Naked photos- what do you think?
“You need to put some clothes on,” I replied mildly. Through Fitness Singles, I had asked a man to send me a recent photo since his pictures were too old.
He sent a picture of himself in scanty briefs, standing and holding a guitar above a bulging crotch.
With online dating, leading with naked photos is the hallmark of a douchebag who just wants casual sex. Sending this photo before meeting showed poor judgment and impulsiveness.
“Damn, he’s hot!” I thought. He probably hoped for that reaction. "Down, girl!" my good sense argued. "Pump the brakes."
On the other hand....
At age 63, he is a registered nurse who works in critical care at a hospital. With a healthy lifestyle, he works out, rides a bicycle and has a large garden on one acre of property. He loves hiking, too. Divorced, he raised four daughters. These are good things, to quote Martha Stewart.
But that photo bothers me. Am I being too critical?
Your thoughts?
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There are articles on this Kathleen. In one case a woman flipped the switch and sent random guys "pussy" shots. (not her own tho lol) Apparently it was a big hit...
It would put me off done too early also. Why in this day & age men don't wait for the cue is beyond me. It's insulting.
I got a crotch shot the other day, but it was clothed, and someone I know. Long story that. Nothing nefarious.
Qualia
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July 23, 2018
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That is so disgusting. I'd have defriended or deleted that person immediately. Most men want to have sex with most women, so someone showing sexual interest is NOT a compliment. What matters is if they see you as a person and are interested in getting to know you.
@birdingnut I left out the context and I more than "asked" for being sent such a pic, without coming right out and saying so. If there was ever such a thing as a "classy crotch shot", I got it.
@PalacinkyPDX not sure if that was for my reply.
Some of these men married young, divorced old, and really have no experience and no idea what they are doing. Men who have spent a great deal of their adult life single are probably less likely to do stupid shit like this. I can honestly say l have never hit on a woman in my life . Most women will signal you when they want to take things to the next level.
Not right before you 2 have a relationship of some sorts and he knows that you even might be into that stuff.
starwatcher-al
Level 7
July 23, 2018
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I am probably not a good judge of this behavior, it's the very last kind of ploy I'd use, unless asked; but, I think by this age, 60's and up, a lot of guys just figure to "let it all hang out" and see what happens. They score-great! They get rebuffed-on to the next. Dunno, just my take on it. I could not begin to tell you how you should react, that's totally your call.
Condor5
Level 8
July 23, 2018
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No you are not. Unless you are looking for just a plaything.
Mitch07102
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July 23, 2018
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