@1of5, @IrishTxJudy

I don't always have someone waiting in the wings. I told the 50-year-old man that I wanted to see how things work out with Dave. I only date one man at a time.

I knew it was a crapshoot when we met. Dave had multiple surgeries for a cleft lip and palate. I chose to look beyond his appearance.

Typically, he was bullied in school. This can develop compassion for others or create anxiety and defensiveness. Sadly, it was the latter.

@IrishTxJudy

Character is more important than appearance. It's not his fault that he was born with a birth defect. It's not like we're going to have children.

@LiterateHiker I know you don't always do that, but these last few have been fairly rapid fire so it just got me to wondering, is all, if increased availability (in the form of its easier to find people with similar interests now) leads to a quicker ending of a relationship than it used to. Like I said, not trying to single you out or question what or how you date. You're offering information and I intend to take advantage of that.

@1of5

I don't know why you call my dating "rapid fire." I checked my calendar.

So far in 2019, I met Stuart in January, Mitch in May and Dave in September. That's not "rapid fire." I'm not meeting new men each week.

@IrishTxJudy

My apology.

@LiterateHiker I said "fairly", and you did tell someone you wanted to see how something worked out with Dave, hence the "waiting in the wings" quip.

So I was wondering if, at all, that influenced your descision/feelings/tolerance for Dave. Did you go out with him longer to give him more of a chance, shorter because you knew someone else was interested in you, or no effect at all?

In light of your "only date one man at a time" rule I think itd be interesting for me, and maybe importaint to you to know if it has any effect - even slightly - on your decisions regarding your romantic interests.

@IrishTxJudy she was responding to me. You got tagged and your convo with the literate one popped onto my reply.

@1of5

Dave has had erectile dysfunction for over 10 years. He has a 10-year old bottle of Viagra. Didn't bother to take Viagra or get it refilled. He is a lousy lover.

If at age 65, Dave never learned how to please a woman, he's not going learn now. I suspect he has Asperger's syndrome.

I dated Dave for five weeks. I was fed up.

@LiterateHiker cool, an old man that refuses to acknowledge his body isn't 23 anymore.

Weird, had 3 alerts for this one reply of yours. Good to see the coding's still buggy here, tradition and all.

I know, juvenile and unimaginative.

After all, you could have meant your back.

@BitFlipper, @Stephanie99, @adaptable1958

I knew it was a crapshoot when we met. Dave had multiple surgeries for a cleft lip and palate. I chose to look beyond his appearance.

Typically, he was bullied in school. This can develop his compassion for others or create anxiety and defensiveness. Sadly, it was the latter.