This one is for all the pro-life people on here.
I have been pregnant 3 times. Each time I CHOSE to continue the pregnancy and accept the consequences. Two of my pregnancies resulted in healthy children. One ended because the fetus died.
Pregnancy,childbirth and child rearing come with an immense amount of risk and responsibility. The maternal mortality rate in the US is far higher than it has any right to be and climbing steadily. Furthermore there are numerous long term conditions associated with and resulting from pregnancy. Mental health issues, diabetes that can become permanent, injuries in childbirth and in my case the onset of autoimmune diseases.
Once you are a parent there are a whole new set of concerns. Can you work or otherwise support your family or must you be dependent on your spouse or family?What if something happens to them or they decide it's too heavy a burden?
If you do work,how do you balance caring for your child and doing your job effectively? We constantly see deeper and deeper incursions into the lives and rights of workers. What happens when your company decides that overtime or late hours are now mandatory?
Then there are opportunity costs. I have heard MANY administrators say things like " she has children,can she really handle the extra responsibility?" Strangely I have never heard this said of a man with children.
On top of all of this are the needs of that child. Can you make time for dr.s appointments and play dates and one on one time and enrichment classes and school plays and bake sales? Parenting is neverending and it is exhausting and no matter how hard you try you'll ALWAYS know you could have done it better.
No one should become a parent without understanding and enthusiastically accepting all of the risks and responsibilities that come with the title. No one should ever be FORCED to take all of that on. Particularly not to satisfy the beliefs and biases of those who do not understand the gravity of what they're demanding.