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I am curious what some of you think. I had a man approach me in the supermarket yesterday morning... to make a slightly boring story less boring I will get right to the point... he asked for my number and I gave it to him... after I agreed to meet for coffee next time he was in town, he "explained" to me that the only cell phone he had was owned by his employer and that when he called me it would show up as Restricted...Aaaannnddd he can't text on it. He didn't offer his number to me.

Am I being too skeptical when I say I think he may be married?

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Valarina61 4 Mar 26
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C'mon, we all know he's an insurance salesman.

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Or he's looking for someone's skin to wear

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ARE YOU 15 Y/O?

Ha! Love it! 🙂

@Valarina61 yes, your answer shows you are...

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Ive have alot of companies cell phone they careless who calls you. They only care if you excess there data plan. Second red flag who in 2018 doesnt have sometype of phone. So im thinking girlfriend or wife.

He could get a Smartphone for $29.88 at any Walmart, no plan, no contracts, just pay for minutes used. Married for sure!
And stop giving out your number to strangers! strangers at least have coffee first so you can get a feel about them. Unless you like being stalked, ax-murdered, or?

@AnneWimsey That why i recommend women use per paid phone for dating.

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It might be something worse than that-- he could be living with his mother, and that phone could be hers.

Like Howard on Big Bang Theory! Ha ha ha!

OMG that's hilarious!

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Probably married. You're almost certainly a 'dirty little secret.'

To be honest, even when hooking up, I insist on a mobile number. It's the clincher for me that they're serious, and not just fantasising. It's that real life investment, either letting me into their lives by giving me their legit number, or investing a small amount of money in a 'burner' SIM card, and maybe a cheap mobile phone to put it in.

If I must play devil's advocate, then I'd say I've met perfectly decent people who wouldn't share photos or phone numbers because of bad past experiences. But still, invest in the burner phone, eh? It at least shows that you're serious.

If he phones, then ask him outright what the situation is. If you're happy with the explanation and believe he's being sincere, then proceed, but with caution.

@Scoobs I appreciate that. But buying the burner phone/SIM shows some degree of real world commitment. Just $10 on some credit makes it real, rather than just fantasy. If you get a stalker, just bin the SIM and get a new number.

I've had hook-ups via websites where they've just logged out of the website an hour before meeting, and you've no way of communicating. You're left in limbo, wondering whether the meet is still happening or not. I've had ones where there's been a bit of confusion over where we should meet, and being able to text has been invaluable.

So no phone number, no meet, as far as I'm concerned.

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I call bullshit!

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Give him the benefit of the doubt. He might just be a wanted fugitive

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I've two garden gnomes, one speaks English and the other speaks Mandarin. You can have both for a hundred bucks. Deposit the money in my bank and give me your shipping address.

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I admire you for accepting this man's approach and giving him your information. That is really the only way a man can approch a strange woman who he would like so much to introduce himself too.
As to your question, he is married and the rest is entirely up to you.

I would like to add that I was on the opposite end of this type of situation. I am a single man and have introduce myself to many strange woman in different places. The majority who accepted my approach (and there were many) were married. I won't go any further with this.

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Married or commited.

Or should be committed...

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That’s weird. I’d probably stay far away!

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Sounds sketchy. Even if he's not married, he's clearly hiding something. Did you get his full name? I usually Google the hell out of people. I also check the MN court system to see what, if any, records he has. If there is anything it's usually just divorce or speeding tickets. BUT, I did find one guy had multiple assault charges. Another guy with a a OFP against him.....but sometimes it's good to find out their side of the story too. That guy had a crazy ex wife who called the police on him without merit. It's also good if they have Facebook so you can see if you have any mutual friends to ask if they're psycho or not.

I've had guys get pissed about that but hey, it's not like the olden days where friends set you up with someone they knew. I'm not going to just go out with some random stranger without finding out as much about them as I can first. I fully expect them to do the same with me.

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Sketchy

Gozer Level 4 Mar 26, 2018
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Red flags all over the place. In this day and age there is no reason why he can't have a personal cellphone, even if it's a cheap prepaid job he gets at the dollar store. He's probably got one just like you in every town.

GwenC Level 7 Mar 26, 2018
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Sounds dodgy to me

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Something seems out of place, most people with employer phones have their own too. Most plans now a days have unlimited calls & texts, so why would company care.

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Hidding something, I would avoid at all cost

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I can't possibly say wether he is married or not. It does sound fishy but I was in the same situation. The only phone I had belonged to my employer and I also couldn't text. I was trying to save money wherever I could so I would use that as my personal phone. Don't judge someone so quickly. You don't know their situation. I would still be cautious though.

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I used to pick up on women at supermarkets, I would stand in the cake isle and ask the woman how to bake a cake as it was my son's birthday. This let's her know I'm single and needs a woman's touch. Usually I waited for the one wearing spandex, they usually have an agenda anyway. It worked a couple of times. I am a trained chef, so maybe I lied a little. As for your specific situation, no man in this day and age doesn't have a personal smart phone so he's probably taken-bacon. If he really doesn't have a phone of his own then his sh#$ is weak.

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This reminds me of a teacher that once worked at our school. He was exceedingly slick, muscular and fit and, I am guessing, highly desirable. He was actively perusing (sexual encounter/s) a married teacher, and often resided with his in-town girlfriend (single woman). He also had his wonderful finance that lived on his farmstead. One day one of the girls found the numbers of the other girls on his cell phone and the fireworks began. Sounds like this guy is trying to avoid fireworks.

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I don't know that he's married... But it's deffintely sketchy...

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That's pure bullshit. He's full of shit as most men are. You know where men's brains are located. Right??? Like we are not stupid.

I finally got in contact with this woman that lives an hour away.....she looked nice, I was interested in meeting for coffee. I met her on a dating site, (what a joke). I"m not much of a drinker anymore. Anyway.....I texted her, I sent her some pictures of me and my grand kids.....we were texting and then I said, "why don't we just talk on the phone" and her answer was "let's just text for now" ( I went thru this before like last Holloween)....then as it turned out......she explained to me she would talk to me on the phone.....IF I BOUGHT HER A NEW CELL PHONE!!.... you have to be kidding me??? What a loser. Yeah, and she is 61 years old. I went on the last website (POF) date last Holloween, she was 63, had NOT worked in 20 years and her phone had been disconnected and she was ready to be evicted from her place. I have so many stupid stories from POF.....I just want to go to a movie, coffee....talk.....geez....the whole thing has gotten so stupid, I just gave up. I'll go to the movies by myself like I have for years. ha ha ....I don't know what women are looking for, but if they are looking for a "sugar daddy".....first thing, if a guy can afford to be a sugar daddy, they are NOT gonna get a 61 year old "sugar baby"......really.....think about it. They are gonna get a 30 year old....or a 25 year old......MicK Jagger's new honey is 23 years old. Imagine that???
I like chatting on here because I"m obsessed with THE UNIVERSE and why we are here...I'm closer to agnostics than Christians, that's for sure. I was raised Lutheran, but all that crap went out the door years ago. I have experienced some pretty magical things.....let's say coincidences.

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I never hand out my number to anyone.

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Coming from a man, I would think married, cell phone's are cheap. In my opinion, stay away.

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