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I need a little advice, can you help me?

I blocked my ex and told him I would before I did. He said, "You'll regret it." I said, "Lol, how?" He said, "You'll lose your benefits and I'll tell your boss you have feelings for her." (She's a lesbian, I'm bi.) I'm scared he will get me fired. He can't. For blocking him? What do I do? He'll call my work!? He's gaslighting me again. He said he has proof in Messenger. Is he really going to get his mommy (he lives with his parents and he's 29) to drive 1/2 an hour to my work to show my boss a message? Well, when we broke up, I found out he's a registered sex offender. I doubt he'll call. He's manipulating me again and we aren't even dating. I said I have proof he's a registered sex offender. Any advice or comforting words that could reassure me I won't lose my job for doing the right thing? This is all from that platonic post he keeps saying is wrong.

Sarahroo29 8 Jan 20
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You did the right thing. Just breath and try to relax. He can't take anything away from you like that

She hasn't read the message yet. I hope he didn't call and now she's mad?

@Sarahroo29 relaaaaaaax lol. It'll be okay

She said I can't get fired.

@Sarahroo29 of course not. He's a liar and a bully. Kinda like Trump lol (Sorry, too soon?)

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I agree with the consensus here, so I won’t repeat it... I’ll just say, be strong, keep your dignity and integrity intact, and one cannot be emotionally blackmailed or extorted if one does not engage in it . Honestly, you have nothing to prove ... to him, I mean... any chance someone like that gets to try to get you to engage is a full on victory for them, to get you to “defend yourself”... no need to defend yourself from bull^}%%}. I know sometimes that’s easier said than done, and I wish you all the best, and I hope you realize that blocking it , going to your boss proactively, is certainly a testament to your capacity to disengage. All the best to you ... feel free to message me ...

If anything she used to or does like me that way.

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I suppose hiring some goons to rough the man-child up is not a good Idea.

that's a good idea anyway

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Hi Sarahroo29,

I read your request for advice and the one problem is that none of us are law enforcement or attorneys. The best thing you can do is contact your local DA. Which in Colorado Springs is Dan May's office. I would also avoid telling your boss, unless your "ex" or one of his cronies approaches her. Do not alarm her about something that may not happen. If anyone approaches your boss you can take legal actions against them. Good luck, and remember friendly advice is no substitute for professional counsel. Dan May's website is ...
[4thjudicialda.com]

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Get a lawyer ASAP

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Learn how to shoot.

I can shoot semi-autos and handguns.

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Oh please, the guy is quite off the rails of common sense. That's what lesbians arte waiting for, dating advice from seperated husbands.,
My advice: never talk to this guy again, in any form of communicatuion.

He's blocked.

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Go forward before he gets a chance to. Report him to your boss.

I did. He didn't even call. What a POS.

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Violence and counter manipulative actions are not worth the advice people are giving. Go directly to your boss and tell her what is going on and the threat that you live under and she will understand and even console you herself. Honesty is always the best policy.

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Talk with your boss and stop talking to the dbag. I also recommend getting mace and learning how to throw a punch but my friends tell me I can be a bit aggressive lol

I know how to shoot. (My last post)

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What is concerning me is how problematic relationships are still to the forefront of your life.You have every right to walk a tightrope over a very deep valley, you are more likely to fall and hurt yourself than if you walked into your local shopping mall.

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I would mention at work that you are having serious problems with him, and that he is unstable. You don't need to go into details, but if they are broadly aware of the situation then if he does try anything they'll see him for what he is and it won't reflect badly on you.

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Talk to your boss, tell what happened and exactly what he's threatening you with..also Save the messages...and bring charges against him.

Yep.

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I suggest you get a restraining order with a warning from the judge to keep away from your work

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I think you have much more leverage on the dirty low life scum. I also think he's just trying to press your buttons and full of shit. also, there is not, whether true or false anything wrong with having feelings as you haven't said anything. it's just hearsay. I mean if it came to it you could say to your boss that it's not true and why would you believe a sex offender who is blackmailing you.

She may be flattered. She kinda likes me. She calls me her little sister.

it's all good then

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If anything I think she likes me. Or used to, that way.

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The best defense is a good offense. be tough, don't back down, make sure he knows you won't. hang in there you can do it.

Thanks.

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restraining order?

He didn't threaten my life. I can't get one.

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Never allow anyone to blackmail you. Cover your ass, tell your boss about his threats.
Refuse to succumb to his manipulations. Don't get scared, get mad. Anger can be a
fantastic motivator. And as so many others have suggested, get that restraining order.
Forewarned is fore-armed. That said, try not to be alone until you're sure he's been neutralized. Be around other people as much as you can. Don't let him get you alone, no matter what he says. Good luck, keep us posted. Stay safe.

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She is an exhaustive ? If so think she will handle with tack. You might mention there is a breakup disagreement and you are getting flack.

What?

@Sarahroo29 My mistake Executive

@Sarahroo29 Was in the middle of building my kids rabbits a hutch the old one turned to junk. Just bought like 2 months ago wasted 100$. I should have just built my own in the first place. Was trying to type in a hurry when I was taking a 5er.

She's a GM.

@Sarahroo29 Pretty much protocol with hipaa laws privacy is for GM she can't discuss the issue with you unless you opt. She technically can't approach you with it unless it is a life threatening issue. So even if for whatever reason he were to tell her some nonsense true or not she can't act on them because of federal regulations.

He didn't call. None of my managers have messaged me about a call.

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can you get a restraining order?

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My boss messaged me and said I can't get fired for him calling. I left out what he would say. It's all good now.

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Thank you all for great advice and help! 🙂

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Thank you all for the great advice and help.

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