Amateur analysis. He was only looking for a piece of a$$ (no interest in you as a person). When he figured out he wasn't getting it he was butthurt and thus tortured you with the awful stories.

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The funniest thing he did was show me photos on his phone of his ex-wife and past girlfriends. All were slender and attractive. He described each woman and relationship in detail.

As a lawyer, he presented evidence. Apparently he thought it proves he is attractive to slender women (in the past), to convince me to f-ck him. It didn't work.

I think it is time for you to take a break from men. Just enjoy all that hiking without any male involvement in your life.

Uh, I would have run after he tried to kiss me. You kind of subjected yourself to this, yes?

Sounds to me that it wasn't the fact that he was overweight, it was because he was an insensitive asshole.

I've always been overweight. For the most part, most of my serious relationships have been on the thin side. What a person is attracted to usually isn't explainable.

Healthy people generally want to date healthy people. Size doses matter.

This is probably why I’ve opted out of the whole dating scene! I’ve had tongues thrust down my throat in my own home twice by so called friends of my late husband...and both thought I would welcome their advances because...”poor me”...I was recently widowed and obviously not getting any sex any more! As far as I’m concerned there must be chemistry or sex is never going to be an option...and I’d rather never again have sex than have it without an attraction on some level. I find this fat repulsion from men who are fat themselves quite common, men seem to be singularly lacking in the self awareness dept. in this respect, expecting women to stay slim, nubile and attractive, but not believing they should do so themselves. Why any man should believe he will be considered attractive to women when not even taking basic steps to keep in shape is beyond my comprehension.

I'm sorry you were subjected to this experience. You posted recently that you were about to meet a New Man, and you were excited. I hope this one wasn't him.

Hypocrisy is clear here. Also, posting only really old pictures manifests a liar. This person sounds narcissistic as well.

Sounds familiar. I can only empathize.

Geesh, I've experienced surprises, dismissal and rudeness from many first dates, but you got hit with it all from this one! Too bad, so sad.

Different from the multitude of negatives in your situation, I have one long-lasting regret for not wanting to get involved with a man years ago, based on his weight. I think I'd just worked hard to get very fit and slim, was in my early 40's, and really valued the thought of a partner to share that lifestyle. As it turns out, this dear man had every other attribute I could have wanted: humor, caring, intellect, interests, generosity, family values, personal integrity/honor, career success, and he adored me. As he was a bit of a local celeb, I watched from afar as he met & married a lovely woman, though it only lasted a few years. Sometimes I ponder the possibilities.

I am impressed you managed to stick around after the tongue & massage....

I'd say you dodged a bullet. Doesn't sound like a very self aware individual.

Sorry for your luck.
Definitely one of the drawbacks of internet dating.

I really don't miss it. Not even a little bit.

Beats me I love women period fat thin as long as they are women and not girls or princesses

@literateHiker , Obviously this guy knows nothing about manners, women, truth ,being up front ,it appears his ego is in total control, respect for himself and others, listening ,it is all about himself..happily first dates is the only date with him , surprising some people who read your profile do not realize you are in total control of your life and know what you want and do not want ,and their half truths and whimsical fantasy's in their Head (S) are going to get them no wheres with you really fast ,You have your standards and you stick to them and are very honest with yourself. When some one has those same or simliar standards already , you will be home free unless they have a cheating back ground,so wishing you luck on your journey ,send you warm healing hugs

He is short and fat and bald and ulgy.
Man from New Jersey who is loaded.
We will have a spree, although he is age 83.

There are some women love money over looks and humor. I am sure I will never encage with them. Maybe at 83, not.

He must have been a good actor on the phone. No questions? Talk about self-centered. Yikes.

I can't imagine you being with someone who isn't at least reasonably, if not very fit.

Asking a woman questions is intrusive but sticking his tongue down their throat at their first meeting isn't? Also, I like women with a little extra weight on them. It enhances their curves and feels nice to the touch.

Didn't his extra weight show in his face when you saw his pics?

Better luck next time.

Standards. Even the Lowest of Animals sets a bar to go under. Wishing You Better Luck and Happy Hunting.

I don't understand your point. Would it have mattered if he asked you questions and showed you interest? Would good conversation have made a difference in how you felt about a fat man?

Do you think ugly people are attracted to other ugly people?? Some unattractive men have beautiful wives or gfs that truly love them for other qualities, but everyone is entitled to their tastes. This is a whining song of overweight women typically. You do not need our validation to tell him you were turned off when he got out of the car. Maybe the awkward moment was his fault if he kept his shape a secret! You certainly have the right to your taste also. I am 61 but look 40 and I am attracted mostly to women who might opt for a burkah in my presence!
I will not assume you are trying to stand in judgment of someones personal taste in women.