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Are you lonely?.

If so, what do you think makes you feel this way? American stats report this to be as huge as obesity even in the youth. It's dangerous for health.

2muchstupidity 6 May 7
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Sometimes, but after spending alot of time with myself, having conversations with myself, and taking myself to dinner AND a movie ( l think l was just trying to impress myself ), l understand why I'm alone. I plan on breaking up with myself in a day or two, if l can find the courage.

@Stacey48 l know, It's sad. I shouldn't have even brought it up. ☺

@Stacey48 l know! I'm so fragile right now. I might not be able to take it. I might have to drown my sorrows in a box of donuts. EWWWW..... donuts sound good.

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Loneliness comes and goes. There are times I feel it intensely, other times I think about the complications of relationships, and I think, "Well, at least I can do whatever I want and don't have to answer to anyone." And I've got dogs who don't care how much of a jerk I might be (no, I do not mistreat them), they always are happy to see me and want to be around me.

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Loneliness is something that happens to most people periodically. The worst is to be with a mate and still feel lonely. If someone feels lonely all the time they need to get out in the world a bit more

Been there done that and afterward actually felt good to be alone. But with the right mate loneliness is not the issue, but, for me, alone time can be. With my last partner neither was a problem for either of us. Another complex issue and more so for some than others.

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I was lonely till I got divorced and now I've made new friends and did a little bit of dating, nothing serious, being on this site with the 'Kool Kids' and joined the 'Y'. I feel good most of the time now.

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I suspect I'm a bit autistic. I never know how to interact so socialising has always been torture and failure. So being alone is a relief. I'm old now so I have little reason to interact anymore. Peace, glorious peace of mind. Of course it's not ideal. But I'm content.

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I'm alone, but not lonely

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For me, loneliness has to do with feeling disconnected, whether that's with myself or with someone else. Sometimes I can be with other people and feel terribly lonely, other times I can be alone and feel fine. That being said, I recognize there's a difference between existential loneliness and physical loneliness, but ironically the more I've been comfortable with my own company the more I've enjoyed and deepened my relationship with others... I'm also accepting that loneliness is a part of the human condition, and that also the depth that we miss someone is the depth that we care about them... But I also think, when it comes to modern American life, we don't put much emphasis on the meaningfulness of our relationships or the importance of inter-connectedness, and think we can find this through artificial means. Technology may be easy, fast, and conflict-free, but it's no substitute for real, imperfect, human interaction.

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I miss my son.

Hugs

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I am alone a lot of the time, but I don't often feel lonely. I like my alone time and have an active social life. (Sometimes more active than I would like).
I realized that it was my choice. There have been many occasions when it would have been very easy to curl up in a ball and become a hermit, but I've always made the (sometimes difficult) decision to interact with others; friends, family, meet new people.

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No. I choose my own level of sociability. Sometimes, I choose to be by myself, but I don't feel lonely.

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Nope. Not even a little bit.

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Nope, not lonely and often wish I had more time alone.

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Alone but not lonely. Gloomy but not unhappy.

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I've known loneliness. Who hasn't? One of the best cures around is a good divorce lawyer. 😉

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Omg yes!, then no, then yes!, then no...

Proto Level 6 May 8, 2018
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Nope. And I'm alone most of the time but I like being with me.

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We have emotions to prompt us to action. If we're feeling bored, it's a prompt to go do something constructive. If we are lonely, pick up hte phone and call a friend. (Forget about motivation, that never happens until AFTER you have acted)

It goes much deeper than that. Read Baltazars comment. Until you've been there with no support, no family, including being neglected and rejected by dysfunctional family from childhood you don't realize the depth of loneliness. It takes more than a phone call.

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In my opinion , lonelyness first has nothing to do with being alone. I think lonely is the absence of being understood even if you surrounded by the world.

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Not now

I am pleased to have made some friends here

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Yes with out a doubt. But my current loneliness is also helping me grow a bit. 6 months ago, out of no where my (then) wife want a divorce. So fast fowards, 95% of my friends all have the family life I once had, so my single week (one week single full time dad, the next single guy) is myself trying to make new friends and do new things. Doing the new things part isn't that hard/bad, new friends... I am finding out to he a bit more tricky. Then of course the lack of a SO has been depressing. I've been with her for 14 years, so I never knew what it meant to be single as an adult. Hard thing to learn all fo the sudden.

I just wanted to reply to your comment and tell you I can totally relate. I was married 34 years and my husband left me for his secretary. I was devastated and lost to say the least. ..a real basket case for a long time. I had to start my life all over. The dating world has been the hardest. I have trust issues and am still single. I had to get used to being alone. Luckily I have great friends but no family support. I'm 68 now and still have to work but I like to stay husy. I was 55 when he left. I wish you the best and know you aren't alone in this deal. Many of us out here!

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At times. I like living alone and am happy. But it would be nice to meet someone to go out to dinner with

jab60 Level 6 May 8, 2018
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It's a rather confusing concept. Those of us who are of a higher intellectual capacity tend to be more "lonely". It's more of a choice rather than a side effect though.

Just my 2 cents.

Doesn't mean that we aren't fulfilled regardless.

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Aren’t we all?

No. We are not.

@KKGator
Lucky you.

@Gatovicolo It's not "luck", it's a choice.

@Gatovicolo -- And lucky me. More evidence that we are not all lonely.

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Yes. And nobody in my life seems to understand the extent of it. Current events aren't helping my mood either- they're making it so much worse.

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Yep. I'm shy, and I also get embarrassed easily so that makes me self-conscious to talk to people. Because of this, I don't have any friends, so on weekends I usually get more depressed since I have no one to talk to. Not to mention, I live in the Bible Belt, and as someone who is liberal, atheist, and vegetarian, finding people that share the same beliefs/opinions/lifestyle as me is difficult

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