THE MALE GAZE
Have known a few strippers in my time and am currently developing a friendship with a woman who was a bikini dancer at a club. At least I think I am. It makes sense to suceed at this profession you have to be able to attract the attention and approval of men so they will give you money. How does that not bleed into the rest of your life? I have heard from these women: "I like men to buy me things." "I try to stay sexually attractive to men." "I have a hard time saying no to men." That last one especially makes my skin crawl. How can you act or think like this and have healthy relationships with men or have any kind of healthy self-image? After 40+ yrs. this has caused me to question my use of porn more than anything else. Even amateur and camgirls (kind of a modern version of stripping). I am definitely not anti-sex or against images of sexuality. Trying to be in shape or physically healthy is different than being mostly focused on sexual attractiveness to men. I am just looking for a healthier heterosexuality.