I like what you're doing .and I'm not in any ways sitting in my living room, actually I miss just sitting and have nothing to do, but I'm so busy with full time job, one child and college . And in all these places I meet and talk with people, but this not exactly the kind of friends I'm asking about

@Shaghaf firm deep friendships come from enjoying the same things & plannig to do them together, I see this all the time in the Club

Don't you think, people also become more picky and don't have time or enthusiasm to start new friendship !?

Thank you for your comment. I agreed that , in theory, age has nothing to do with the concept of friendship . And for sure socializing for me doesn't mean get drunk and all that stuff. The question might be also, where and how people socialize these days!! Through social media ?! Through sports events !? I mean I work full time, my job requires me to communicate with people from around the world, a lot of them we have few things on common, and I'm doing pretty well in my job, and I care about all of them . But I'm asking about the kind of friend we need when we feel down, the friend who cares about us, and who understands us without much talking .. I hope I could clarify my point ( with my broken English ?)

@Shaghaf Your English is just fine!

It is often hard to connect with people, especially if you're looking for depth in friendships. But this is a problem at any age these days. Also, according to the science I've read on the topic, there is a tendency to bond with people you have a shared experience with in college and then when you get out into the work world that is harder to come by. In earlier times church helped provide this social cohesion. Today we have to make do with volunteer work, special interest meetups, and whatever other introductions we can get from social media that might convert to real life.

I don't have a real answer other than probably don't try too hard ... let it happen organically and in the meantime do your best to be the kind of person you want in a friend, extend yourself to others, take risks, be creative. I would also say, don't discount the value of more casual friendships. Personally I get a lot of lift from just being around people doing fun things, even if they wouldn't necessarily have my back in a crisis. Such friendships are important, too.

I'm glad you mentioned that have made friendship with 4 women, I'm reading now an interesting book called " girlfriends- Enduring ties" talking how important is the friendship between women and how it's not recognized most of the time .

@kenriley awwwnnn ?.