I know that feeling. I've heard "I just want to be friends" too many times, enough for me to stop even wanting to be in a relationship because it just got so discouraging. So here I am, maybe on the verge of a relationship, maybe not. I could be hearing that again; the question is, will it discourage me again? Jury's still out.

Lol ... don't think you're not going to continue to hear "you're a great guy, but ..." just because you're married. I heard it at one time or another from all three of my wives. Guess I look good from a distance but don't hold up to close scrutiny. But guess what: no one really does. After you've been with someone for a few years, you know each other's bullshit and then still have to decide to be devoted and loyal anyway. And the truth is, sometimes that's just a lot of thankless work.

Dude, you really need to loose the "fill the empty part of my heart" fantasy. Fill your own heart ... no one is going to do it for you. Nor is it their job. Being with someone only gives you more of what you already have -- if you're a lost soul, they'll make you more lost. If you're needy, it will make you more needy. "Become the person you want to be with", hackneyed as it is, really IS true.

You've made the correct decision in choosing to move on.

First of all, you are not this persons free therapist. There are professionals who get paid money to sit there and listen to people bitch about their problems.

Second of all, the relationship will not work at any level if both parties want something different. If this person will not become sexually involved with you, then go find someone who will.

The friend zone isn't a thing, except as a sexist notion. And initiating a friendship as a platform for something else means your friendship wasn't real either.

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Basically this.

Dude, I feel you. Dating is rough. It seems like all there is out there is people trying to rush into a full on relationship without doing the ground work or people treating each other like they are disposable.

No words of wisdom. Just commiseration.

Sounds like the relationship you wanted was never there, you wanted it, she was never interested in that way, ...... being able to recognize this early on is sometimes easier said than done, often the human heart is slow to accept the reality

I'm sorry that happened. You might want to find out where the relationship is going before you invest too much time in it. Most women who are sexually attracted to a man will kiss him after a few dates, so if she doesn't you might want to keep dating others.

I know you've been at agnostic.com for a while, but this website has a bit of a learning curve, but this info might be helpful for dating here.

New members are encouraged to earn website points, and help other members get to know them better, by writing an informational profile that includes their hobbies and interests, and answering all the profile questions, since that's the first place many women look when they see a new member.

Also, the website uses profiles to find member matches, so the more details one includes, the better the match.
Many women prefer to quickly look at a list of hobbies and interests to see if there's a match with a potential dating partner.

You probably already know this, but just in case:

To find members near you, click on the "Meet" button at the top of the page, then on "Members," and enter your preferred search parameters.
Or click on the "About" button at the top of the page to find links to FAQ or the website tutorial.
Click on the 'Meet" button to find member matches

You need to love yourself first, before loving someone else. "You complete me," is a sappy quote from the movie, "Jerry McGuire." It's a fantasy.

There is a proverb in numerous cultures that "life is uncertain, so eat desert first". Perhaps you should restrict yourself to dating women who are willing to hook up no later than the second date. Reportedly Kurt Russell and Goldie Hawn did it on their first date, and they've been together for 35 years now; so a quick start doesn't preclude a long relationship.

OK, the one that stick with me the most is,
"I want to find a guy just like you, oh, but not you!"
does that make any sense what soever?