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Are you a social person? I'm not.

I guess I've never been much of a socializer. I am an ambivert. I'm introverted and extroverted at the same time. Part of my depression comes from being left alone, and that I don't have very many friends. I've never had but a few friend to hang out with in high school. Even then, I preferred to sit at home in my room and read or draw pictures. As a young adult, I entered into group homes and now a facility for adults. I find it very stressful to be around a lot of people. Especially at work. I can only work for 7 hrs and then I want to go home and be left alone. I hide in my room a lot. I avoid big events and crowds. That is why I am not in a local atheists' group. I find it easier to be social on social media. I'm being social, but I'm sitting in my room most of the time.

When I'm bored and when I have nothing to do, (like this last weekend, right now, and for 2 more days) I get depressed. I had applied for a job to help kill my boredom. Also to keep me out of the psych ward. It has worked for 2.5 years now. Since my boss messed up my schedule for this week, I have 2 more days off. I'm depressed and completely bored with myself. I think I'm over-analyzing again. I called my boss and she said to come in Thursday and to take these days off. She said we have more people now. Does that mean hours will be cut for all the crew members, and we all share hours? Or is she cutting mine, because I'm now redundant? I had wrote in her calendar for Tuesday off. She didn't see it. She didn't have any pens on her desk, so I used a pink highlighter. I checked on Friday, she crossed the week out, meaning she made the schedule already. I KNOW I am over-thinking, but I hope I'm not let go?

Maybe I need to go eat dinner, and come back when I'm full and thinking rationally?

I feel like I have arthritis. My hands ache sometimes. I heard it is a symptom of a GERD med. I hope the specialist calls me soon!

Sarahroo29 8 Apr 23
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Yes

Cool.

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I think there are a lot of good people on here that are with you in thought.You may have more support than you are aware of. We all have times that challenge us. You are doing good to talk about it. I am with you in thought. I can see there are more than just me.

I need to see an atheist! I've not seen one since last August! I will this Wednesday.

@Sarahroo29 Good some face to face time. It will do you good.

@factorbelief Yes.

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So introverted face to face, but extroverted online. Living virtual reality

cava Level 7 Apr 23, 2018

Yeah.

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Okay. A few things here.

First - breathe. Just breathe.

Second - you can ignore my unsolicited advice. I'm simply a voice in the wilderness.

Third - you're not alone. Things get messed up and you feel like you're alone. You're not. Christ in a sidecar, you've got me, which is fairly hard solace but there it is.

Fourth - order helps. Regular sleep, eating at least twice a day. These things do wonders.

Fifth - I speak from experience. I am so close to the edge I cannot describe. These things make a difference.

Sixth - over thinking. Yup, that's one of my addictions also. If you can - if you can - shut down those voices for a while, you will get some peace.

Seventh - be who you are. If you're not social in the meat space, who the hell cares? Comfort in your own skin is critical.

Eighth - my psych told me I'm not depressed; just tired. And he is a sharp guy. I've decided that there is a self reinforcing loop where if you believe you are depressed then you are depressed. Look, maybe you are - some people find drugs help. I've resisted that, but then I am a stubborn bastard. But maybe you're not depressed; you're just you.

Ninth - and this is honestly my current experience - give it one more day, maybe two. Stuff looks different then. And if it doesn't, you were right in the first place.

That's my dump of unsolicited advice. I hope it somehow gives you a modicum of support.

I will not turn to drugs and alcohol. I'm in tears now. No one wants to talk to me in Messenger. They never do or they ignore me. I have barely anyone in my life. Soon my family will move away.

@Sarahroo29 I have spent the last 16 months adrift from my previous life. I travelled the world and drove around Australia. I crashed in peoples spare rooms and on their sofas.

And always alone. Ultimately.

There have been two mantras which have kept me going. The first is "keep moving, soldier". When I run out of puff, that keeps me going.

The second - and perhaps, mayhap more pertinent to you - is "home is in your head." That is an incredibly hard thing, but if you can own it - well, it frees you. But I am sorry about your loneliness, I do empathise.

@Palindromeman Thanks.

The, "Bad Day" song came on my iPod.

@Sarahroo29 You are welcome. I'm going to drop off comms for a few hours now but I'll check in later.

Not that I'm patronising you or any of that kind of bullshit. Just so you know.

But I think I know a fellow traveller when I see one.

@Palindromeman Yep.

@Sarahroo29 Any better today?

@Palindromeman Yes. I posted it.

@Sarahroo29 This is a good thing.

@Palindromeman Yep.

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I am an introvert, and I can completely understand the over thinking and analyzing. I have been struggling with things lately myself, and I decided that this evening I would do my best to relax. Earlier, I listed the worst case scenarios for the things I am most stressed about on a piece of paper, and decided that whatever happens that I am strong enough to handle it. I do feel slightly better.
I hope that you feel better soon.

Thanks.

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I work a lot but when I can I'm a total social whore lol

Cool.

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I'm an introverted, bipolar, single mom. What is socialization?

OK so I fully read what you said and I might be a ambivert myself. I don't need people until I do and then depression comes because I've neglected my friends to non existence. We can be internet buddies!

Yay!

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Do what you can when you can, don't pressure yourself, you seem to be under enough pressure already.

A lot of stress. I only get 7 hrs of sleep each night.

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Hang in there.

I've been trying not to let my physical illness effect my mental illness. Once again, when people mess up...

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