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LINK 8 Signs You Might Not Be The Relationship Type & Why That's Totally OK

Well, hell. Except for the partying and constantly looking for someone else bits this is pretty much me all over. Anyone else?

OpposingOpposum 9 June 3

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10

I am definitely the relationship type. Sometimes I wish I liked being alone but I prefer intimacy with someone in a committed relationship. Living together, supporting and loving another person fulfills me.

8

It's me.
I'm in a relationship.

Oh, shit.

Except that I'm not seeking anyone else. I am seeking alone time.

@Donotbelieve I always had that problem when I was married. πŸ˜•

@bingst @Donotbelieve Independence is just as important in a relationship as interdependence.

8

Not everyone needs or wants a serious relationship, & sometimes it's a phase & sometimes it's part of one's character. Everyone is different & the big thing is to be honest, first, with oneself, & then to potential dates/lovers.

7

I am the relationship type but I also enjoy my "me" time. Nothing wrong with that ?

7

Relationships imply "monopoly"
If you find a like-minded person with whom you wish to raise children, then enter into a relationship by all means - but NEVER simply because your friends have them and you feel left out.
And even in a relationship, strong tolerances of each other's foibles are essential.

6

Not really me except for the first 2. That's apparently enough to keep me single, though. Based on my experience on dating sites and personally in my late 20s/early 30s, I think I'd have a much easier time finding a date if I was a party girl open to casual sex, not looking for a commitment. When I ended a long term relationship in my late 20s, I started going out a lot, clubbing, dancing, drinking, and was very open to casual sex experiences. I had a lot of dates, stupidly got myself in a lot of slightly dangerous situations, but I thought it would lead to another long term relationship. It didn't, just mostly a lot of short term dating, but fortunately I came out of it safe, relatively unscathed, and STI-free. Now that I don't do those things any more, I can't even get a date.

@BigBoMclain I know you're joking, but having meaningful, lasting relationships with others does change us for the better. I know it's done so for me when I've had them. I don't get those things when I'm just seeking quick and easy fun with no commitments.

5

I am my priority, and I'm ok hanging out alone. Gotta be, it is my life. However the rest of them are a big no. Don't do casual sex, don't party, I'm not looking, however not afraid of commitment, I don't want marriage just a long term shack up, and I'm ready.

5

No, I am right. I'm right for a relationship. I have much to offer. In the first place, I've had more than six significant enjoyable relationships to pull experience from. All of them were different. I know I am patient and loving. I want to love and take care of someone. I want to be loved. If needed, I have medical experience. I was a First Responder along with my career as a park ranger. I drive well, and never a moving violation. Can cook well, and spend frugally. I'm affectionate and love love X0X0X0X0X0X πŸ™‚

5

Casual sex is definitely not my thing, so I'm probably the relationship type. :/

4

No I live a pretty quiet life gardening, handicrafts, beachcombing, & picking up litter - I rather like to be alone - though I am in a relationship its a loose one (Not Morally & we arent on the market for other partners) Just private people who come together for fun and it seems to work well for us not seeing each other all the time.

I have something like that. It works for me. Nice to know I'm not alone.

4

I relate to more than I thought. (7 out of πŸ€“ So that explains everything.

4

The other day I had a bbq with my two best friends and their husband and boyfriend. It was lovely, but it got me thinking that I am perfectly fine alone. I don't party or have casual sex or fear marriage, but I just don't really need a significant other. There is too much I'm dealing with in my life to need to worry about another person.

4

Boy that's complicated... I'm about half and half, and apparently that's enough that I have problems staying in a relationship. I don't so much long for someone different as I do me time...

4

Definitely not me.

3

#6 was pretty predominant for a while, but not anymore. The others don't apply. I think I just wasn't ready for a long time.

3

A bit of #5, and all of #7

3

I don’t have a regular clique to hang out with. Much of what I do is solitary. I’m not the partying type. Guess one thing that is different is that I don’t mind as much going alone to see a friend at a play.

Things that generally cost money for entertainment I tend to not do unless I have someone with me.

Pets help a little with the lack of regular social bonding. About 90-95 percent of people in my life are out of sight, out of mind. When I become the only one in the relationship who engages, motivation to be social comes at a minimum.

3

I thought maybe I was just unappealing, now I know πŸ˜€

JimG Level 8 June 3, 2018

Lol. Your only problem is you're too far away!

@ScienceBiker it does indeed.

@Blindbird that's just my luck.

3

I'll admit to 1 and 2 but no casual.

3

..started reading, but it brought up so many thoughts I stopped.. Which may be β€˜my problem,’ been-there-done-that… What I’ve not done, until now, is live alone. After a longtime marriage followed by a fuckedup affair, seems I was scrambling to find both a home and a partner ..if not in that order.

With a home, I’ve spent the last couple years on the partner hunt ..in a small but active community. Not willing to simply settler for who’s available, I’ve become amazingly comfortable alone. And when analyzing relationships around me, or envisioning what one would β€˜be like’ with another … the zero to 60 aspect feels too dangerous to chance πŸ˜•

Varn Level 8 June 3, 2018
3

pretty much.

3

I relate to some of this, but still would like to have a partner in Life again.

3

My belief is that marriage is not for everyone, particularly with questions about monogamy in this country. In saying that, I notice I visit friends with kids, and particularly babies, presumably as I have none I guess. My choice was cars and music, so 'mea culpa' applies.

2

In any relationship(loose, or married) you need a certain alone time,to pursue hobbies,to know your significant other(wife,husband,girlfriend,lover) is nearby, but just doing things you enjoy by yourself I believe helps the relationship.

2

I never felt that I needed a reason.

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