I am new to this too and my reason for coming on is to find a woman to spend the rest of my life with. and what i plan to do is chat and be friends see if we find chemistry and can go from there

Just broke up with Greg because of the silent, wounding way he disappears for weeks at a time, right after hot, tender sex.

Last week was one of wins and two traumatic experiences. I wanted his support, to talk it over, to get his perspective. I realized what was missing in our relationship.

Although I repeatedly explained that I need more communication, nothing changes. Greg is unwilling to change his behavior. Obviously, he just wants sex.

The majority of women, including me, want a committed, loving relationship.

Keep your guard up, people here mostly seem very decent. Others do not seem to stay long.
More conversation than dating, though dating is part of the forum so certainly not discouraged.

Don't go looking, Read, Post and comment. be wary and alert, and just enjoy yourself. friends will find you !

I am a male 64. The most important thing isi beware and be careful. I have been scammed by women wanting something like a few free drinks or dinner on me. Met a wonderful woman who lived in Trinidad and just moved near me. After two years I accidentally found out she is a complete liar about her past. Have fun but be careful.

Welcome. My experiences tell me to come for the learning, then stay for the relationships featuring good conversations.

I also come to websites like this one without preconceptions or expectations, so everything that's working for me on the site becomes a gift, including the people i meet.

I have found the people on agnostic.com to be generally interesting, respectful, and full of fun. Welcome.

This is going to turn into an essay about online dating. I will try to summarize.

Since 2007 I have been on-and-off dating websites. Had one great relationship that lasted three years. Dan and I are still friends and hiking partners. Dan was a lifelong bachelor who was afraid of commitment and love. I ignored these obvious red flags because I was having so much fun: hiking, weightlifting and downhill skiing together. When I told Dan I loved him, he freaked as expected. I broke up with Dan because it was too painful to love a man who was unable to love me in return.

Timing and intentions are everything with online dating. I refuse to meet separated and newly-divorced men. Crazy-making behavior ensues: "Now I want you; Now I don't."

I was very excited about two exceptional athletes and hikers. Both were professional, intelligent, exceptional and fit men who, it turns out, were playing the field. Off they went to the next unsuspecting woman. I wound up feeling hurt, disillusioned, and all kinds of stupid. Now I refuse to get twitter-pated over a man before meeting.

Over the years I have probably met 120 men for lunch or dinner. Studies show that 81% of people lie about their age, weight and fitness and post old photos on online dating profiles. True. Most men show up badly overweight and out of shape. As if I wouldn't notice.

Over the past three years, I slowed down the dating train. Once they met my initial screening, I decided to give men more of a chance, with bonus points for avid hikers. I spent more time getting to know one man at a time. This is what I found:

2013: It took me awhile to figure out that Michael had high-functioning Asperser’s syndrome, with obsessive-compulsive disorder. His checking/sorting behavior made us constantly late. I kept thinking he would get better. As a punctual person who arrives early, I become irritated with people who are constantly late. Making people wait is disrespectful.

In my experience, many men and women are divorced for a darn good reason. Most people can hold it together for about three weeks. Then bad behavior comes out, the same bad behavior that killed their last relationships. Many men go from relationship-to-relationship because they are unwilling to work on themselves.

2014: John was a tremendous hiker, fun and intelligent. Divorced three times, John couldn't keep a relationship together. Why? He has a mean streak. I broke up with John because of his cruel, hurtful comments.

2015: I dated a man who, it turns out, defrauded friends and investors of $694,000 by depositing their life savings into his personal account. Stephen was arrested, stripped of his broker's license, and called a "menace to society" by the State of WA. Stephen pleaded guilty, was fined $50,000 and forced to pay restitution.

How did I find out? After dating Stephen for four weeks, I received a text from an unknown person: "The man you have been dating, Stephen, has another girlfriend in Snohomish. Look up his name and court records. Stephen scammed people of $694,000." "Who are you?" I replied. No answer. Obviously that person got my name and phone number- and knew I was dating Stephen- from Stephens's phone.

Of course Stephen denied it. He downplayed, dissembled and denied everything. Claimed the whole thing was overblown because of the Bernie Madoff scandal. "You are a master manipulator, a liar and a thief," I told him. "I cannot trust you. I never want to see you again."

This taught me to look up the names of men before meeting.

I have reached the point where I refuse to meet men with closed-mouth photos. Every single older man I met with closed-lip photos had horrid teeth: missing teeth, black stumps, rotten, crooked, yellow, gray and/or breath that stank of rotten meat. UGH. I can't imagine kissing that.

Since my divorce, I received three marriage proposals and turned them all down. Not the right man for me.

I refuse to let a few bad men destroy my opinion of half of the human race. As an optimist, I still have hope.

Does that answer your question?