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How to respond to those who say they will pray for you?

How do yall respond or feel about those who say to you, "I'll pray for you" or "you're in my prayers"? I understand that for that person, it's how they show that they care, but if they know that you are not religious, then are they being almost condescending?

AnnaMD 5 Dec 28
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Just say thank you and move on. It works for me.

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I say “Thanks”. No need to take offense at a kind gesture.

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I tell them that is creepy and don't tell me.

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No need to dust up at an act of concern, even if the way they express their concern is mostly bogus.

The arbitrary nature of God is more genuine than any "prayer" of the faithful. If those of faith want to pray over anything, they should try their hand at exercising free will then take their chances that their god will be as merciful as they like to think their god is.

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Well if they pray for me to make whats call god forgive me i will be happy cause they are not those type of assholes who thinks other believers or atheist should go to hell, but if they pray for me to join their religion to get away from hell i will be mad cause they think that i deserve to go to hell for ever just because i don’t believe in their bullshit . Please forgive my bad English

your English is just fine......be proud you are bi-lingual.....

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I just don't bother with their prayers, but as I am polite and they don't mean wrong, I just say "thanks"...

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I believe in each to their own and good intention, all good wishes would be welcome.

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Depends if they're genuine or not. If they are, I'd just politely say thank you

mxelh Level 2 Jan 1, 2019
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My standard comment is, thank you I appreciate your concern.

GbRu Level 4 Jan 2, 2019
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I usually do one of these 3 things. 1 to ignore their comment, 2 to thanks them, just to be polite or 3_ tell them you don't believe on that bs.. Because you know it doesn't work.. So it depends on who is telling you. I mean, do you know the person very well? Does the person know you very well. It's a respectful person, smart, educated or a stupid ignorant.. So there are many aspects to considerate..

Happy New Year for every one..!

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Thanks! And I'll ask my imaginary friend if he feels like doing you a favor when you're in need next time.

For anyone who is wondering, this is not how I would actually respond. But it's the first thing that goes through my head.

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Inside my head the reply to anyone that says they will pray for me is a single old Anglo Saxon word followed by off, but I usually manage to confine those words to the inside of my head and more often than not say why on Earth would you do that?

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I tell them: "Thanks, but I'm only accepting cash right now."

That's very good, will use that next time.

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Probably condescending, an all-too-prevalent characteristic of "Christians". Mindless babble. When I grow up, I'll be a hermit...hell (is such a word permissible here?), seeing where I live, I already am a hermit...but that growing up sucks. Tried it. No thanks, but I did try steamed oysters and have loved them since.

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Christian to agnostic vocabulary: prayers = positive thoughts, energy is energy. I'm a survivor of a pediatric brain tumor. I was raised in a "find your own truth" environment, we were close with lots of people who prayed for us to a god we didn't believe in. But good vibes are good vibes. Prayers help heal.

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That's okay, Odin watches over me, hes got shit covered

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Your God does not care about whoever believes in him, imagine to me that I do not believe in God.

ylma Level 5 Jan 3, 2019
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I don't think they mean to be condescending. They may just not know what to say, other than what they have said their entire life. If they know you are not of the same mindset, I would just ignore it and let them feel better for showing an interest in your well being. I, personally, would just say thank you and forget about it. If people try and "push" that type of philosophy on you, then it is probably time to speak up and make them aware that you would just as not discuss religion, as it is a very private thing to you, and no one needs to learn of your beliefs.

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A very kind and considerate way of showing love for someone.

You should embrace their caring with the intended good will!

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Same as when someone says bless you, happy birthday, or I’m so sorry to hear that... “thank you”. If they truly believe and don’t pray for you, that would make them a real asshole.... some people do it in a condescending or judgemental way, but most offer it kindly.

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I think it's out of genuine kindness most of the time and I just say thank you. It's honestly not worth getting into it with anyone. If they want to believe in magic beings that will make things better then ok.
They're all kind of like little kids that refuse to believe that Santa is not real.

SheRa Level 3 Jan 4, 2019

Good point

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I always tell people that it won’t do any good.

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Put your faith to work. Volunteer at a soup kitchen or a food pantry. Give a job to someone down and out. You can't help someone's condition with prayer.

Preach!!! Lmao

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They want you to feel the comfort and safety that comes with the belief in god. The idea that you are being protected by “greater forces” . It’s a false sense of security, but it’s security they value and by saying that, they want you to know that they value you.

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I don't say anything. When my friend says she prayed for me, I know she was just worried about me. Bringing it up, I think, would only have started to strain our relationship.

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