Hi all! New to this app and to this group. Basically raised a JW since about five or six years old. So was in the cult abt 40 yrs. ?? Pioneer for total 13 yrs & elder for 7. Damn, crazy how much time I wasted. Anyway, three years faded now, and can’t believe all the info and dirt I have found on JW‘s which has led me to research further and become an agnostic atheist. Soon I will be sending in my disassociation letter. They will be some repercussions but I’ll be finally free to be completely me & celebrate the holidays if I want without threat of being disfellowshipped.
"without threat of being disfellowshipped"
Oh, this! I was raised Christadelphian, a group very similar to JWs in terms of the controlling nature and exclusivity, but nowhere near the size (so they felt even more like the "chosen few" ).
I was disfellowshipped 5 years ago for accepting evolution. It was a horrible experience, and I was made to feel like a naughty boy and a rebel, when all I wanted was to be honest with myself and seek the truth. I eventually reasoned my way out of the religious beliefs entirely after watching many debates and reading several books (and a whole lot of other discussions with believers).
But the best part is that when they disfellowship you they shoot themselves in the foot because once you're out they have absolutely no authority over you. Of course they never did have authority except when we voluntarily gave it to them (because we were brainwashed to do so). Realising that fact changed the power dynamic for me. I refused to play by their rules, and they hated it. So many power games and power struggles in these controlling religions. And I'm so glad to be free from it. I still have family in the religion but thankfully they're pretty mild and we still get along fairly well despite obvious religious differences.
Congratulations on your escape from the cult. Celebrate it every day for the rest of your life.
And welcome to this site
It takes courage to speak the truth. Many here are recovering from the religion of your youth. I was raised Catholic but I started questioning my faith at about 13 when i was told I could not serve on the alter because I am a girl and would " defile" it. Ahhhhh wait did not god make me a girl?? Then when I found out that Birthcontrol was a no no. Ahhhh wait if god made everything and god made birthcontrol a good thing but we can not use it? that was the begining of the end for me. Many here have similar stories. I wish you well on your journey! Welcome to the site.
Hello. Welcome to your freedom. Your story giving me a hope. My stepson (who is living with his JW mother) is full indoctrinated. He is 10 and he was born in "truth ". My heart keep breaking apart when he is saying stuff like rainbow created by God or about armagedon. We celebrate New Year and birthday parties and some time he celebrates with us (basically he is with us at that moment ). He staying with us every second weekend and sometimes he goes to meetings. I believe no child should go through this. Anyway I am very happy for you. You have a lot of time to enjoy your life. Never look back
You're free already bro, you don't need to send a disassociation letter or sit in a judicial committee or play by ANY of their rules. The only power they have over you is what you give them. Do whatever sits well with you though, there will be repercussions either way I'm sure. I'm here if you want to talk about anything.
Welcome to free waters. There are still a few cult minions on this side but much less of a presence and secular.
I've never been a JW but have adopted two of their practices voluntarily, as an individual and for completely different reasons.
Zero ritual occasions; meaning all holidays and all group rituals but respecting and showing respect for others participating, in general. Also refusal of blood. Nothing about it is reated to theology.
I hope in your cross-over that you get enjoyment from holidays and the intellectual freedom you've reclaimed.