My sympathies for your situation, Luci; I'm in a similar place. My wife of twelve and a half years left me just over a year ago and I'm not ashamed to admit that was pretty depressing for quite a while. I'm now starting to really look around for someone new, trying to get myself into better physical shape, put together a plan for moving on with things, all of that.

Point is, you're not alone.

Hi LuciMP, There was a song in the 60's that went; "Only Love Can Break A Heart, Only Love Can Mend It Again. I feel your pain, I have been through something similar. The love of my life of 49 years died 2 years ago and my heart was broken. I fell into a deep depression and didn't care about anything. My doctor put me on anti depressants and I went to a therapist for almost a year. I finally started to come out of it and notice the world around me. 2years ago I never thought I would be on a dating site looking for friends and lovers. I thought my life was over, however I am starting a new beginning.

Welcome to the community.

Welcome to the community.

I feel your pain, I’ve been through the same heartbreak.
In fact I worry that there might have been so much damage done it’s almost crazy to think I would try anymore.
But I’m a Leo and that I think gives me courage and power to now try again.

Loved the similes you should have added some onamonapias to that. Welcome to the realm of the realistic.

You had me at "long romantic walks to the liquor store". lol. On a serious note, I am sorry to hear about the recent pain. Hopefully you will meet some good people here. That said, welcome.

Welcome. glad to have you join us.

Welcome to the group I hope you find what you are looking for.

Seems like a nice crowd here.

I understand completely. I just got out of an 8 year relationship that took up almost my entire 20s (21-29), where she cheated on me, left me, came back, cheated and left with the same guy, came back, did it again, came back again, and then left for good. All that took place over a period of 6 months; from may 1st to October 10th. I was devastated, humiliated, and my dignity and pride were through the floor. I sort of had a nervous breakdown after it happened, but now, a few months removed I'm starting to feel the same way you're describing. I want to get back out there, meet new people and fall in love again. I'm so glad I found this site, since she was a Catholic, and while she never tried to proselytize or convert me, she told me that inwardly she worried about my soul, and I realized that atheism is not like other religions when it comes to interreligious dating. Its all intellectual and serious discussion here. And that's what I'm looking for: an intelligent woman who loves to laugh and shares my atheism. I'm feeling better and more confident every day. So if you ever want to talk with someone whose been there, I'm around.

Its seems like once I get used to being single, actually become happy and unconcererned with my status, I meet some one.

Welcome aboard.

Welcome to the squad