My ex wife was convinced to leave me and get a lawyer who convinced her to make some horrible accusation against me. She started the ball rolling for a battle that could have easily lasted years and cost hundreds of thousands of dollars.
But after getting over the initial shock I chose not to be angry and convinced her that a battle would only be damaging to our daughter and that she, our daughter should be our priority and reason not to have this battle.
Fortunately she conceded and all charges were dropped and the lawyers were dismissed.
This was made possible because I chose not to be angry and instead focused to deescalate the situation.
And I chose to forgive, not only to be a good example to my daughter but because holding onto anger is only damaging to me.
But I write this question because I have had friends who are shocked and can not believe I am able to forgive not only what was done but to forgive the enormity of what might have been done to me. And my response is always the same, forgiveness is a gift to myself, not the person I am forgiving. I do this as an atheist, as apposed to my ex wife who is Catholic and still has not forgiven me for perceived pains more that 20 years old.
Are you able to forgive the wrongs done against you and how and why do you forgive?
Do you practice forgiveness because of the lessons of religion or is to forgive or not forgive just in your nature?