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What do you think about who someone who says they're your friend and they think about you, but then you don't hear from them? Especially if this was someone who had given you every indication you could trust them. I know people can get busy and it can be hard sometimes to stay in touch on a steady basis, but this seems to go beyond that. I've brought up the silence once, but couldn't seem to get a straight answer. Essentially I got the feeling that I was making too much of it. But I don't think I was. And if they're the "friend" they claim to be, why can't they have an honest conversation with me?

bleurowz 8 July 7
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I think atheists fit under a bell curve plot just like all other categories of people for whatever subject is being explored.

I don't know if that would apply though.

@bleurowz atheists are just like every other group except the god dude thang.

Witness the expressed concepts of morality on this site.

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I've got a friend who is a bit of a workaholic and very disorganised. We would never meet up if I didn't arrange it but we have a great time whenever we do meet up. I know he isn't avoiding me, he would just never get around to planning anything himself.

JoeC Level 3 July 7, 2018

I know people like this too. I think it's common

I wish that was the case. The problem is I don't know. If I did know, that wouldn't be a problem. But I've got nothing.

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It is probably someone who was thinking of it as a casual friendship, and you thought it was more. This person probably doesn't want to tell you that he/she isn't really all that interested. I would say, just let it go. It isn't worth pursuing.

I feel sad they couldn't have the decency to tell me.

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Actions speak louder than words.

Yeah. They certainly do.

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I don't consider people who don't stay in touch my friends; they become acquaintances or I refer to our friendship in the past tense. No point in wasting time, resources, and feelings on people who aren't truly invested in keeping or forming new friendships...of course, people might have different interpretations of what "friend" means. Hopefully, we all can find people that we can truly call "friend."

I agree.

Yeah, I'm getting that feeling. Very disappointed, because I felt every indication that there was more there.

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It is likely that this person is trying to avoid you. Likely a lost cause. Let it go.

I'm getting that feeling. You'd think they could have at least the decency to tell me.

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Some people claim to be your friend just because they can't stand the idea of knowing people who aren't "friends". Nobody wants to admit to mere acquaintance when they can claim more popularity and intimacy than they actually have by using the word "friend".

Yeah. Or they certainly have a different definition.

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Could it be that we might have different ideas about friendship? I could indeed be your friend but demonstrate it differently than you. So many possible explanations for the differences. Is it what I get from you - or what I contribute by accepting whatever is available? Best to ask "what kind of friend am i".

I thought we were closer. Evidently not.

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Your views seem to answer your questions.

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"And if they're the "friend" they claim to be, why can't they have an honest conversation with me?"

Because they are not.
Cut 'em loose.

I'm beginning to feel that way.

@bleurowz Drag it out as long as you think you need to. The end result will be the same. How much more bullshit you choose to put up with is up to you.

@KKGator I know when I'm ready I'll let go.

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