Post it under compassion (we'll invent a category if need be). Take strength from the mutual love expressed here (and take care of yourself first and foremost). ❤

Glad you are venting to us. I'm so sorry you're losing your friend and you're feeling overwhelmed (?) by the faithful. Be careful to not succumb to survivors guilt; an easy thing to do. Peace

A friend of mine is slowly going under, too. It seems like a lottery who gets it and who doesn't. Just be thankful for every day of life and kind to others who are losing it.

Fuck cancer.

i lost my wife of almost 36 years to endometrial cancer in december 2016. the preceding 2 1/2 years were the worst id ever experienced, till the day she died, then the gates of hell opened and ive been struggling to get out since.
i can find no good to say about any of that experience; there is no silver lining. the possible exception might be the people who stepped in to hold me and my kids up, to keep us connected to the world and each other. beyond that, nothing.
I also can't say ive gained any wisdom from that experience; i don't know what all the stages of denial or acceptance are but im sure i experienced them all, and likely almost simultaneously (kinda like sally field in mrs. doubtfire when she finds out thats her husband!), so ive been burned out emotionally for a while now. i don't seem to get excited by much, though i do seem to cry at the stupidest things.
All i think i learned from this is that cancer sucks; it sucks the life out of the victim and all those who love them.
Truly, fuck cancer.
R'amen!

Cancer is hideous in so many ways but in particular for the fact it is composed of cells that are our own which makes it hard to understand and treat successfully since almost every case is fundamentally unique.
Take comfort on the fact that every biopsy and analysis feeds research to find preventions and a cure.
Being pissed and broken confirms your a compassionate human. Cancer does not discriminate. You know what to say in support and if need be, support your friend towards the end of her human life.

I totally hear and feel you. Cancer is a hideous disease. I hate it so much. It has hit many of the people I know and has taken a few of them, including my mum and friends. It is relentless and the constant fighting is so tiring/draining/weakening. I am glad you vented here. Please feel free to continue to do so. Much love and hugs from NZ.

I'm sorry to hear this. ?
My grandmother lost her life to cancer and my 16 year old cousin is fighting a form of cancer now.

Yeah, cancer sucks balls. All we can do is hang in there and try to be the best friend we can be. Cherish the memories with our close or loved ones. It’s a horrible thing to go through, but in the end you’ll be glad you stuck it out. It’s okay to be angry and to vent, life is cruel sometimes. I wish you the best.

I'm treating cancer with cannabis oil and even though I've not been able to obtain very much of it, it's still working!

Landmark Study Shows Half of Cancer Patients are Killed by Chemo — NOT Cancer [thefreethoughtproject.com]

BBC News - Growing evidence that cannabis oil can cure serious diseases like cancer [bbc.com]

We have a Cancer Group if you need to vent. You didn't say which cancer. I am a 5 year survivor of the worst Leukemia-AML. Live with side effects.

Sorry.

You’ll get through this eventually and live in peace and joy. All our bodies are temporary by design so it’s ok to suffer and die.

Cancer sucks. My mom died of colon cancer. My dad from lung cancer. My oldest sister from a brain tumor. My other two sisters have had minor (in comparison!) cancers that were treated successfully. I'm just a boy whistling in the dark trying to keep up my spirits.

This is probably not appropriate but when my friends or family are sick and people are offering prayers I often write "I'm casting secular healing and wellness incantations in your general direction. Love you!" But they know me and my proclivities and so it tends to go over OK. Not sure it would in this case.

I hope things work out as well as they possibly can for your friend and her family.

I'm so sorry for your pain. My daughter has had cancer twice. FIrst time it was hodgkins, second time breast cancer. It all happened before she was thirty. She is doing very well and feels victorious over it. Please talk about your pain whenever you can, don't let it get the best of you. At this point all you can do is be there for her. I send you and your friend lots of loving thoughts

I lost both of my parents to different forms of cancer. I agree with you, and feel your frustration with prayer requests. What a complete waste of time. Do something tangible if you want to help. And yes, fuck cancer!

I know your pain . My older sister and I went through cancer together I made it she didn’t. My 2nd sister lost to cancer a year apart. Her last words to me were “be happy no matter what it takes.” I cry for her every day. At least her friends knew not to pray for her but to visit her with stories of fun times in their lives with her. A good book to read “ when bad things happen to good people “

Sorry for your loss cancer took grandma and last month took mom. Hope you feel better

20 years ago i experienced the same thing with my best and longest friend, fuck cancer

I use diet to try and prevent cancer. (Not all types of cancer are the same, I realise.)

I avoid dairy and meat, and do other things too. I had an uncle, who was famous for his love of dairy. He died of breast cancer in the 70s.

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I am so very sorry That your friend is losing the battle and that you both are suffering so much. Sending so much sympathy.

I sympathize deeply,my dear wife died of lung cancer in 2017,despite the Radiation and later Chemotherapy,from diagnosis to her passing,was a little over a years time,the twist of fate was being told on our 26th anniversary in August 23rd, 2016,gone on Sept 13th 2017..... But her memories live on,many good years. I hope your friends passing is quick and merciful.

I'm sorry. It sounds like you've got survivor's guilt which unfortunately makes sense. This is going to suck no matter what anyone says or does and those annoyances are going to get under your skin which I think is understandable.

If I was in your shoes I think I'd focus what energy I could into making my friend as happy as possible. If your friend passes you'll know you did everything you could, if they get better you'll have been a part of that so either way, you left nothing on the table. Of course I've never been in your shoes and I don't know anyone else who has either. All I can really say is good luck to her and to you. If she has a charity or donation page link it and I'll throw some money at it, if not I'll just hit up the ACS.

While I won't send prayers, I will keep a good thought for those in need of my best wishes (which is all prayer is). When I visit someone who is sick, I talk of things they and I have in common. It is hard. No one gets out of here alive.

Hugs...