I don't think liking a particular race is any more racist than liking a particular gender is sexist.
I'm intrigued how you feel about mixed race people though. If people are attracted to different races then that will create more mixed race people, but if no one is particularly into mixed race people that would be sad.

Ummm........ you have been through so much traumatic stuff that I do not think that you should be concerned about having any form of romantic relationship until you work on yourself I would say that you would probably might want to consider counseling

Keep being you. You don't need to explain anything to anyone, especially about who you are, or are not, attracted to. You are great just like you are and should be very proud of yourself for surviving your family nastiness. All people have likes and dislikes about the opposite, and same sex. It's NOBODY's business but yours and the one you love. Be with who you want to be with. And be your authentic self. I hope you heal from the trauma and have a long and happy life.

Ok. It's totally understandable. You have to do you. If your stats say that too many black men are a certain way I can't disagree with you. You should live your life the way you want. I feel there are so many problems with the culture of blacks in the US. It doesnt mean all are. For example, most girls wanted a thug for a boyfriend. NO black girls look my way. I don't hate black girls I just view them differently because of my child hood. Dont be afraid to break from culture. Just do YOU! ITS YOUR LIFE! I date all cultures. I'm personally more interested in intellect than looks.

You like what you like. As long as whomever you are with treats you good, that should be all that matters.

Sounds like you've been traumatized against men who look a certain way. I'm sorry this is how things have been for you. I view racism as more of a situation where the power structure is there to keep the non-favored race in a subordinant position. I don't see your views on dating in that construct.

Everyone has superficial preferences...some rooted in past experiences. Recognizing it is half the battle anyway. It takes a lot of positive traits to make a match, just concentrate on what makes you happy.

Love is love. It is color blind. Love well.

I don't think it is racist. You like who you like, and you're attracted to who you are attracted to.

I have seen white women on dating sites say they are only interested in dating black men or only looking to date other women. It’s really no different than wanting to date thin women or full bodied women, short or tall women. Most people have a phisical preference they gravitate to, even if it isn’t put in stone. Go for what makes you feel comfortable and what you want. I did note that you mentioned several times having a mental illness. I hope it is not related to the assaults and regardless of why, that you are getting help with it. There is non religious support groups and therapists out there, seek them out.

Without much time to read other comments....have you found a survivor of sexual assault group? I think you should consider joining one and talking about this. "Shy, goofy nerd/geeks" need help, too and you've been hurt! I want you to recover. (Sending hugs.)

There is nothing wrong with the way you feel but it would be wise to understand why you have those feelings. It reads like you have. I'm reminded you only have one life so you may as well live it to it's fullest. BTW, yes Virginia, we are idiots.

Date who you want, however, remain open to Black men, too. You have experienced horrible things. Try not to stereotype, though. The world is full of wonderful black men, too.