If someone messaged you and straight out asked to meet up would this be creepy and off-putting or a relief? I can never keep a conversation going for long online. I just feel so much more comfortable talking in person. Was thinking about messaging someone and asking to do lunch, but not sure how to go about it without being really weird.
I would expect to exchange a few messages first and I don't meet people who don't have a profile photo (or who won't share one beforehand).
I think wanting to meet "sooner than later" is a good sign. People who want to drag emailing out over the course of weeks don't seem serious about really meeting someone.
I wouldn't find it creepy. I do, however, think you should tell them a bit about yourself (likes/dislikes, things that are most important to you) and a recent photo. Include any potential deal-breakers in your message and just be honest about why you would like to meet IRL so quickly.
It depends really. Every person is different. If someone I didn't know and had never spoken to all of a sudden asked me out to lunch I would think I'm being catfished or something of the sort. If the person knows you and you have spoken already and perhaps even exchanged pictures then I would take it as flattery and someone taking the initiative if they asked me out.
It's only creepy if the person is a near-total stranger.
You at least need to know a little about the person, what they like, and what they look like to help decide if you actually want to meet them, and risk having your kidney's stolen.
Always meet in a public place the first time.
If somebody wrote me saying "Hey I saw checked out your profile. You seem cool. I really don't like relying on technology to get to know somebody. If you would be up for a casual lunch let me know. Oh, and here's a recent photo of me -- and a link to my Instagram so you can see I am a real person." I don't think that is creepy at all. But, I wouldn't go.
Messaged me? As in online. Yes, really creepy. Well, okay a little odd. 15 years ago it wasn't so strange, but now everyone has a cellphone and video chat is easy. There has to be more personal contact than just text or private messages before an in-person meeting.
It depends. If they live hundreds of miles away it'd seem a bit weird; if they're close and you've already discovered you have similar interests, then put the suggestion in a friendly way it wouldn't seem weird.
For example, if someone from the other end of the country who I'd only just started talking to messaged me and said "I'll fly over and we'll go for lunch" I'd think hang on a moment - that's a bit keen. Are you looking for your next victim? If we'd chatted a few times and I sensed they were genuine and they lived nearby and said "I go for lunch at Brown's cafe on Fridays, do you fancy a coffee if you can get out of work?" I'd probably go along.
In the first message, yes. Creepy and overly forward, After a few messages back and forth, establishing some commonalities and a little bit of a base to build a meeting on, I wouldn't think a thing of it, usually. If you have been messaging back and forth a bit, I would explain to your potential lunch date that you have an easier time conversing, face to face, and then ask if they might like to meet for lunch. I would likely take you up on it on those grounds (age difference aside of course). Lunch is short and non-threatening. It isn't like you're asking for a whole night of dinner, drinks, and dancing. Whatever you decide to do, I hope you have fun with it.
I like to set the tone by seeing a movie. boom got something to talk about after while eating. or go fishing. you have your hands full so ...idk gotta get out of the house once in a while. Just dooo it! most ppl are shallow and it'll take a while tho if you have a better character than looks. least that's what I have to do.
First I would be flattered. It wouldn't make me think it's creepy, but it might make me a little uncomfortable to be so quick. Think about someone coming up to you in the street without saying anything but, "Would you like to go out?". You at least need some ice breaking to get somewhat comfortable with the idea of going out with them.