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Hi all! New to this app and to this group. Basically raised a JW since about five or six years old. So was in the cult abt 40 yrs. ?? Pioneer for total 13 yrs & elder for 7. Damn, crazy how much time I wasted. Anyway, three years faded now, and can’t believe all the info and dirt I have found on JWβ€˜s which has led me to research further and become an agnostic atheist. Soon I will be sending in my disassociation letter. They will be some repercussions but I’ll be finally free to be completely me & celebrate the holidays if I want without threat of being disfellowshipped.

RJ14 4 June 20
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"without threat of being disfellowshipped"

Oh, this! I was raised Christadelphian, a group very similar to JWs in terms of the controlling nature and exclusivity, but nowhere near the size (so they felt even more like the "chosen few" ).

I was disfellowshipped 5 years ago for accepting evolution. It was a horrible experience, and I was made to feel like a naughty boy and a rebel, when all I wanted was to be honest with myself and seek the truth. I eventually reasoned my way out of the religious beliefs entirely after watching many debates and reading several books (and a whole lot of other discussions with believers).

But the best part is that when they disfellowship you they shoot themselves in the foot because once you're out they have absolutely no authority over you. Of course they never did have authority except when we voluntarily gave it to them (because we were brainwashed to do so). Realising that fact changed the power dynamic for me. I refused to play by their rules, and they hated it. So many power games and power struggles in these controlling religions. And I'm so glad to be free from it. I still have family in the religion but thankfully they're pretty mild and we still get along fairly well despite obvious religious differences.

Congratulations on your escape from the cult. Celebrate it every day for the rest of your life.

And welcome to this site πŸ™‚

religions hate the truth that is why they the truth will set you free! Then they continue to tell you how to believe. Religions don't like facts and knowledge only what they tell you to say. People are scared to call them cults which they are. Mind control demand blind obedience and never question them! That my freind is a cult. I liken their prayers to witchcraft. They assume a position mostly on submissive position on knees hands together (easier to shackle them) say a prayer (an incantation) then expect god to answer their prayer ( expect magic from imaginary being just like witchcraft who expect their imaginary being to grant their wish) so you see they are all cults!

Wow, interesting story. Can totally relate. Glad ur out

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Good on you!
I'm proud of you.

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Thanks for the warm welcome everyone! Big brotherly hugs!!

RJ14 Level 4 June 20, 2018
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Search the groups...there are groups for ex-JWs. You will find a good tribe and support there. πŸ™‚

Excited to be here with you all, thanks

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It takes courage to speak the truth. Many here are recovering from the religion of your youth. I was raised Catholic but I started questioning my faith at about 13 when i was told I could not serve on the alter because I am a girl and would " defile" it. Ahhhhh wait did not god make me a girl?? Then when I found out that Birthcontrol was a no no. Ahhhh wait if god made everything and god made birthcontrol a good thing but we can not use it? that was the begining of the end for me. Many here have similar stories. I wish you well on your journey! Welcome to the site.

you did not pay attention. What they say is right and is god and everything you question is from the devil LOL

Wow. So misogynistic. Glad ur out

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Well done! It ain't easy, but nothing worth doing ever is. You've thought your way out of a very strong cult, so that's all water under the bridge now, & you can start living the virtuous life.

Yes, and I’m enjoying the journey

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Hello. Welcome to your freedom. Your story giving me a hope. My stepson (who is living with his JW mother) is full indoctrinated. He is 10 and he was born in "truth ". My heart keep breaking apart when he is saying stuff like rainbow created by God or about armagedon. We celebrate New Year and birthday parties and some time he celebrates with us (basically he is with us at that moment ). He staying with us every second weekend and sometimes he goes to meetings. I believe no child should go through this. Anyway I am very happy for you. You have a lot of time to enjoy your life. Never look back

Thanks. Sorry hear about ur stepson. Seth Andrews from The Thinking Atheist podcast rctly had a show talking about how atheist parents raise their children to become critical thinkers. Maybe a point or two could help? Not taking about disbelief but on helping ur stepson develop critical thinking appropriate for his age? In no way I am telling you what to do. I am not a parent and have no experience. I thought that show was insightful and just want to pass the word around.

@RJ14 Thank you. I will check. Every time we spend together I try to show him that is nothing bad to celebrate birthdays ect.or some science fact. In fact he is very clever boy.

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Good for you, brother! Welcome to the land of life before death!

zeuser Level 8 June 20, 2018

Thanks πŸ™‚

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Welcome to the community . So glad you are free.

Me too! πŸ™‚

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Welcome. My history is similar, except I was raised to be a Mormon. The best thing they ever did for me was to excommunicate me for apostasy.

Free at last, free at last, from "god almighty" we are free at last!

Released from the slave chains of religion! Atheists are terrible slaves because we think with reasoning

Hahaha. Totally get that. I have had some Mormon friends in past and still do. It’s tough...many similarities. Glad ur untethered πŸ˜‰

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Welcome to the asylum. Enjoy your stay.

Thank u

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Will you be making a blog?

I’m considering telling my story. The Shunned podcast has asked for anyone from any religion where they are being shunned to tell their story

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Congratulations on making a decision that you have such confidence in. Best wishes to you!

UUNJ Level 8 June 20, 2018

Thank u

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You're free already bro, you don't need to send a disassociation letter or sit in a judicial committee or play by ANY of their rules. The only power they have over you is what you give them. Do whatever sits well with you though, there will be repercussions either way I'm sure. I'm here if you want to talk about anything.

zing Level 6 June 20, 2018
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I came out of the JWs myself. It's can be a hard group to break from. In some areas they make you build your whole life around them... But even so. You might be lonely for a while, but in today's world, finding community has never been easier.

Very true. I’ve been on MeetUp...found a Humanist organization and other groups I’ve joined to build my community. Just takes time and patience. Also Bumble BFF

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What repercussions?

Welcome to free waters. There are still a few cult minions on this side but much less of a presence and secular.

I've never been a JW but have adopted two of their practices voluntarily, as an individual and for completely different reasons.

Zero ritual occasions; meaning all holidays and all group rituals but respecting and showing respect for others participating, in general. Also refusal of blood. Nothing about it is reated to theology.

I hope in your cross-over that you get enjoyment from holidays and the intellectual freedom you've reclaimed.

Repercussions of being shunned by family

@RJ14 That is difficult alright. The only principle I know that might apply is better example. To let them know that you still love them across the chasm and wish them happiness, well being and sincere wishes that their 'truth' comes to pass for them.

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Welcome! You will find a wonderful supportive group here.

Thanks

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Welcome!

Thank u

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Welcome

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Welcome to the real world. It's a lovely place.

Gareth Level 7 June 20, 2018
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Welcome!

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Congratulations, if I may recommend "The John Cedars channel" on YouTube.. pretty good IMO.

Thanks, I subscribe to his channel. Been very helpful

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Welcome!

Thanks!

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Welcome! I'm another ex-JW.

Thanks! Great to be in contact with other ex Jdubs

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Enjoy your freedom for sure, and welcome to having your mind being free πŸ˜€

Thanks πŸ™‚

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