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I am curious what some of you think. I had a man approach me in the supermarket yesterday morning... to make a slightly boring story less boring I will get right to the point... he asked for my number and I gave it to him... after I agreed to meet for coffee next time he was in town, he "explained" to me that the only cell phone he had was owned by his employer and that when he called me it would show up as Restricted...Aaaannnddd he can't text on it. He didn't offer his number to me.

Am I being too skeptical when I say I think he may be married?

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Valarina61 4 Mar 26
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C'mon, we all know he's an insurance salesman.

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ARE YOU 15 Y/O?

Ha! Love it! 🙂

@Valarina61 yes, your answer shows you are...

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Or he's looking for someone's skin to wear

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It might be something worse than that-- he could be living with his mother, and that phone could be hers.

Like Howard on Big Bang Theory! Ha ha ha!

OMG that's hilarious!

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Probably married. You're almost certainly a 'dirty little secret.'

To be honest, even when hooking up, I insist on a mobile number. It's the clincher for me that they're serious, and not just fantasising. It's that real life investment, either letting me into their lives by giving me their legit number, or investing a small amount of money in a 'burner' SIM card, and maybe a cheap mobile phone to put it in.

If I must play devil's advocate, then I'd say I've met perfectly decent people who wouldn't share photos or phone numbers because of bad past experiences. But still, invest in the burner phone, eh? It at least shows that you're serious.

If he phones, then ask him outright what the situation is. If you're happy with the explanation and believe he's being sincere, then proceed, but with caution.

@Scoobs I appreciate that. But buying the burner phone/SIM shows some degree of real world commitment. Just $10 on some credit makes it real, rather than just fantasy. If you get a stalker, just bin the SIM and get a new number.

I've had hook-ups via websites where they've just logged out of the website an hour before meeting, and you've no way of communicating. You're left in limbo, wondering whether the meet is still happening or not. I've had ones where there's been a bit of confusion over where we should meet, and being able to text has been invaluable.

So no phone number, no meet, as far as I'm concerned.

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Ive have alot of companies cell phone they careless who calls you. They only care if you excess there data plan. Second red flag who in 2018 doesnt have sometype of phone. So im thinking girlfriend or wife.

He could get a Smartphone for $29.88 at any Walmart, no plan, no contracts, just pay for minutes used. Married for sure!
And stop giving out your number to strangers! strangers at least have coffee first so you can get a feel about them. Unless you like being stalked, ax-murdered, or?

@AnneWimsey That why i recommend women use per paid phone for dating.

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Give him the benefit of the doubt. He might just be a wanted fugitive

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I admire you for accepting this man's approach and giving him your information. That is really the only way a man can approch a strange woman who he would like so much to introduce himself too.
As to your question, he is married and the rest is entirely up to you.

I would like to add that I was on the opposite end of this type of situation. I am a single man and have introduce myself to many strange woman in different places. The majority who accepted my approach (and there were many) were married. I won't go any further with this.

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Married or commited.

Or should be committed...

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I call bullshit!

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I've two garden gnomes, one speaks English and the other speaks Mandarin. You can have both for a hundred bucks. Deposit the money in my bank and give me your shipping address.

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Married or not, he sounds pretty sketchy.

marga Level 7 Mar 26, 2018
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That man is more sketchy than a cartoonists notepad girl you see that "restricted" you better send to voice mail

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sketchy

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Married or not, it still feels like a red flag.

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Probably married or living with someone. Restricted means you will never have his number. Why do you wantto settle for someone passing through? Been there done that.

BTW I was in the supermarket last week having difficulty with a plastic bag in the produce section. An attractive man handed me another plastic bag, smiled at me and said here. Probably worked for the store - lol.

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If he’s not honest about the phone number he won’t be honest about anything! Pass!

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Probably attached in some way and in these days anyone who makes even close to a living wage has a cell phone of their own, if for no other reason than to keep some of their activities off the business phone records.

Big time lesson @Valarina60 -- never, ever, under no circumstances give your number to anyone you don't know. Just don't.

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I don't know about anyone else, but I think the sketch-factor is high with this one.

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Not only would I say married but untrustworthy.

Ldox Level 4 Mar 26, 2018
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The encounter reeks of disingenuousness. I can't imagine being open to somebody who asks for one's number before barely even learning their name. It would in my mind, be more appropriate for the interested party to offer THEIR number or email as a means of contact, so the other person could choose or not choose whether to have a second 'look'.

That said, if the situation was reversed and I thought the entreaty to be honest, I'd give her my number or email strongly suggesting that I'm open to mature women who can afford their own phone and see where it goes from there...

Oh, and that he 'might' be married is really irrelevant because he's already revealed himself to be a sneak.

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Married, engaged, in a relationship.... not suppose to be cheating.

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If it's not free and clear id stay away from it. Drama is the last thing you want id assume. And if he can't afford a simple cellphone might be something else to avoid.

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Yeah, sorry. Perhaps it’s innocent, but if he can’t give you a number, then that’s a pretty red flag.

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I think It'd be reasonable for you to dig up information on him online. Perhaps he has a Facebook account. Whatever you end up finding with solid connection to him will help you make an informed decision, saving both of you from a greater disappoitment of incompatablity later down the line.

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