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I recently became single because my ex decided he couldn't live with my cat. Prior to this, he kept giving me ultimatums: the cat leaves or he does. Would any of you give up your pet to make somebody else happy?

ShabbyChicGirl 5 Mar 1
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Hell no. All cats are not evil. Here's my sweetie Heidi in her vintage doll bed. Pure love and sweetness. Boyfriend you're out. Don't let the door hit you in the butt.

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there is a country song where the wife is telling the guy her or fishing. The chorus is about how he is going to miss her when he gets back. I like my pets. Someone who is not interested in animals in general or pets would not be a good match for me. I would never ditch a pet for a two legger

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Sounds like good riddance. If he was allergic, then it's understandable but it's too much to ask. If he's not, then he's just a jerk.

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Her Royal Cuteness and I are a package deal. Have been since day one.
It's one of the reasons I had for ending my last attempt at a relationship. There were
other reasons, but he didn't want me bringing my dog when I'd spend the weekend.
She's been with me every day for almost the last twelve years. I'd never give her up,
for anyone. If someone cares about you, why would they want you to give up something
that makes you happy?

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Were they allergic? Was the cat doing something?

JeffB Level 6 Mar 1, 2018

LOL this made me laugh.
Kitteh is planning teh evil to find a better step parent, knocks things over and blames the BF LOL

@ShabbyChicGirl You kind of buried the lead there ???? fuck that dude

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If were we're just talking one pet, no. I have one cat. I wouldn't leave over that. I'm just not into people who want like, 5-10 animals. My ex wife was like that. That's not why we divorced either BTW. But I am happy I don't have to deal with all those pets anymore.

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I had a gf who was allergic to cats. My cat is also my son's cat. Midnight stays. Tough cookies.

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A relationship ought to be about how you make each other happy. If he feels that strongly, find out why. If you like the cat more, then give up on the person. I lost my wife a few years ago and looking back I would give up anything for her. I know a lot of woman expect the husband, after marriage, to give up watching too much football, or golf or poker with friends. To me, it's all the same. Loving someone means trying to compromise and to make each other happy. It ought not to be a contest of wills.

Geoff Level 5 Mar 7, 2018

Hi ShabbyChicGirl, I was speaking in generalities not knowing your situation. I am not asking you to sacrifice for him. I am saying we need to evaluate the relationship and our priorities. Clearly, from what you wrote, the cat is not the issue and that relationship is already doomed, cat or not. Best of luck.

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two chances, fat chance and no chance

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Give up Pook? no way.

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I would not, could not. Not even with a goat nor even on a boat. The pet stays.

SamL Level 7 Mar 2, 2018
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No way, not possible, could never happen.
I won't date women who don't like animals and stopped dating one when I found out she hated cats.

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He didn't love you to begin with. Sounds like the cat is a better lover then he was. Someone who dishes out ultimatums is looking for an excuse to ditch. If you dumped your cat, then it would be quit smoking, lose weight, take out the trash, etc.

zrez Level 4 Mar 1, 2018
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Never had a problem with pets.

However, my ex posted this after I left.....

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I did this one time never again!!! I will never be with someone who doesn’t share my love of cats,dogs,birds and whatever else I have in my life.
I come as a package deal !!!!
I would never expect anyone to give up a beloved pet.
I might not be the animals best friend but I would be good to it and care for it out of respect for the other person.

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The relationship wouldn't even start if she didn't love my dogs. Things like politics, religion and dogs get sorted-out before the first kiss. No match... no need for the kiss.

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Anyone who expects their partner to give up their pet for them is alarmingly selfish. It's no fun breaking up with someone, I know, but I'm thinking you dodged a bullet, honey. I don't think it would have gotten any better from there.

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Neeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeever

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Hell no.
You made the right choice.
Who soever loveth me, loveth my hound, cat, guinea pig, chicken, parrot

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My pet will always be first.

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If it’s any consolation, I wouldn’t live with your cat either.. James

Leon Level 5 Mar 5, 2018
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It depends. Like if he were allergic or really just scared of cats etc. then yes. If it were a symptom of a larger incompatibility, then no. So like many things in a relationship it is a judgement call.

That being said when you get an animal it is a lifetime commitment for that animals life. So I would not take it to the pound. I would find it a new home with the offer to take it back if the person couldn’t take care of it anymore, that way I could make sure it found another home instead of someone else potentially taking it to the pound. I would expect them to be understanding of this principle.

Myah Level 6 Mar 3, 2018

I am glad you stood up for yourself! 🙂

@ShabbyChicGirl

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I don't have pets, but I have a friend who gave away her children's cat to be with a new man. The children were really attached to the cat. It was pretty sad.

Why did your ex not want to live with the cat?

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Completely on your side. I would have made the same choice.

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