It makes me sad some have had to endure such abuses

JFC. Once again, I see the absolutely bizarre, obviously unacceptable, were-you-raised-by-wolves-dude kind of conduct of another man. How easy is it to treat another person with even a modicum of respect?

With competition like this out there, you'd think I'd get myself a date no problem.

Tough post here... I say the world is full of those that don't quite know what to do or who to tell if something ugly happens to them. Then they're those that don't need that encouragement to push back and inform management. I really don't see the harm in making a statement that can help a few make a choice to speak up. It's nothing personal. Just a friend helping a friend.

Dig it, man.
Can you believe in this day and age, I'm about to make the following statement?! Wtf?
I am a bartender and tolerate (outwardly) a great deal of sexual harassment daily. I mean, it is F** CRAZY how I am spoken to or about when they think I can't hear. There are some days, I tell ya, I am on the verge of losing my shit and riping balls off. But, I don't. I give it back or ignore it and then I go home and lock my door and sit and hate myself for not murdering those men right there and then. However, it is "my job" and even in this big city, once you are figured as a bartender who calls "sexual harrasment", you don't work again.
Sucks.

I haven't run into any of that here which is so very refreshing. Other sites it's a nightmare! My rule is if you start sending me winky pictures and being gross I'm going to tell you off report and block. I don't know any women that wants to see a winky picture from a stranger.

I haven't run into any of that here which is so very refreshing. Other sites it's a nightmare! My rule is if you start sending me winky pictures and being gross I'm going to tell you off report and block. I don't know any women that wants to see a winky picture from a stranger.

I haven't run into any of that here which is so very refreshing. Other sites it's a nightmare! My rule is if you start sending me winky pictures and being gross I'm going to tell you off report and block. I don't know any women that wants to see a winky picture from a stranger.

that's what happens when the masses get hold of a good idea. Ruin, I like flirting but PENIS shots. jumpin jehovasat ! Where were these people brought up? like fat chance at success ! poor girls . education is key

I read the post, and some of the replies. It is embarrassing, annoying and downright offensive that so many guys think it is ok, or even a compliment to make suggestive comments to women, (or other men). I have worked with lots of guys like this, sleazebags, and they are what makes women so defensive. Imagine every time you see a message in your inbox, you are aware that their is a good chance it is sleazy. The other things which is almost amusing, well maybe more ironic, is that the offenders have an over inflated concept of their appeal to women and also think this conduct is a plus for them. The example given looks like "grooming" to me.

it makes me ashamed to be male really it does. I would never do the penis thing or the other lewd things men feel happy to suggest. there is Pornhub where you can join and happily have your old chap on show and say mostly what you like. what really annoys me is people think I'm strange because I'm covered in tattoos.

Fascinating post, fascinating discussion. Keep it going!

Telling people what to do/not to do? Making rules? Giving advice, recommendations? Sharing thoughts, feelings, attitudes? Setting tones?

Disagreeing? Rolling eyes? Arguing? Failing to set policy?

Yes. All of the above. More.

Keep the discussion illuminated, no matter what is said. Maybe there's blowback. Maybe it gets worse before it gets better.

It won't get better unless we keep it going.

Bang on, mate!

This is ridiculous. The guy was pleasant enough, he went too far, but some people are socially inept. This is directed at men vs women, only, which is highly offensive because I get a LOT worse from gay men, regularly and women practically rape me in clubs with their Hen Parties and such. This screams White Knight and woman are not as weak, feeble and vulnerable as you make out, especially on the internet. I suggest you amend it to bring it to the 21st century.

Thank you for defending us all, both male and female and for reinforcing the actions we should take.

I think that because this is advertised so much as a dating site, we will continue to see this behavior that is so common on most other dating sites. As more and more people join us it's possible the incidents may even increase in frequency. But being aware, cautious, and confident enough to take action (notifying @Admin) will hopefully help keep the creeps at bay.

Thanks @Kreig for your concern for us womenfolk. I had a scammer yesterday-reported him to Admn and he's gone today. He was posing as a surgeon from California-looked like a model's photo-and was stationed in Syria. I can spot them from experience. Ladies if you need support or suspect someone please feel free to message me.

When I got this FIRST message from a user,

"......want to have some wild sex fun? lol," [Excerpted quote to avoid possible retaliation by author.]

I simply blocked him.

I will take your advice and report him.

PEOPLE, if you do this here, anywhere or in real life, trust that it COULD NOT BE MORE OF A TURN OFF. You are wasting your time, and making yourself look like an juvenile moron. (In my opinion and experience.)

Thanks for the very thoughtful post, Kreig!

Thank you. That hasn't been my experience since joining, but I appreciate how eloquently you've addressed the issue.