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Do you have to lead a structured life ?

Wildgreens 8 June 12
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I have a very structured life but I leave room for adventure.

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With some things, yes. With other things, no.

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I feel as though my life is mostly chaos with small anchor points of structure.
I would probably do better with more structure, and yet, I keep thinking that I need to be more spontaneous.
Hmmm - this is a harder question to answer than I thought.

scurry Level 9 June 13, 2018
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Structure yes, imprisoned by routine no.

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No you don't be who you are!! As long as you don't hurt anyone!!

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Not really. I no longer work. Waiting for ssd. Feed cats check mail, but hope to have some in a few weeks

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Yes...when it comes to work, home organization, and finances. But, when I travel, I create a "framework" with room to explore and do spontaneous things.

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I'm a business owner, so yes, there is necessary weekly structure in my work routines, but as far as life in general, sometimes yes but then I always embrace spontaneity and chaos.

The only exception I guess would be my daily coffee rituals......

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I have had zero structure for the past four years and it has been garbage. It's so aggravating to want to do something valuable when it gets interrupted.

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Without structure I could not cope. Planned meal times and some activities (like being on this site). There is some room for non-planned activities but I even have a time set aside for this. Unpredictability tends to stress me.

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I don't have to...... Does it help? Heck yes

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I hope not! I abhor structure for the most part, but understand that for society to function, there needs to be some synchronization. Rushing to meet arbitrarily set deadlines is the bain of my existence.

Zster Level 8 June 13, 2018
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I much prefer structure, but am just not very good at it!

StJohn Level 6 June 13, 2018
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Structured lives make us feel safe, but they are also stultifying.

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'everybody needs a routine of some sort', don't they? Most teach it to their children despite something here called 'free range kids', which suggests to me, it will be forced on you by wrong choices, accidents etc.

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Yeah, kinda have to on work days. If I don't set aside time for personal study, exercise, meditation then it will never happen on workdays.

Days off aren't very structured though.

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Not really. It is one of a few reasons l chose a life in music. ☺

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A clean, organized home calms and pleases me.

I plan ahead. Never rush off scatterbrained, driving until running out of gas with no money, like a man I met.

Routines: Volunteer college mentor. Hiking twice/week. Weightlifting. Running. Stretching.

Spray Sawyer Permrethrin insect repellent on my hiking clothes, hat and gear. It lasts through six washings. This odorless spray kills and repels ticks, mosquitoes and 33 other biting/stinging insects.

Keep my hiking boots waterproofed. Also polish and waterproof leather boots and shoes. This makes them last longer and look sharp.

As an organized, high energy person, I get a lot done.

Welcome to the club of the boring and disciplined (those are not my words but is how some people see us).

@JackPedigo
My life is fun! Not boring.

@LiterateHiker Kathleen, you don't have to convince me. I feel the same about being organized. That's why I said "how SOME people see US".

Kathleen, This was my comment to this posting: Without structure I could not cope. Planned meal times and some activities (like being on this site). There is some room for non-planned activities but I even have a time set aside for this. Unpredictability tends to stress me. I have been called boring but really couldn't care.

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Not if I can help it.

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My unstructured life involved lots of driving and exploring New Mexico, Louisiana, Texas. I would just get a whim and drive there. I wasn't rich, so I had to find work and make opportunities. Then I got frustrated with limited options from low income, so I got structured and work a mid level corporate job, have a suburban home, attend a UU service regularly. I'm at the point where I wonder how people can hold on to their structured lives so long. The repetitive nature is easy, but my curiosity is very fidgety lately. Structured living is good for accumulating things.

Ventax Level 3 June 13, 2018
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If you mean do I have a routine for my days, then not particularly, outside of getting up on time, getting the kid sorted for school and getting to work (and the reverse in the evening).

If you mean do I prefer to live chaotically or with a basis of security — home, income, stability for my wife and child — then I absolutely need the structure and stability, or I'd feel beside myself with anxiety over meeting my responsibilities.

But if you mean having a plan for life... Hell no. My head and my interests are too scattered to have ever had any idea where I'm steering this particular ship.

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Hell no !   I am retired damnit !

No need for structure. ?

@Wildgreens
Thats right, no need for it and don't think I ever aporoved of it either ?

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Not anymore! The nest is empty and I'm retired. I always hated structure and now I can avoid it. It's great, although I think it rattles some people. I eat what I want when I want -- seldom 3 meals a day. I sleep when I want and when the dog allows it. I binge watch TV shows, sometimes several times in a row. It's blissful.

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