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Would you get married if you met the right person and what would the marriage actually mean to you?

Nardi 7 July 7
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The right person for me wouldn't want to get married.

Spot on

Two BIG thumbs up!

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Been married twice...unless having children, see no reason whatsoever to "get legal".

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Stated I would marry my wife the first time I saw her and it is now 58 years later and I still feel exactly the same.

@Akfishlady Thanks

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Why marry the Cow when milk is cheaper at the convenience store ?

Good reason!!

@Sensiwoman7
I think so too. Even the Beef I get from her is cheaper !

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I would like to actually get married someday, but it's not finite.

@Akfishlady nor is life but I still live

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Why do you ask? This is a strange question. Okay, I'll bite.

Yes, I would marry a man if I meet the right person and the feeling is mutual.

Marriage is a deep commitment to love and grow together, problem solve, hang in there through ups and downs, and have fun together.

Yes! On point exactly! I don’t care for legal implications but it’s the idea you express that makes it appealing. If I found that - yes

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Yes. Yanno, as long as it's still legal. I'd want her to be able to participate in legal and medical decisions regarding me and vice versa.

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I'd definitely be ok with a ceremony to announce our relationship, but I'd only get a wedding license if a radically awesome woman could articulate why that's different from a ceremony without the license. Relationships often have a lot of compromise, if she really wants an official marriage I'd make that happen for her.

I've dated two women in the last 10 years, one said marriage proposal was grounds for breakup and the 2nd just said it would be up for consideration in a few years.

I'm know I'm biased, my parents have been married for 53 years. They both had shitty childhoods and have worked through enormous problems but what they have together now is inspiring.

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That’s a good question.. I’m thinking no, been there - done that. And, in the US, you’ve about as many ‘right’s’ as partners as being married.

What would it mean..? If for an unimaginable set of reasons we felt compelled to marry, I suppose it would mean I’d found the person I once thought I had…

Varn Level 8 July 8, 2018
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Never say never again. But it's going to be a while.

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I'm not going to say no because you never know. It would definitely have to be the right man and there would have to be major advantages to being married.

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I would... if I met the right person. There are a lot of legal benefits and protections under marriage.

All of my relationships were before gay marriage was legal. I do wonder if I might have stuck things out longer and put more effort into trying to stay together if breaking up was more complicated than just packing up and leaving. To legally entangle yourself with someone else requires a lot more commitment.

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I am not sure what marriage means to me anymore. It's a promise that is easily (and frequently) broken. The religious like to wield it as a weapon. It often creates significant financial risk for one or both parties... My kids have grown, so that "need" for legality has passed.

Is there any other way to assure rights when one member is hospitalized? Most hospitals state visits from family, only. Unmarried is not recognized as family.

Zster Level 8 July 8, 2018
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Yeah, sure. Eventually. Not the religious part, but the legal part. And the social part. I like the idea of making a commitment to someone that says we’re a team, who supports my growth as I support his ... that can laugh with me at the end of the day, and plot and strategize future adventures together. Y’know, all that couple stuff. And I can do that without a registering with the government.

However, we have so many legal systems here – such as availability of health insurance, and division of property under a will - that are based on that partnership that I’d prefer it. I’ve seen too many cases where life partners were restricted from making medical decisions because other relationships (children, parents, sibs) took legal priority. If assets are a concern, just have a good prenup. If someone doesn’t want to discuss details of a potential breakup, then I wouldn’t want to marry them.

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Why does it always have to be the right person? Why not the left person? 😛

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I would not legally marry. But I could commit forever, if I met the right guy.

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If I meet the right person? That's BIG if. I can't answer without knowing who that would be, but just based on what I know about marriage after a 28 year run that ended 8 years ago, I'd say no, no I wouldn't.

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I would have to meet someone incredible for me to ever do that again

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not at this point in my life

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The right one wouldn’t want marriage.

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I have never been the marriage type. I have no problem being exclusive or living together I just don't think God or the government should get into my love life. (There are some reasons I would get married though. For example if I met someone out of the country and they wanted to be a citizen here or vice versa.)

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I never close the door on something completely. Once I thought myself "in love" with a girl I've known since high school. She was/is beautiful, funny, smart, and essentially the much cooler female version of myself. I wanted nothing more than to be with her for the rest of my life.

Unfortunately, the feelings I experienced weren't both ways. I found myself relegated to the friend zone, which was painful for a number of years as I tried to balance the way I felt for her with my desire to have her in my life in whatever way possible.

In the end I made the decision to maintain a friendship and have been able to force those feelings away. I'd never close the book on marriage as I do believe there is a counterpoint for every soul, but the feelings I have for this girl have made dating or developing outside relationships difficult for me. I'm rather old fashioned in a way as I believe that marriage is reserved for the right person.

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Yeah I'm not into legal marriage I'm too old to give all my stuff away and start over

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As of now the only reason I could see myself getting married again would be for health insurance purposes.

But I’m pretty recently divorced after 21 years of marriage so who knows, perhaps I’ll change my mind with time.

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I would but would rather live together. My ideal relationship, in exchange for cooking and cleaning for me, I have sex 1-2 times a month.

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