I recommend the book Codependent No More. It it's very insightful!

Take your time, realize your boundaries and preserve protect them and never sacrifice them!

It is great that you are feeling again after such a long time. Give this new romance a chance to grow and change before you worry what it is exactly.For now, enjoy the passion

Takes about 2 years for "honeymoon" effect to subside. Keep fucking until then and ask again in about 2-3 years.
You said it yourself, don't rush it!
"Hang out, have fun and hookup."
-Corey Wayne

Not much to add to all the other comments. They were good, weren't they. Take your time and enjoy, be careful and be selfish you've more than earned the right. You don't have to be married or even committed to be happy so just be happy.

time will tell so keep doing what you're doing as either is great.

Don't knock lust.

Without it, we would never start down the relationship road with the smelly socks and stupid questions and irritating laughs and crazy decisions and bad sense of humour and old flames and poor financial sense and bad taste in clothes ......

There is no "the one", there is only "its hard but they are worth it".

You are living again! Crying, having sex, FEELING! I am very jealous. I hope to be where you are in a few months. I understand your trepidation because you're not sure if you trust your own feelings. Have made a few missteps myself recently. There is some good advice here on your post about what big things to avoid. It's ok not knowing where this relationship is going. I'm guessing you're like me and didn't expect to be going through this kind of stuff at our age but falling on our faces with this kind of stuff is normal. Got some good advice about these issues from some good and insightful people on this site and am trying to allow myself these stumbles and falls. Congratulations!

From everything I've learned, until you are a good 12-18 months in, you're pretty much riding a hormone high. In other words, lust. Very natural. Very real. Lots of fun and lots of sex. And a really really bad time to make big or life-changing decisions. Have fun and try to resist figuring out what stage you are in. Live your life and just try to be cautious about big decisions.

Welcome to our little site and may you find... friendship, wisdom, fun and happiness among equals in our little place. Just be yourself... Why it as to be either? You got out of 30 bad years so anything coming behind will look better and feel better. Take your time... let him win the race of who is marrying first again. I had been divorced for 18 years. Not once did I felt I wanted to be married again. And I had met sexual matches (important to me), dancing matches (pro ballroom dancer), soul mate (who wouldn't want that). Take it easy and let the chips fall. Just do not hurry anything. Breathe your Freedom and Enjoy a little bit. If it is... you will know eventually.

If it was love, you wouldn't even need to ask us. Trust your instincts here.

I took at least 3 years to become myself again after my 32 year marriage was over...if you had asked me, after18 months or so, I would have confidentially asserted I was fine...but 10 years later, hindsight lets me see Clearly that I was Not! Be kind to yourself, enjoy good moments because you deserve them, but make NO legal commitments!

Lust is good. Why quibble?

There is lust. but love grows. The trick is what happens when the lust has faded, say 18 months. Then you find out whether there is love. IMHO. Please, never take any notice of what I say.

It could be either or both. Take your time. Don’t rush into things. Keep your eyes open.

Love or lust, I am delighted that you are experiencing something special that you are enjoying with the man in your life at this time.

It is common to have a transition relationship even if you are positive this isn't, you might be wrong. One year isn't long enough to recover from a 30 year relationship. Have fun, tread lightly and take your time.

Probably lust but with any luck at all you'll successfully make the transition Good Luck!

Stick with lust. If it's 'love', you can take your time finding out.
Your "glow" is probably from all the extra blood circulation.
Well done!!!