When I first started dating, I thought I knew exactly what I wanted and needed in a romantic partner, but as I've grown older I've dropped the "check list" approach. It's not that I don't still have standards or that I don't still look for compatibility or shared interests/similarity, it's more that I've realized by not giving people a chance that don't meet all the "check marks", I stand to miss out on wonderful people that often have "check marks" in other categories I didn't even realize were important for compatibility. Some of my best relationships and closest friends have been forged with people I initially never thought I'd get along with.
Looks like I am in the minority here. I’ve recently added a checklist to keep me from walking in blind. I’m a far too accepting person. I can love just about anyone. It’s been a problem. My list includes red flags and personality requirements that were an issue in past relationships. They aren’t required to hit all the wants, but I do look at the percentage they fill and use the list as a guide when I ask questions to get to know them.
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I'm seeking an athletic, intelligent man with a great sense of humor who treats me with respect and kindness. Conversation and witty banter delight me. Although I'm a good cook, I want a man who also cooks. Everyone loves to hear those magic words: "Dinner is served."
Shared recreational activities are a bonding experience for couples. That's why I want a man who also loves hiking.
It never crossed my mind to do so. Well, no theists or new agey types, but that’s a given.
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I am about chemistry. If it isn't there all that other shit doesn't matter. l find different things charming and captivating in each woman l am attracted to, and it is seldom the same thing in each person. Intelligence and humor are a must. I am not talking genius, just no ignorant rednecks. I have spent too much of my life around those folks and l spend as little time around them as possible.
I have more of an idea of what I want to experience, for example, connection, laughter, great places to hike together, fun, intellectual stimulation, harmony.....so it is a list but not of qualities of the person..but what I bring to table that someone might l I'm e to experience too.
Life is too short to make checklists for everything. I like to take risks every now and then, and have met some decent people along the way by doing so.
All the people who have meant something to me never came off a checklist. It was like when they showed up and as I got to know them I just sort of "knew." As it should be -- the best relationships happen organically, a feeling that "this is just right.'
I think a combination of qualities can lead to attraction, sometimes unexpectedly when something you thought you wanted is absent in the person. I evaluate on a case by case basis!
I don't have a checklist so much as a list of things that if someone is into it means I like them much more and when someone starts showing and mentioning things that I really like or have always wanted in a partner I make a mental note of it. I never really have anything go anywhere because I am clueless with flirting but I still keep my mental notes lol
I like a checklist, but it isn't realistic for people. If you change the dynamic from demands to desires then more options exist.
I like a practical checklist of bare minimums such as: not being a serial killer, not being a pedophile, not having anger problems and abusive behaviors, having a good work ethic, and being loyal and respective of people. After that, amongst some other bare minimums, you can try to develop relationships with anyone.