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Is it possible to fall in love with someone with opposing political views?

Is it possible to fall in love with someone with opposing political views? I was asked this question today and found it rather difficult to answer and dependent upon the definition of 'love'.

Grumpy 5 Nov 22
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No. You will wake up one day look over and ask yourself, "What the fuck was I thinking!"

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I think it's possible for me as long as the person is kind and compassionate. I have a very divided family politically and nastiness can come from both sides really, but so can kindness, humility, and compassion. I've dated on both sides of the isle. But there does need to be a level of compatibility for small differences to work.

Margaret Sanger American Atheist when she died married decades before rich baptist businessman who adored her every move PLANNED PARENTHOOD INTERNATIONAL

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In true love, such little differences doesn't even bother, rather you enjoy all the bantering of the differences.

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I'd rather not.

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No.

James Carville&Mary MatLin have 2 children she worked for dead 41 Prz Bush and he 4 the Clintons

@GreenAtheist Thank you. I couldn't remember Carville and Matalin's names.

@ailurophile she is condescending in public at least towards her little boy while he always has a skowl face .....can't say they look like they're in love but a divorce would be world news.....Billary was a Goldwater girl in her teens and Willie protégé of Fulbright& a grand wizard. .....

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I think it depends on the issue and on how extreme the views are.

Agreed

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Yes it is, but you are building an inherently problematic aspect into the relationship. Kind of like dating someone who doesn’t want kids when you do. You can be in love, but there is a built in conflict

Myah Level 6 Dec 1, 2018

Most Atheists are in mixed marriages and this is proof love conquers political/theocratic challenges. ...our species is NURTURANT we're hardwired to love and cuddle....voting booths are not bedrooms nor maternity wards

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Maybe. I'm in love with a believer that I've
known for over a year and yet have never met her. I even think she would marry me but we both might be better off not to.

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Lust maybe. Love no.

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Don't see why not, unless you regard their political views as morally wrong. I've broken off contact with a friend who has turned into an ethno-nationalist and therefore could not be in a relationship with someone like that but if I was with someone who believed that alcohol should be prohibited, which I don't, then it wouldn't be a major problem because I can respect their argument even though I don't agree with it. I wouldn't regard it's prohibition as being immoral, but I certainly wouldn't regard forcibly deporting non-indigenous people as in any way something I could live with.

WayT Level 1 Nov 27, 2018
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Of course it is but why would you choose to do it? How would you have respect for someone who has opposing views about things you feel strongly about? Obviously you will have some opposing views but they should not be about your core principles and values.

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Yes but I'll admit, if I were single, I might not marry my husband again.

I am single seeking a mate who values a shared global peace musical green tech vision

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Yup. My wife is a staunch republican. I'm an independent.

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Its certainly possible, but may not be wise.

Is peacemaking unwise with our oppressors? I see many women in bad marriages so why do they marry ?

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Yes.

Marz Level 7 Nov 24, 2018
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Of course it’s possible. But, you do need some common interests, common values and compatible habits.

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My mother was a Southern Baptist Republican and my dad was an athiest socialist and I never heard them even have cross words with one another until I was 18. I was so shocked when dad raised his voice a bit at mom I feared a divorce was imminent but that was the last of it (at least in the presence of us kids) until they got old and mom had to nag dad to basic tasks when he would forget. We had as happy a house as anyone I ever heard of. They had been married over 60 years when dad died. It is possible as this illustrates but I don't think I could have done it.

I had a similar situation growing up.

My late husband was not of my political ilk, but we surpassed that. Now, decades later, I'd have to say I don't think I could stomach a staunch believer (practicing whatever) or a Trump supporter. A conservative, yes. A Trump supporter, not on your life. When my youngest daughter told me she thought she'd met the man of her dreams, she also told me he was religious. She was worried that might effect my opinion. I told her no, but that if he was a Trump supported, that would be a deal breaker. She laughed out loud. 🙂

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Why not? Alas if we only loved people who are similar to us...

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Fall in love with?....Maybe. The heart is a wild creature and often does things we don't want it to.

Marry? Nope.

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I would say it is. The hard part is to stay in love with that person of a long period of time.

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I find interesting that diversity and inclusion is a big chunk of a side of the aisle on the political spectrum, everything but one thing. How inclusive that really is?

@Veteran229 how can we get out of this viscious circle?

@Veteran229 there has to be a better way

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Not for me. We need to have the same values.

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Not for me. They have to be liberal or at worst, center left. I would have no problem with a believer who didn't go to church ( and I have done that more than once ) than a conservative.

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Yes, but it depends how verbal they are about it.
There is someone I won't ever take seriously because they're batshit crazy with their ideas. "Commie this, commie that" , socialism this, socialism that." So they're friendzone.

Late dh in his one issue youthful voter cluelessness voted for GW in '00. I cried.
"it's just an election" he said.
Boy did he regret it every time W opened his mouth.

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Right now I'd be more likely to date someone who identifies as religious than Republican.

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