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Would you get married if you met the right person and what would the marriage actually mean to you?

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The right person for me wouldn't want to get married.

Exactly!

Spot on

Two BIG thumbs up!

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I would like to actually get married someday, but it's not finite.

@Akfishlady nor is life but I still live

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Why marry the Cow when milk is cheaper at the convenience store ?

VAL3941 Level 8 July 8, 2018

Good reason!!

@Sensiwoman7
I think so too. Even the Beef I get from her is cheaper !

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Been married twice...unless having children, see no reason whatsoever to "get legal".

@Akfishlady I had four to my first husband.
I'm having one to my current partner. Marriage plays no part in it.

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Stated I would marry my wife the first time I saw her and it is now 58 years later and I still feel exactly the same.

Marine Level 8 July 8, 2018

@Akfishlady Thanks

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Why do you ask? This is a strange question. Okay, I'll bite.

Yes, I would marry a man if I meet the right person and the feeling is mutual.

Marriage is a deep commitment to love and grow together, problem solve, hang in there through ups and downs, and have fun together.

Yes! On point exactly! I don’t care for legal implications but it’s the idea you express that makes it appealing. If I found that - yes

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That’s a good question.. I’m thinking no, been there - done that. And, in the US, you’ve about as many ‘right’s’ as partners as being married.

What would it mean..? If for an unimaginable set of reasons we felt compelled to marry, I suppose it would mean I’d found the person I once thought I had…

Varn Level 8 July 8, 2018
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I'd definitely be ok with a ceremony to announce our relationship, but I'd only get a wedding license if a radically awesome woman could articulate why that's different from a ceremony without the license. Relationships often have a lot of compromise, if she really wants an official marriage I'd make that happen for her.

I've dated two women in the last 10 years, one said marriage proposal was grounds for breakup and the 2nd just said it would be up for consideration in a few years.

I'm know I'm biased, my parents have been married for 53 years. They both had shitty childhoods and have worked through enormous problems but what they have together now is inspiring.

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Yes. Yanno, as long as it's still legal. I'd want her to be able to participate in legal and medical decisions regarding me and vice versa.

Good point.

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I think marriage is definitely a step to take if you met the right person. I feel like it defines the relationship as something you decided to take serious and want a, hopefully, permanent connection. I've lived with men and have been married to men and I honestly felt more connected to the ones I was married to. I worked harder at those relationships.

Yoshigata Level 4 July 8, 2018
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The right one wouldn’t want marriage.

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I thought that I had met the right person, married him, but a number of factors ended the marriage after 39 years, ouch. I am financially and emotionally secure right now, and do not need another person, but I do miss parts of being in a relationship! I have no desire to marry again, but if someone came along who had all that I seek in a man, I would commit to him! I am more interested in a relationship than a marriage...

Rustee Level 7 July 8, 2018
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Will do the ceremony if the lady wanted it but never would I get a state issued marriage license. I'm not that foolish, the divorce courts and stats around divorce are enough to prove that if a woman insists on a state license then I wouldnt want to be with her anyway. The ceremony isn't out of the question because of the religious side of marriage and I would def do that much for a woman I love if she is religious but state sanctioned marriage is just stupidity.

jorj Level 8 July 8, 2018
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I've done it once. Not sure I'd do it again, but never say never.

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Sure! It would actually mean l am married.

Sticks48 Level 9 July 8, 2018
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No is a complete sentence!

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Getting married - no, all I think that's needed is trust and commitment. What marriage means to me is a ceremony seeking a nod from the society's culture which is imminently rooted in its religion.

DSGavde Level 6 July 8, 2018
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Nope, no god and it's none of the government's business, so no point to marriage.

Netochka Level 5 July 8, 2018
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Would love to meet the right person, though not sure marriage is necessary at this point in my life, I'd be open to it with the right person. Marriage is a commitment to be there no matter what, but as I tell my clients, a piece of paper falls apart in hot water, so it all really boils down to each partner's personal honor and integrity in wanting to keep the promises made to each other.

Julie808 Level 7 July 8, 2018
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Marriage is not necessary. A piece of paper is not proof of loyalty, love or reasons to trust someone. If they really want it and the relationship has its solid grounds - maybe, but not without a prenup. Contributing to a life together with our own efforts and finances is great (e.g split the rent, split costs and be there for each other when needed), but I don’t feel ok being legally/economically bind to someone- not after working so hard on my own for years. If I want to buy a home, that mortgage is going to be under my name. If I want to do some other major thing in my life, I’d like to stay solely responsible for it. smile001.gif

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The right woman for me would never agree to something like that in the first place.

Anonbene Level 8 July 8, 2018
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No, ...
And the right person doesn’t want to get married either.

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If the marriage states I am half a person and must serve my husband in any way, then NO. The only reason I can imagine I would say YES is if health insurance or property ownership demands it.

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Never say never...

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I would not give up my independence, I love the freedom to do as I please and make my own decisions. I had a long and happy marriage and it would take a pretty rare man to tempt me back into matrimony. but like Ellatynemouth ......never say never!

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