What do I want? I'm happy single... so there are no needs on my list. What do I want in a partner? That is a rather long list. Obviously I have to be physically attracted. This though is not so important as it was in my youth. After all, I know from having lived a rather tumultuous life that physical parts of a relationship can be there or not there at times. So what then? If all you have is a nice horizontal mambo partner, things will fall apart.
A best friend is what I seek. Someone who can hang out with me laughing at a local dive or offer his arm at a symphony. Someone who can sit next to me on the sofa and do his own thing as I knit or who has his own hobbies. He must have his own mind, his own life and be stable.
There is some odd magic to a match... something rare that both feel. How many times do we meet someone who is nuts about us while we feel nothing or the other way around?
I'm not sure I will ever feel that magic again... I don't depend on it... I simply wish for it.
anyway... I'm glad to be here with this community as it is not a cheesy dating site. I've had my fill of those.