I think it's very important for the two of you to at least be on the same page. No one should live a life of frustration. I was married 35 years and the first 6 or 7 were great. Then she got to the point, she didn't like being touched . It got to the point that we were having sex about once a month and might even get skipped a month here and there. About that time, I thought about looking for a girlfriend just for sex. I thought about it but never did. We finally told our doctor about it. Her hormones were out of whack and he prescribed her some pills. About a week later, I thought she was going to kill me. She couldn't get enough and she had already weened me down to where I was almost shut down. After a couple weeks she settled down and from then to about a month before she passed, we had an appointment twice a week that we both always looked forward to. It actually does get better all the time when all is working right. Twice a week was just the right amount to be in good shape to get full enjoyment next time. Any longer time and it can be over too fast and any shorter, you might have to put too much work into it to enjoy it right. I know it always worked great for us. It's easy to look forward to when it's always good for both of you. Proper timing like this helps keep it alway getting better. If it don't work out once in a while, it's natural. All it takes is thinking about the wrong thing at the wrong time and a guy can be done. If I think for a second that my partner isn't enjoying herself, it's done. I've not been with any other women but sex with the wife was always good but anything breaking the mood was usually instant doomsday. When we were younger and first married,we would be playing and the phone would ring. We wouldn't answer it but then, there would come my mom's voice leaving a message. Good thing I was younger then. That would be harder to recover from these days. It's not normal, I don't think, to not enjoy sex. If you aren't, ask your doctor and he might be able to help . It turned my wife into a new woman and kept us both very happy. I would have been divorced many years ago had she not got help. She was a much nicer person when she was haveing good sex too. Good for the cardiovascular system too. If you are not interested in ever having sex, you should be with someone that is the same way. So the main thing is that the two of you are in sync.

I would say it’s very important. For me anyways....I think some people don’t necessarily need it but I need and crave that physical connection.

If the sex isn't there, then you're just room mates or friends. I've had that, and it pretty quickly makes me feel dead inside.

Sexual compatibility is... a premium for me. If one in the couple want to do it once a week and the other once a month, there might be problems. If one is naughty, kinky, loves role play but the other doesn't... Either they have to open up the relationship or one will most likely be unfaithful. Because, whether we like it or not, sex is an important part of any couple's life. When sex is not good, it's just like financial problems, work problems, alcohol... If will affect the relationship.

How important? Crucial.

I would say it doesn't have to be there for everyone. However i am very physical & need healthy mutual stimulation .. sex is important personally.

Sexual compatibility is critical unless both parties are about 85 years old. I mean really, if I live to be that old who in the hell would want to have sex with my monkey-ass looking face? I'm thinking probably no one and I can't blame them. I will be all shriveled up and funky- that includes my dick- and if I make it to 85 the only thing I want to do in bed is to be smothered with a pillow.

Very. And if their sex drive couldn't keep up with mine, or their sexual interests didn't scratch my itches, then it would need to be a sexually open relationship, where I could have my needs met elsewhere.

I spent over 15 years in a relationship. For at least 10 of them, sex was something that my partner demanded happen roughly the 3 or 4 times a year that they felt horny, but wasn't permitted outside of those times.

No matter how much affection I have for someone, I won't let that stand in the way of my sexual needs being met, in future. Life's too short. The freedom to find sex with a consenting adult should be considered a basic human need and right.

For things to work well, sex needs to be of equal importance to both partners. For some, that means now and then. For others, it means often. The intensity needs to be largely aligned, too. Is sex a tender, lights off deal or anytime, any place, any way experiment fest?

Fortunately, my partners have aligned well with me. A few did not. I was taken aback by how angry that made me. I'll hold out for compatability from here on.

Be patient with them , perhaps it's just stress!

I think if you truly love eachother you can work around sexual incompatibility. Finding new things, experimenting, figuring it out. Ultimately if you cant, try swinging. That way you both can find what you're wanting, and still keep your relationship strong. I personally don't like the idea of my so sleeping with someone else, but knowing my sexual issues, it wouldn't be entirely off the table, as long as there was a long time of trust and ground rules involved. Being someone who is not the most sexual in nature, I'd prefer finding someone else who has sexual disfunction as well and can get by with maybe twice a month instead of frequently. If, however, we are deeply in love and he just can't get by on once or twice every few weeks, then we will have to sit down and talk about it. I'm mostly up front with my potentials that I am sexually disfunctional and that I am willing to later in the relationship look at ways to get around it.

It’s critical.

I suppose it depends on who has the higher libido. For me, sexual compatibility is really important. It's part of how I communicate. Sometimes I mess up ordinary conversations and I'm not as emotionally saavy as my partner would like but the physical communication makes up for it.

Also, there's plenty of sex toys out there that can help if you like the person you are with otherwise, that you can use together that still help you get your needs met. It can be a really sweet way of getting close to your partner, too. Of course you both need to be open and not feel shame about using them (because there is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of).

This is year seven that I haven't had sex (masturbation not included). My last partner ripped my heart to shreds and I discovered that there's no such thing as an open minded Christian.I severely avoided the drama that is woman. (No offense ladies) We were VERY compatible in the bedroom but a health problem put a damper on my performance and it led to us breaking up. Now my time is getting shorter. I had a problem that surgery seemed to help a little and I don't have a clue as to how sexually compatible I'd be these days. lol. Maybe this site will help with that. I realized that I didn't answer the question. Yes it's important. Hail orgasm!