If you date someone younger you'll be too mature and accomplished for them, and if you date someone older you'll be in a different stage in life or be trying to catch to them. I say this making assumptions, but there is always a range on age like 3 years or so. Don't base your interests solely on age but a composite of values.....
also you find people by going to areas where people hang out that you also like to hang out. You'll likely find someone you can interact with then get a form of contact and see if you can hang out in the future.

you`re 21 what have you been doing till now? and generally speaking you don't get people

First: Have a face.

That's helped many of us.

Find like minded people wherever they meet up.

no one can tell you the age of the person you should date. no one even knows whom you're going to meet much less how old she will be!

meanwhile, a girlfriend isn't someone to get. it's not like buying a tv. you make friends. some friends will be female. don't try to make someone your girlfriend. instead, find out whom you like and who likes you. then you'll get the idea of maybe doing some stuff together, like going to a movie or eating out or whatever. it's better to let it happen than to make it happen.

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Umm... be around women, and be yourself. Really, you're probably better off not having the mindset of getting a girlfriend. But you need to engage with others, not necessarily just women, but where women are. I know it can be difficult if you're an introvert (I am one), but it was a lot easier mingling with people when I was your age.

Hi, Defaultdan, and welcome to the website!

Didn't you ever like a girl in high school and maybe asked her if she wanted some ice cream, or took her to the movies? Maybe you're on the asexual spectrum, since most cis hetero men know what they want, and go after it.

Young men who date older women are usually looking for someone with money and a house who will take care of them and will be happy just to have a "toy boy."

If you date someone your age, you will probably have to spend money to impress her..take her to dinner, or just for walks, whatever it is you both like to do. Then if you finally do move in together, even if she has a job, you will be likely expected to pay bills and take responsibility for household chores, fixing things, etc.

By the way, this website has a bit of a learning curve, so here's some info, in case you need it.

For members who are open to dating, certain thumbnails and profiles have a heart symbol on them with a percentage. This identifies which members are open to dating, and the percent shows approximately how compatible others are with them.

You gain website points by answering all the profile questions and writing a bio, which also earns website points, and helps other members get to know you.

Commenting on posts and writing your own posts earns more points. At level two you can private message people, and at level eight you get an agnostic T-shirt.

If you want to date, the website uses profile algorithms to find member matches, so the more details one includes, the better the match.

Many people prefer to see a written profile talking about interests, hobbies, and backgrounds that can be quickly perused to find others with similar interests..

In case you didn't know yet, to find members near you, click on the "Browse" button at the top of the page, then on "Members," and enter your preferred search parameters.
Click on the "Discuss" button, then "Nearby" to find members near you also.
Or click on the "About" button at the top left of the page to find links to FAQ or the website tutorial.

You can check for local events on the "Events" tab in the drop-down menu under the "Discuss" button, above.

Points are now being given to level 3+ members who chat. You can see chat rooms on the group main page.