You know, I don't know that I ever really thought about this, in depth. I'm fairly romantic by inclination, and the physical intimacy has always seemed to flow from that. But were it not so, well-I think I would mind it very much.

Also, the women I have known seem to divide themselves into friends or lovers fairly quickly after meeting them. I only know of one instance of someone making the leap from one group to another (from lover to friend) and that took 30 years.

Sexual compatability is high on my list because I've had relationships that were pretty much dryspells. Ideally I would like a partner that doesn't have an issue starting things herself if she wants it. I don't know why it's become such a stereotype that men have to be the ones to start it.

This is year seven that I haven't had sex (masturbation not included). My last partner ripped my heart to shreds and I discovered that there's no such thing as an open minded Christian.I severely avoided the drama that is woman. (No offense ladies) We were VERY compatible in the bedroom but a health problem put a damper on my performance and it led to us breaking up. Now my time is getting shorter. I had a problem that surgery seemed to help a little and I don't have a clue as to how sexually compatible I'd be these days. lol. Maybe this site will help with that. I realized that I didn't answer the question. Yes it's important. Hail orgasm!

In my opinion a nympho and a prude will find it hard to stay together

How important? Crucial.

Sexual compatibility is... a premium for me. If one in the couple want to do it once a week and the other once a month, there might be problems. If one is naughty, kinky, loves role play but the other doesn't... Either they have to open up the relationship or one will most likely be unfaithful. Because, whether we like it or not, sex is an important part of any couple's life. When sex is not good, it's just like financial problems, work problems, alcohol... If will affect the relationship.

If the sex isn't there, then you're just room mates or friends. I've had that, and it pretty quickly makes me feel dead inside.

Very important to me!

Both parties need to be on the same page for sure. Be clear with your expectations, what you don't like and want/need.

Well, after finally having a partner who matched me sexually..mild S&M, gender role switching, fantasy games, dominating and being dominated, costumes, constant play for hours almost daily, I have zero wish to have cis hetero "rabbit sex"-quick as possible, with orgasm as the goal. SO boring I'd rather be single or live platonically.

But I'd like a dance and hiking partner, and since I'm demisexual I can take sex or leave it.

It's important...honestly i can be physically attracted to a woman but if i don't actually have an emotional connection too i don't perform so it could be more mental than physical but then that would still mean there's a compatibility issue

I think if you truly love eachother you can work around sexual incompatibility. Finding new things, experimenting, figuring it out. Ultimately if you cant, try swinging. That way you both can find what you're wanting, and still keep your relationship strong. I personally don't like the idea of my so sleeping with someone else, but knowing my sexual issues, it wouldn't be entirely off the table, as long as there was a long time of trust and ground rules involved. Being someone who is not the most sexual in nature, I'd prefer finding someone else who has sexual disfunction as well and can get by with maybe twice a month instead of frequently. If, however, we are deeply in love and he just can't get by on once or twice every few weeks, then we will have to sit down and talk about it. I'm mostly up front with my potentials that I am sexually disfunctional and that I am willing to later in the relationship look at ways to get around it.

Some people just aren't compatible with each other. It's better to find that out early on than later.

You have to be careful that the hot sexual compatibility doesn't blind you to a growing toxicity in the relationship outside of the bedroom. I've been there.

What would be Sex without Compatibility? Exercise on Futility. For Sex and Making Love... I want My Equal. That's it... Plain and Simple. I prefer no exception. I rather Rock and be Rocked by My Equal!

Sexual compatibility and Performance issues are different topics. Just sayin'-
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I think it's very important! I believe it is inextricably linked to our ability to think freely, our free will (in comparison to others), our levels of needs, wants and desires. It should not be unimportant! Patience and love of self lays the groundwork for honing in on the person with the compatibility that fits your being.

None of the guys I've been with couldn't get it up. Compatibility is important.

I agree it is important!

Sorry to hear you had those kinds of experiences. I might be on the younger end here so I might not be able to speak for the older guys (I'm 34) but if I'm into someone then sex is never an issue like I can go multiple times in a day for a pretty long period, sorry if that's TMI there. Just saying if it came ro it I would be poping the little blue pill like a pezz dispenser. Sexual compatibility is very important to me as you can see. Wishing you the best and I'm sure there are guys out there your age that can keep up with you and their um yeah you know lol

I have discontinued pursuit of relationships due to sexual incompatibility. I feel comfortable in that because I try to be very open about sex with any partner I have. I want to learn her needs and desires, and also try to be clear about what I enjoy. If we are not compatible, it is not because we did not discuss.
I have also had sex drive become an issue. If one person needs a lot and the other does not want very much, that is hard to work through without swinging or an open relationship.
No matter what issues you have, the key is to communicate and to be honest about whether they are deal breakers. Trying to push through serious issues without addressing them is a recipe for resentment and disaster.

I think you have to have a similar level of interest as your partner. I've been with people who I was much more interested in sexually than they were interested in me. I've also had the opposite. Neither situation is fun for either person.

Got to be compatible

I believe all men suffer from performance issues at times. It could be they are nervous or had too much to drink. If it is continuous then it's time you asked them to try Viagra.
Sexual compatibility is very important in a relationship. I think it starts with tender touches and soft gentle kisses. Normally the kissing will arouse your partner. For me it would be very hard to have a loving relationship if I was not emotionally and sexually compatible with the woman.

it is not important to me any more. I would like to have some one I trust next to me at night. Some people need it to be so important nobody is good enough for them.