic dream you just had, featuring someone other than your partner.
I have 3 partners. My husband, we share a bf together, and I separately have a gf.
I love being polyamorous athiests.
(And no, none of us are straight)
True poly, I would absolutely go for. Unfortunately, the term is often misused by couples in open relationships, looking to legitimise a bit fun on the side without considering themselves swingers.
I really don't have a problem with a 3 or maybe 4 way dynamic, where everyone is in a relationship with everyone else. It's the 'bit on the side' bit that doesn't work for me, where you're basically there for sex and excluded from any meaningful emotional connection with the primary couple.
Your survey is not exhaustive (adjusts glasses). Jokes!