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Is it possible to fall in love with someone with opposing political views?

Is it possible to fall in love with someone with opposing political views? I was asked this question today and found it rather difficult to answer and dependent upon the definition of 'love'.

Grumpy 5 Nov 22
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Yes why not

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It's possible to fall in love with anyone. Can it be sustained if there is stark differences in religious, political, cultura, agel or language differences? I have seen relationships work with these differences, but it takes a lot of give and take, understanding and acceptance to overlook these chasms. In other words, both people have to be equally in love with each other and able to find commonalities in other areas as well as joy in each other's company. I would say that your starting the relationship with a handicap and that few can survive, but it's not impossible. One need look no further than Kellyanne Conway, Trump's most loyal supporter and her husband, who lambasts Trump on social media on a regular basis.

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Not for me. I am committed to social justice, equality, and end to misogyny, racism, homophobia, inter alia. Anyone who does not share those values simply will not register for me.

Well put ... we have our neebs but sometimes there is a greater calling

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There are people that are able to do this. My worldveiw and values are demonstrated in the political values I have. I guess for some people that are not as passionate, it would be fine. I think the increasing polarization over the "New Guy." and crew makes it more difficult to be with someone that has opposing poltics.

I am as passionatr with the world conditon as i am making love and the coup is having both

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I think you can. And may open to a debate for when the couple is bored. Just remember what is most important... and a debate mustn't have a winner.

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It's possible to be romantically attracted to anyone with whom you have that base-level chemistry. But once that starts to fizzle and reality settles in, I think that for the most part, you have to be bound by similar values and ethics—morals, if you will. Political affiliation used to not be so closely aligned with core values. In fact, there was a time when the only difference between Republicans and Democrats was that the former were more fiscally conservative—it was just business. Times have indeed changed.

I suppose it's possible to spend a life with someone, as long as you were in a highly traditional, gender-roled marriage in which the little missus kept her mouth shut about such things and voted the way her husband voted, regardless of how she felt about it. But for couples who marry because they love each other ...?

I don't see how it would be possible for me to love someone who chortled and thumbs-upped after a seven-year-old Guatemalan child died in U.S. custody. Or who championed illegal, destructive, racist behavior by the leaders of our land.

I've always felt for a couple to last, they must have a similar value base. It will affect every part of their lives.

Margaret Sanger married a baptist businessman he just adored her and paid for her plane tickets building up PLANNED PARENTHOOD INTERNATIONAL....she belonged to American Atheists the day she died and she drank champagne in her deathbed when Bill Baird won of his cases

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If one's definition of love doesn't include (political) values, then yes of course.

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Fall in love, maybe. Have a long-term meaningful relationship, I doubt it. But, it depends upon the gap between your views, how strongly each person holds their views, why they hold their views, and other factors. If I wanted to find someone who shares my political views closely and was female, my target market would consist of only .0003% of the world's population. Or, in the U.S.A., only about .01% of the population. Of course, if I wanted it bad enough, I know where to find some...

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I know of a staunch Republican and a staunch democrat who have been married for 48 years so I supposed so.

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I'm sure I could never do it. Love has to include similar value systems.

The closer to the cutting edge of history we get POLITICS MAKES STRANGE BEDFELLOWS...this shutdown may yield Medicare4ALL if Pelosi can give up her bribes from insurance CEOs...she just lost her free ride to NATO hq in Belgium playing bluff with billionaire TrumpOLINI.....yes kids are dying on the border AND ALL 45 PRESIDENTS are racists to us Cherokee....Hoover Vice President was for decades called "injun" in Congress his DADDY British and mama KAW TRIBE....HOOVER & MRS HOOVER played Quaker missionaries while stealing gold by the boatloads for BRITISH....people sleep for money where the money is

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I started really liking someone and when I realized they were not on my side it kinda messed with my feelings. I say NO. We simply didn't think alike.

I have been betrayed so many times by xian women who married my bed not my head

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Possible? Yes. Likely to last? From my experience, sadly no.

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I think it's possible, but it depends on how important political views are to you. Can you discuss politics with someone with an opposing viewpoint calmly even if you don't agree? If you are die-hard and passionate about certain viewpoints and stances that they don't agree with, can you agree to disagree and not harbor resentment? I think it depends on how you both feel about politics and if it will be a point of contention. You have to let the political views be second to your relationship. I do think this is possible. If there is someone you have in mind right now, think about all the qualities you like and dislike. Do the pros outweigh the cons and can you live with the negatives (there will always be negatives because no one is perfect)?

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No. I want a man who shares my values.

Carville & Matlin have 2 children and she talks down to him like an errant little boy. ...politics makes strange bedfellows. ...spies sleep with the enemy. ...it's a political skill....Cokie&Steve Roberts Huey Long Catholic and Jewish reporter lead parallel xmas&hannukka lives. ...we all get what we want from who agrees to love

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There is no love in politics lol!

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Absolutely. Request res utmost maturity and acceptance of partner, who entitled to their own opinion without judgement,

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Of course it is, as long as you don't talk about it.

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in the US probably not...everywhere else it is probably fine

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As long as they're not a trump supporter.

I've tried to avoid any reference to politics in Trumpland. Here in Northern Ireland we have our own political madness.

That's for sure! I was there this summer and northern Ireland is fucked up. Interesting history and sites, but talk about government control and propaganda.

I’d have a lot more trouble putting up with a Obama/Hillary supporter than a Trump supporter.

@Trajan61 , That's strange coming from from someone who lives in a town called Clinton.

@chucklesIII Despite the name it’s a very conservative town and Trump carried it handily.

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If you are shallow and truly do not think about things in depth, then yes.

EMC2 Level 8 Dec 16, 2018
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What does caring about someone to the point of falling in love with that person have to do with their politics??? In choosing a partner I might consider first their skepticism and agnosticism (that is their willingness to question all things and reconsider their stance when presented with new information). My politics are very different than they were some years ago. Life is a process. Our positions can change as we change. Why shut out someone you might have something really good with?????? If I were at polar opposite sides of the spectrum with my partner I would appreciate her individuality and the fact that she has convictions and a well considered worldview. Its not about a position, its about a person?.

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I will fall in love to a beautiful person. Beautiful means to me to have enough good character in you
This could differ from person to person what you are lookin for.

Everything you don‘t like, as example political or religious views and ambitions, opposite life style, musical taste etc. makes the person uglier in your eyes, even if it’s optical the most beautiful person.

I will enjoy my relationship, without stressful conversations.

Yucel Level 3 Dec 14, 2018
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With love comes mutual respect (in my book at least). I'm not sure I have an answer for you. Still thlnking about it.

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No way. Political views are a proxy for empathy, and I couldn't abide someone without empathy.

Orbit Level 7 Dec 11, 2018
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I love a good debate and would rather be with someone who knows their own mind regardless if I agreed or not

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