I've been trying to love myself for years. It takes time though to re-wire all those things that got drilled into my head as a kid. "You're stupid!" and "You're ugly!" Things like that get repeated by so many people when you're a kid and, in my case due to my OCD, they are very hard to let go of it. After a while you start to believe it. It's hard, but it can be done.

I did not read article, but finding love may have a lot to do with social conditioning! We are fed this romantic...out of this world love that is going to hit us like a lightening bolt and give us unimaginable pleasure and happiness! And, somewhere we get a whiff of that 'smoke bomb' and off we go...blinded by the smoke, until it disapates and we find our selves with another human being and with the same frame of mind, before the intoxication (wanting more high)! What happened to the uphoria? Now that 'love' is just mundane, with a few 'sparks' here and there! And, on top of that...comes even more work if you stay with that love! Maybe this is why relationships are temporary or fleeting?

Yes you have to love yourself before you can love someone else.

I have seen pictures of cavemen clubbing cavewomen over the head. I guess that would work if you did not mind amnesia.

Falling in love is the same thing as rising in passion