When I first started dating, I thought I knew exactly what I wanted and needed in a romantic partner, but as I've grown older I've dropped the "check list" approach. It's not that I don't still have standards or that I don't still look for compatibility or shared interests/similarity, it's more that I've realized by not giving people a chance that don't meet all the "check marks", I stand to miss out on wonderful people that often have "check marks" in other categories I didn't even realize were important for compatibility. Some of my best relationships and closest friends have been forged with people I initially never thought I'd get along with.
I like a checklist, but it isn't realistic for people. If you change the dynamic from demands to desires then more options exist.
I like a practical checklist of bare minimums such as: not being a serial killer, not being a pedophile, not having anger problems and abusive behaviors, having a good work ethic, and being loyal and respective of people. After that, amongst some other bare minimums, you can try to develop relationships with anyone.
I don't have a checklist so much as a list of things that if someone is into it means I like them much more and when someone starts showing and mentioning things that I really like or have always wanted in a partner I make a mental note of it. I never really have anything go anywhere because I am clueless with flirting but I still keep my mental notes lol
I think a combination of qualities can lead to attraction, sometimes unexpectedly when something you thought you wanted is absent in the person. I evaluate on a case by case basis!
All the people who have meant something to me never came off a checklist. It was like when they showed up and as I got to know them I just sort of "knew." As it should be -- the best relationships happen organically, a feeling that "this is just right.'
Life is too short to make checklists for everything. I like to take risks every now and then, and have met some decent people along the way by doing so.
I have more of an idea of what I want to experience, for example, connection, laughter, great places to hike together, fun, intellectual stimulation, harmony.....so it is a list but not of qualities of the person..but what I bring to table that someone might l I'm e to experience too.
I am about chemistry. If it isn't there all that other shit doesn't matter. l find different things charming and captivating in each woman l am attracted to, and it is seldom the same thing in each person. Intelligence and humor are a must. I am not talking genius, just no ignorant rednecks. I have spent too much of my life around those folks and l spend as little time around them as possible.
It never crossed my mind to do so. Well, no theists or new agey types, but that’s a given.
Like a software that requires minimum Windows 95.
If you are a Trump supporter, hit the back button NOW.
I'm seeking an athletic, intelligent man with a great sense of humor who treats me with respect and kindness. Conversation and witty banter delight me. Although I'm a good cook, I want a man who also cooks. Everyone loves to hear those magic words: "Dinner is served."
Shared recreational activities are a bonding experience for couples. That's why I want a man who also loves hiking.
Looks like I am in the minority here. I’ve recently added a checklist to keep me from walking in blind. I’m a far too accepting person. I can love just about anyone. It’s been a problem. My list includes red flags and personality requirements that were an issue in past relationships. They aren’t required to hit all the wants, but I do look at the percentage they fill and use the list as a guide when I ask questions to get to know them.
In a sense quite but in general I don't go looking for partners but if I find someone attractive and compatible with me I'll generally see what else we have that's compatible or desirable.
I just go with if I find them interesting and attractive. There are red flags (Trump supporters) that would definitely stop me from dating someone , but I don't really have a checklist.
Only for certain things.
Ex: Must like/tolerate cats as I’m not getting rid of them.
Nah. I just check off the "deal breakers".
Astrology, Anti Vaccers, Single-hair phobes, Have to talk every second, Andrew Lloyd Weber fans ...
After that, I just sit back and learn, and hope THEY don't have a "deal breaker" list of their own.
Religion is the only no-go for me.
Same for friends. I can not respect someone into wilful ignorance.
There is only one thing one my checklist. Does this person bring me a feeling of happiness?
There are only a couple of requirements for me. An open, caring, loving, compassionate heart. On the negative side - Nobody with imaginary friends, no tRump morons, no bogotry.