An Update and a Thank you!
Thank you to everyone who listened to me vent about my daughter and offered advice or just kind words. It has been very much appreciated.
I don't know what triggered this episode but, as of this am, she is heading home. Not sure what made her change her mind and right now I don't care.
She forgot she had her state income tax check in the car so she cashed that and is heading home.
Hopefully she will share the whats and whys once she is home and we both can plan for her future together.
Lots of life lessons we both can learn from this...once she is home and I am no longer at Defcon 1.
I think the biggest one I need to recognize is that this is who she is now and to stop thinking that all of this is just a symptom of the attack and will go away. It may go away some day but until it does, there are things things she and I need to work together to address in the event of this happening again.
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.Thanks for the update, and remember not to be too 'helpful' with your advice and planning acumen as parents are won't to be. Listen and try (I know this is hard) not to talk too much. Happy to hear she's at least safe and heading your way.
evidentialist
Level 8
Mar 15, 2018
0
I did not comment on your post...but as a parent, I know how difficult it is and how it can hurt me as a parent! Being a parent never ends, but it does change and needs to...for the sake of the parent and child. The bottom line is, we don't want our child to be hurt and we don't want to loose them, to death! And, once we can move past that fear and 'know' that when life happens, we will deal with it, a parent and child is free to live with courage!
Freedompath
Level 9
Mar 15, 2018
0
While I respond to a lot of your posts I didn't respond to the original post because I have no children. I could speculate what I would do, but that would be just that, speculation. I hope it works out for both of you. My realationships with my parents was very important to me.
Sticks48
Level 9
Mar 14, 2018
1
Your more than welcome, maybe she needs to talk to like minded people.
LeighShelton
Level 8
Mar 14, 2018
1
I suffer from similar things and it's a relief to be with like-minded people. I thought I was losing my mind for a couple of years so didn't even tell anyone.
doing the happy dance...and I do have a happy dance...it ain't right, but I have one...
JohnnyThorazine
Level 7
Mar 14, 2018
2
@Crimson67 It was, quite literally, the cats meow...haha...
I'd definitely advise therapy together - as well as therapy for her - when she gets home.
Nice to hear she is returning on her own.
PTSD really engages the flight or fight response and I suspect she needs to learn more about her condition to not fall into these pitfalls.
I can only imagine your stress level.
RavenCT
Level 9
Mar 14, 2018
3
@Crimson67 if I am assigned a new therapist I have to feel them out for a few sessions to see if we 'click'. If not I ask for a new therapist and it's a no-harm no-foul situation. If you are not happy with the therapist then request a different one. I use the V.A. but it should be the same on post.
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