If you were my daughter I would tell you,"He is just not into you".

No. He's not into you. It was only one date. No big emotional investment. "Just keep swimming swimming swimming. Just keep swimming swimming swimming". 'Sides, as you meet people, you'll not "be into" everyone you'll meet. Doesn't mean you're not good enough. Doesn't mean they're not good enough. Just means there was not a mutual romantic or emotional connection. shrug . Move on and keep on and just keep swimming.

It's never you, if they disappear, it's them, their loss. I've heard of people just ghosting others, as in, never replying again and just disappearing. It's as if they can't face truths and just be honest. He may very well have a genuine reason. I wouldn't sit on it too long. Keep an open mind and maybe set a time to start dating again. Good luck!

Are you sure God didn't strike him down with a bolt of lightning? That's been known to happen to people like us, you know.

Now, I'm no expert or nothin', but it sounds to me like a case of 'alien abduction'. Yep. Classic case. Or he's an ass.

It's always interesting how we end up thinking like that: "what went wrong? " or "What did I do?" The thing is that necessarily something went wrong. Sometimes you need that "click" to keep going and it doesn't happen the same way for everybody. Maybe he's looking for something different and probably in the second date you would've found out that you wanted something different as well. You just don't worry about it. Keep going, keep being fabulous...

He might not be interested, in which case nothing went wrong, he just didn't feel the same chemistry you did; but, on the other hand, he might have done and is waiting for you to make the next move so he can know you're interested.

Of course, if he's on this site it's easy enough to know if his phone died or something just by looking to see if he's still active on here. And if he is, chances are he'll see this post so, if he is interested he now knows you are too.

There's a chiropractor I've been seeing not seeing every now and then. Out of nowhere he will come over for dinner or I'll go over there or we will go to the dinner theater, he'll text me "thanks for a wonderful time" complete with smile emoji, and then I won't hear from him for a month or so and then we will do it again. It's pretty nice for the giving me space and not being clingy but at some point I've given up that we would have a relationship. He's married to his work, and that's fine, and I'm not going to push. (I'm starting to think he's gay, but like, a subtle gay that he doesn't even really realize?) Either way I know he's not interested in a relationship with me and so it's whatever. I've set my sights on the new ER doctor anyway

Best part of being single is this right here. No pressure, no guilt, just "thanks for the date oh HELLO hot guy" lol. Don't beat yourself up trying to figure out what you did or what he thinks. Just pop it out of neutral and keep cruising, man. The right dude won't leave you wondering.

Men are dumb. Some of us are better at it than others. At least that's what I hear.

I get it, but it doesn't matter why he went away so stop torturing yourself. At this point, unless he's been in the hospital, you really shouldn't have anything more to do with him. This ghosting would only happen again.

Some people just don't have the courage to be honest. I received a lovely message from a woman after our date. In it, she said she was sorry, but she didn't feel anything romantic for me. I really appreciated her telling me that.

Why worry about it? Human are complicated creatures there could be a million reasons, want to spend your time thinking about them all or do you just want to get on with your life?

I had that same problem with someone I meet on here. But she like at first but change her mind. I was thinking is it my look or did I say something wrong. And I really really liked her. Some part of me still do. But we are friend now. Believe you me it hard to hear that she goes on dates and I'm just like that should be.

He is out of order but he isnt in to you. just keep on moving on as most people are assholes most of the time and all people are sometimes

I think we all hate not knowing. I would contact him once more only. But do brace yourself that he could not be into it all

Don't trouble yourself too much over it. People are weird, and sometimes they say things they don't mean to avoid hurting another person's feelings. Perhaps he wasn't feeling it but didn't feel comfortable being honest. Onto the next one, I say.

It's not that either one of you are right or wrong, good as a date or bad as a date, good at sex or bad at sex. It's all about compatability and everyone is looking for something different. You have no reason to fret or feel bad. He simply may have been looking for something different. That is no reflection on your value as a person. He, on the other hand could have been a little more up front. But, it's a free world. He has a right to be as he chooses. Maybe he wasn't really what you were looking for.

Yes, he's just not into you. Quit over-analyzing. Men are very simple creatures

I had that happen once, and questioned my instincts ... So I waited a few days, heard nothing , and sent a freindly email. " Hi, had a good tme the other day - and thought you did too - but perhaps not ? In any event, I wish you well ".

Heard back several days later - he called from the hospital, after having been in a car crash the night we had dated ! He was banged up , but mostly ok. I know 'cause I visited. We went out anouther couple months, and then went our separate ways. So, ya just never know ...

It could be a lot of things but for me if I go out with someone and like them they know it. I say keep looking, If he comes around cool if not cool there's lots of fish in the sea. Don't stop fishing because you got a nibble.

If he was "applying for the job that is my boyfriend" he's asking to not be "hired".
He was capable of one date, clearly. What if he handles leaky roofs the same way?
Maybe you missed a bullet.

I never liked him, anyway. But, not knowing can be frustrating. I think we all spend too much time wondering if we have glaring faults that everyone sees but us.

As mathematically improbable is this may seem, there are more horses asses than horses in the world. You will find people with both genders who will seek to prove this to you over and over again through life.

Maybe he isn't sure what he wants and is just afraid to speak his mind on that issue. If this is the case then you have not lost anything. Don't take it personally. The problem with most of us is that we take too many things personally.

It's called ghosting and it happens a lot. I hate it. I wish people were honest and just would say thanks but no thanks or whatever. It's a frustrating experience for sure. I'd let the idea of him being into you go. He's probably just fucking around anyway.