How does it make you feel when someone who very likely means well, says to you concerning a loved one who was lost to death that "they are in a better place".
I realize they didn't know us very well, and they mean well. I just say "thank you" and move on. I saw no point in causing a stink about it. I was comiserating with a close friend when some Christians tried to tell him our friend was in a better place and he went off on them. i saw this was coming and I tried to intervene. They looked like a kicked puppy when he was done.
I am a bit strange as I don't miss people - I enjoy friendships in the moment but I have moved around a lot in my life and have left many people. The idea of death doesn't worry me at all given how rotten my society seems ot have become I would welcome it in the door-
My family were all mentally unstable and I havent seen my brother for years don't know if hes dead or alive and its not that important anyway - I think I am pretty self sufficient and probably not as crazy as my rellies who are pretty much all dead now anyway
I agree! Has nothing to do with an afterlife either. If your death was preceded with a painful disease, an emotional torment, torture of some kind, loss of mental capacity, death is a release. You have none of those things anymore. If the death was in an accident, a murder, or other sudden causes, then they are not in a better place, they are dead before their time. My Dad suffered with a lot of pain, nervousness about everything, and a loss of interest in life for several years before he died. Death for him was a better place than the daily loss of his spirit and joy of life. I look forward to my own death even now as a relief from the slings and arrows of daily life. I would not precipitate it, nor do I fear it.
It doesnt bother me, though it is tempting not to say "where is that? The ground? Up in smoke ?" or "with the way the world is now, the ground is starting to look pretty good!"
My grandmother she was a hilarious atheist, as her parents had raised her to be. My nan had a saying "you'd f up a church!" (Meaning your so terrible you would f up something already completely f uped!) Though she would use the actual f word, I won't type the full word here, but you get the point. When she died a few years ago, an uncle of mine decided to make a huge religious spectacle of it, even while knowing she was against religion and openly atheist. See my dearly departed grandmothers son, my uncle, married into a Pentecostal family and became the super religious zealot, self righteous person that she tried to raise him not to be. He had it in his head that she needed to be saved and if she wouldnt let him do it in life, he'd do it in her death. He had his brother in law that is pastor of some mega church in phoenix fly in on his private jet to do the funeral...now I know she would of found humor in having had this huge religious funeral with all the trimmings! So the rest of the family being the jovial atheists she taught us to be had viewed it as a joke and carry on the legacy of finding humor in most things. In some way she lives on in the way we keep that humor going. We couldnt be upset about it. Not when she would of found it hilarious.
It would annoy me a little, but I would just smile and nod, recognizing that it was meant in a way of comfort. If they persist, (and if applicable) I would say, "they're not suffering any more". It's a half agreement, but seems to be acceptable.
I don't typically challenge someone (or their beliefs) who is genuinely trying to be supportive.
I roll my eyes but only in my mind. Kind words are always appreciated. And I don’t totally disagree. Just that my idea of better place is non existence or recycled into the universe or whatever. I don’t feel the need to mention thst, either, though. Others need to believe in heaven to deal with loss. Who am I to take that from them?