I found this interesting link about the confessions of a funeral director and a pastor’s disagreement about the cremation of the body. I found it to be quite hypocritical, considering the history of all the victims being burned by the church in history.
I feel like I've taken up enough space on my time on earth alive, no reason to keep a spot occupied by me for eternity.
My family came from the south. They were all emphatic about having a designated place where people could pay their respects...but when I think of the loved ones I have lost, I don't think of their gravestone or them being in a cemetery or mausoleum, I think of memories. I don't need a specific place or day to remember them.
I told my family to give everything away that they can, cremate the rest of me and then it's all up to them.
I have always wanted to be cremated. I told people who will hopefully outlive me that I don't care if they hold a funeral for me in a cardboard box. I'll be dead. It matters not to me. Funerals are for the living. Save your money on a metal or wooden box and a burial that's not worth thousands of dollars. Use the money to live. I've always thought Viking funerals were pretty majestic.
There's a theory about cremation. Being cremated enables the "soul" to be free and not have evil spirits attach itself to the soul that's trapped in the body, or something like that. Nice thought. Doubt that's real either lol
Cremation seems like the most practical choice. You don't waste space and it's cheaper. You are taking your memories of me with you, not my body. Get rid of the fucker!
There are exposure traditions as well as cremation/burial traditions(the antithesis of Antigone) and also a nautical path of burial at sea.
This is a good prompt to get me to discuss eventualities with my kids. My culture (not theology) is Jewish and I know about the theological stance and am not bound.
Another thought: I'm a performing storyteller and I tell many family and autobiographical stories. One is about my mother--her life and her death. She always aspired to higher education but it wasn't her lot. But she arranged for an "anatomical donation"--her body went to the medical school at the University of Chicago (and would ultimately be cremated). So when she died, (as executor) I honored her arrangement. Some people were shocked.
"How could you?"
I would always answer with true filial piety and as much solemnity as I could muster: "Well, you know, my mother always wanted to go to the U of C."
A Green/Natural burial is an option in at least two states I've lived in.
Cremation after organ donation, ashes to go into the firebox of a working steam locomotive and up the stack! It happens more than you realize I found out from a friend recently.
Ashes to ashes as they say. And I already have my biodegradable tree growing urn! Ashes in the urn, seed in the top and plant it, water it, and a maple tree shall grow. I told my son when all those little propeller seeds come down, and the leaves in the fall, they will be cursing me out for decades! ??
Cremation.......its too damn expensive for my family to put me in a hole.
I have been a fan of the Tibetan Sky Burials. Since I have used most of my life consuming that which was made by nature, it would only be far to let nature have its turn consuming me. Of course after any useful has been harvested for those in need. Although human taxidermy should be a viable option. Who wouldn't want an Uncle Bob coat rack in the foyer? Just guess where you could hand the hat.
Planning a "green burial." One of my friends owns some land in the country. There is a cemetery that only has two burials – infants who died around 1860. A green burial means just like those children were buried. Dig a hole at least 3 feet deep and roll my earthly remains back into the earth. The funeral industry has a powerful lobby, but some type of green burial is allowed in most states. Further info: greenburialcouncil.org.
I don't care. I'm an organ donor, what happens after that is up to my BFF, my executor, and my girlfriend / wife if I have one at the time.
When I die, I've let everyone in my family know my plans, in the hopes of cutting off people surviving me who think they know better than I what I really want (trust me, it happens). I carry a card in my wallet from a nearby medical school that states upon my demise my body is to go to their school for a period of one year. After that time, I'll be cremated and the ashes returned to my wife, should she still be living. It's the least expensive option for my survivors, and I like the thought that I'll be helping medical students gain valuable hands-on experience.
My mother wanted this for herself, but when the time came I was out-voted by other family members who were dismayed by her choice. "Do you realize what they do with those bodies?" they asked. Actually, I do. Among other things they cut out pieces of you and pass them around the room for show and tell. A few, to relieve their nervousness, probably make crude remarks. And they all see you in all you're dead, naked glory. It wouldn't have bothered her, and it won't bother me. Nevertheless, the rest of the family voted to have her cremated immediately, which may have settled their queasiness, but did nothing to respect the wishes that she had made clear for years.
So the answer is -- eventually -- cremation.