Do you have a "type?" Have most of the people you've been with shared a common trait?
I dated a lot of "class clowns," most were creative types (minus my husband), and the majority were tall. Also, as I was a headstrong personality when I was younger, I tended towards more laid back people.
Historically, I have three types I tend to attract:
Sparse. Living near the Bible-crotch (Oklahoma is called the buckle of the Bible belt, so Dallas/Fort Worth must be near the crotch), plus being very picky because I have made bad decisions regarding who I have dated in the past leads me to be cautious about who I spend time with.
In the past, seeking strong, independent women I have ended up with a few strongly narcissist choices who did a number on my trust, as well as some who were surprisingly insecure. I am working on better choices.
Moving forward, I can only be with someone who is very secure (emotionally, at least), strong, independent, creative, intelligent, and has a wicked sense of humor to match mine. That should be easy enough, right?
Yes. It actually annoys me. I tend to be attracted to musicians or chefs, creative and traditionally non committal types, and then get irritated by their flaky dispositions or hesitancy to open up. I'm not monogamous, and don't have a ton of expectations, but I do need to truly connect or I am not just satisfied.
First wife: flirted with hypomania. Second wife: off the rails ADHD. Third wife had deep dark clinical depression...so I guess its fair to say I attracted women who weren't mentally centered. To be fair though, when I met these women I had an undiagnosed mood disorder working its magic in the background myself.