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LINK 8 Signs You Might Not Be The Relationship Type & Why That's Totally OK

Well, hell. Except for the partying and constantly looking for someone else bits this is pretty much me all over. Anyone else?

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10

I am definitely the relationship type. Sometimes I wish I liked being alone but I prefer intimacy with someone in a committed relationship. Living together, supporting and loving another person fulfills me.

8

It's me.
I'm in a relationship.

Oh, shit.

Except that I'm not seeking anyone else. I am seeking alone time.

@Donotbelieve I always had that problem when I was married. smile005.gif

@bingst @Donotbelieve Independence is just as important in a relationship as interdependence.

8

Not everyone needs or wants a serious relationship, & sometimes it's a phase & sometimes it's part of one's character. Everyone is different & the big thing is to be honest, first, with oneself, & then to potential dates/lovers.

7

Relationships imply "monopoly"
If you find a like-minded person with whom you wish to raise children, then enter into a relationship by all means - but NEVER simply because your friends have them and you feel left out.
And even in a relationship, strong tolerances of each other's foibles are essential.

Petter Level 8 June 3, 2018
6

Not really me except for the first 2. That's apparently enough to keep me single, though. Based on my experience on dating sites and personally in my late 20s/early 30s, I think I'd have a much easier time finding a date if I was a party girl open to casual sex, not looking for a commitment. When I ended a long term relationship in my late 20s, I started going out a lot, clubbing, dancing, drinking, and was very open to casual sex experiences. I had a lot of dates, stupidly got myself in a lot of slightly dangerous situations, but I thought it would lead to another long term relationship. It didn't, just mostly a lot of short term dating, but fortunately I came out of it safe, relatively unscathed, and STI-free. Now that I don't do those things any more, I can't even get a date.

@BigBoMclain I know you're joking, but having meaningful, lasting relationships with others does change us for the better. I know it's done so for me when I've had them. I don't get those things when I'm just seeking quick and easy fun with no commitments.

5

I am my priority, and I'm ok hanging out alone. Gotta be, it is my life. However the rest of them are a big no. Don't do casual sex, don't party, I'm not looking, however not afraid of commitment, I don't want marriage just a long term shack up, and I'm ready.

5

No, I am right. I'm right for a relationship. I have much to offer. In the first place, I've had more than six significant enjoyable relationships to pull experience from. All of them were different. I know I am patient and loving. I want to love and take care of someone. I want to be loved. If needed, I have medical experience. I was a First Responder along with my career as a park ranger. I drive well, and never a moving violation. Can cook well, and spend frugally. I'm affectionate and love love X0X0X0X0X0X smile001.gif

5

#2 is so me. Lol

Sheannutt Level 9 June 3, 2018
5

Casual sex is definitely not my thing, so I'm probably the relationship type. :/

4

No I live a pretty quiet life gardening, handicrafts, beachcombing, & picking up litter - I rather like to be alone - though I am in a relationship its a loose one (Not Morally & we arent on the market for other partners) Just private people who come together for fun and it seems to work well for us not seeing each other all the time.

jacpod Level 8 June 3, 2018

I have something like that. It works for me. Nice to know I'm not alone.

4

I relate to more than I thought. (7 out of smile027.gif So that explains everything.

4

The other day I had a bbq with my two best friends and their husband and boyfriend. It was lovely, but it got me thinking that I am perfectly fine alone. I don't party or have casual sex or fear marriage, but I just don't really need a significant other. There is too much I'm dealing with in my life to need to worry about another person.

4

Boy that's complicated... I'm about half and half, and apparently that's enough that I have problems staying in a relationship. I don't so much long for someone different as I do me time...

4

Definitely not me.

bingst Level 8 June 3, 2018
3

#6 was pretty predominant for a while, but not anymore. The others don't apply. I think I just wasn't ready for a long time.

bleurowz Level 8 June 3, 2018
3

A bit of #5, and all of #7

MollyBell Level 7 June 3, 2018
3

I don’t have a regular clique to hang out with. Much of what I do is solitary. I’m not the partying type. Guess one thing that is different is that I don’t mind as much going alone to see a friend at a play.

Things that generally cost money for entertainment I tend to not do unless I have someone with me.

Pets help a little with the lack of regular social bonding. About 90-95 percent of people in my life are out of sight, out of mind. When I become the only one in the relationship who engages, motivation to be social comes at a minimum.

Vipyr82 Level 7 June 3, 2018
3

I'll admit to 1 and 2 but no casual.

3

..started reading, but it brought up so many thoughts I stopped.. Which may be ‘my problem,’ been-there-done-that… What I’ve not done, until now, is live alone. After a longtime marriage followed by a fuckedup affair, seems I was scrambling to find both a home and a partner ..if not in that order.

With a home, I’ve spent the last couple years on the partner hunt ..in a small but active community. Not willing to simply settler for who’s available, I’ve become amazingly comfortable alone. And when analyzing relationships around me, or envisioning what one would ‘be like’ with another … the zero to 60 aspect feels too dangerous to chance smile005.gif

Varn Level 8 June 3, 2018
3

pretty much.

hankster Level 9 June 3, 2018
3

I relate to some of this, but still would like to have a partner in Life again.

3

My belief is that marriage is not for everyone, particularly with questions about monogamy in this country. In saying that, I notice I visit friends with kids, and particularly babies, presumably as I have none I guess. My choice was cars and music, so 'mea culpa' applies.

tellyrus Level 5 June 3, 2018
2

In any relationship(loose, or married) you need a certain alone time,to pursue hobbies,to know your significant other(wife,husband,girlfriend,lover) is nearby, but just doing things you enjoy by yourself I believe helps the relationship.

Mike1947 Level 7 June 4, 2018
2

I never felt that I needed a reason.

Wrytyr Level 7 June 4, 2018
2

Ditto 1&2....3-8 are shallow avoidance of a nurturing partnership

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