People often think I'm stuck up because I'm quiet.
Just because I am 6 ft. 2 in. tall and 265 pounds, people assume I can pick up any heavy object no matter of weight. Maybe in my younger days!!
People assume that if I'm not smiling I'm in a bad mood.
I worship Mr Scratch being that I'm a non-believer.
That I am a mean person because I don't smile all the time. I have an awesome resting bitch face!
That I have no street intelligence. That when it comes to the real world, real people, real life, that I am dumb af.
Can we really know?
Recently, I found out what some others thought. In a conference with two bosses, one said (not in context of the conversation) that it seemed I am a loner. For background: I am working in retail - having given up my own business and hoping to retire soon - surrounded by people who aren't tremendously deep thinkers. I apologize; perhaps they are, but the conversations we share and they share with others dwell pretty much on the surface. I related to my bosses that I perceive that people seem to be mostly interested in themselves (about which, one of them concurred), and then I gave four examples of lengthy conversations I've had with co-workers about themselves, that never resulted in them asking back anything about me. One boss said that in order to have relationships with others, you have to "put yourself out there." I disagreed. I'm only going to offer my deepest self to those who are interested. The close friends I have are rare and treasured. Why expend energy where it goes into the void?
So, I'll say that the assumptions people frequently make of me being aloof and private are true, but for the wrong reasons.
Perhaps in the "spirit of cooperation," a retail environment functions better when people get along. I get along, but choose not to socialize, and I think people may not discern the difference.
That I'm stupid or ignorant because I'm big and very strong.
That I'm a physical threat because the same.
That I'm nasty because I focus at work and my work demands heavy manual effort and constant vigilence for other people's safety.
Really don't know, and quite frankly, honestly do not care.
I can't be bothered with whatever false assumptions people make about me.
I used to care about what other people thought. It drove me crazy. I was always
trying to please everyone, because I wanted people to like me, and was always
seeking the approval of others.
It's a no-win situation. It's far healthier not to care what anyone else thinks.
I'm not sure what people think of me. I constantly think about, basically torturing myself with it, but I assume that people don't like me.
That I'm a hypochondriac because I am literally always unwell lol
This is a funny one...at least for me.
I was eating lunch at a restaurant near the school where I last taught. I was chatting on the phone with a friend when a restaurant patron approached me and said "You all Spics factory workers go back home."
I ignored him and I went back to the school to prepare things for Parents / Teachers Night. Guess who came in...with his daughter? Yes the guy who called me Spic.
IAW, many people assume I am an ignorant, person because I speak with an accent.
The guy...after the conference....said to me "I will never judge another person. " I reminded silent.
This is a funny one...at least for me.
I was eating lunch at a restaurant near the school where I last taught. I was chatting on the phone with a friend when a restaurant patron approached me and said "You all Spics factory workers go back home."
I ignored him and I went back to the school to prepare things for Parents / Teachers Night. Guess who came in...with his daughter? Yes the guy who called me Spic.
IAW, many people assume I am an ignorant, person because I speak with an accent.
The guy...after the conference....said to me "I will never judge another person. " I reminded silent.
People think I'm mean and unapproachable because of the way I look.
I have the opposite problem. I have to open my mouth. Most people assume I believe the things I say, but I will take a stance I don't agree with for the sake of a thought experiment.
I don't bulletproof my wording, and people take things I say and warp them into something I didn't say, almost like it's on purpose ?