When you're feeling down and out, what do you do to combat loneliness?
I like to go for walks in a park, and try to surround myself with people I am close with. It helps, but regardless I am still lonely. Sigh
Judging by the answers I've read here, I must be a real freak. I rarely feel lonely. Usually there are too many damned humans in the way. On the rare times that I do feel lonely, I grab a good book, play a little guitar and sing about how I don't like people, or get some rocks and make a few stone arrowheads. I wish I had something better for you
Loneliness is something that's been with me for a big part of my life. Part of it is situational, part of it is internal. I'm learning more and more to be a friend to myself when I am alone so I don't feel so lonely -- and to be more engaged when I'm with other people so I can recognize the people I truly connect with, versus just being around someone because I'm afraid of being alone, because that can only make me feel more lonely. To ease the feeling, I may wrap myself in a blanket and lay down with a good book, movie, or tv show; make a cup of tea; take myself outside or to a place where there are other people; give myself an "artist's date," where I walk around and take in my surroundings; I may call a friend, and if I'm feeling particularly vulnerable, lean a little bit more on one I feel close to.
Sometimes we can feel alone when surrounded by our friends. Alone is a place in our minds where we feel that no one really understands us and we don't feel close to anyone. I spend time on-on-one with friends with a bottle of wine and conversation for a couple of hours. The only requirement I have (for myself) is complete and total honesty, and the willingness to discuss anything with my friend. It's contagious and my friends open up, too. Do that a few times and you know there are at least a few friends who love and accept you for who you are. I have not felt alone since beginning that practice, and it's such an amazing experience that now other friends are wanting to join me. It takes an tremendous amount of trust between two people to do this. It's totally worth the risk.