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What items on a person’s profile here make them an easy ‘Nope!’ for dating?

Browsing members, reading comments, posts; I found a few with instant turn offs for me.
Religious/Believer/Spiritual
(Spiritual as defined here- belief in a supernatural entity)
‘Hookups’ listed
Member of conservative groups

Certainly there’s more to weigh within the profiles but these are instant Nope! for me.
How about you?

AmiSue 8 Sep 18
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I concur with most of your reasoning. The biggest one for me, would be complacency. If someone, through their posts, shows an inability to alter their world views when confronted with new ideas, that's the no go for me. Cognitive dissonance is frankly disgusting IMO.

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As soon as someone starts to get demanding and tell what they will and will not tolerate I kind of head the other direction. I understand that people have their needs likes and dislikes I just don't like it expressed in an arrogant uncompromising Style

@AmiSue gosh no I thought you were quite polite I was just trying to honestly answer your question

I won't tolerate smokers because I have a very negative reaction to smoke. If that makes someone head the other way, that's fine. We wouldn't work out anyway and we just saved each of us some time.

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Learned a little viewing this thread... The first thing that comes to my mind is any Trump fan... But I doubt you'd find many here anyway.

Some people should lighten up... But I guess that''s just me

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Republican, Trump fan, religious........

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Not as much of it found here as tinder n other dating apps/sites but: conservative, religious, kids at home, eat pray and live laugh love, and nevertheless she persisted are becoming red flag memes lately... Pictures of her letting a dog kiss her on the mouth/lick her face are disturbingly common too, that's incredibly gross (unless its a spontaneous puppy kiss but these are usually big dogs that they seem to be practically making out with daily, gag me with a spoon.)

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Anyone who rejects the love of JESUS CHRIST Our Savior and GOD Our Father!

I do very poorly here. 😟

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A guy contacted me, I looked at his profile and found there a Pro-Trump, anti-socialist rant. I politely wrote him back "Thanks for contacting me, I don't think we are going to be compatible, and good luck to you" and he wrote back

"Crap, Your(sic) a liberal Turd" ...

I thought to myself .... What kind of people are these?

Name-calling? How immature, uncivil and totally uncalled for!

Those are the type of people I would block from all interaction. Don't need their hatefulness toward others who don't worship the orange anus!!

@Commonsense I remain ever hopeful and optimistic!

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Smoker.
Member of any organized religion, with a possible exception for Buddhism.
Trump supporter, or other right wing connections.

While not an absolute 'Nope,' I prefer dating someone who does not drink alcohol or use weed, especially excessively.

I also find bad grammar to be a turn off (but bad Gramma can be a different story 😉 ).

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In every picture a woman is showing off her breasts or way to much cleavage modest is hottest that's all I'm saying

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The ones which say they are here to meet men and have no photo. That makes absolutely no sense. When they do post photos, attempt a smile in at least one photo. Some folks look like they are in a lineup. If they love to camp, that is a no. I do like hiking. No hunters. I don't care if they are perfect in every other way.

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Indications that they are addicted to a political identity that requires them to accept whatever their leaders declare to be true; no matter how absurd. They are on the fringes of the Right and Left but much more so on the left.

Finding anyone who truly thinks for themselves based on facts, independent study and personal experience over the pap dished out by parties and the press is nearly impossible; but one can hope.

Like the old saying: "Live in hope, die in despair."

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Separated
Hookup/short term
Conservative/Republican
Anything southern..Rebel flag/Southern Proud (u know that's a racist)
"Been clean for almost 2 months"
Gun Lover.. (again, more than likely.. racist or conservative)
Yep.. run away!

Question: Is it a turn off if hookup is listed with all of the other options. Like I just button mashed on that section because I'm open to many possibilities. I could be user-friendly to the right person, but I don't want to advertise that at the expense of something meaningful. What are your thoughts?

@JamesOliver7 well.. my thoughts. I am always looking for something that has the potential for growth and I like to know what I am getting into right from the start. When I view the selection "hookup".. I tend to pass on by. I'm not looking for the type of Tender or POF experience. Totally understand we are just animals, but.. not only am I looking for sex, I am looking for compatibility and a potential friend for more than a night.

@MaryEliz So if hookup is selected along with the other options, it's a no go? I may consider de-selecting it if that is the case. I would hate to miss out on something meaningful if being open to a casual encounter is going to repel people.

@JamesOliver7 ahhhh.. don't change it because of me.. lol.. I'm odd.. and have been divorced for a really long time.. and haven't had any success with dating. So.. maybe I shouldn't pass up the "hookup" selection.

@MaryEliz Don't dismiss yourself so easily. We're all odd. Maybe when you see that, you see a potential bait and switch. Maybe other people see the same thing. It seems reasonable. I doubt I'm missing much by turning it off.

Will be clean tomorrow work?

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cigarette smoker, excessive drinking, separated (get divorced before going looking for another), trump supporter, repub, AR-15 user or supporter, displaying the confederate flag, non animal lover, climate change denier, those who disparage Democrats or Liberals, fox news watcher, people who fat shame when they are fat!, trophy hunters, someone that doesn't read books, people just looking for sex, and finally anyone who is involved with organized religion.

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