Sometime all you want is to be wanted.
Unfortunately you can't be wanted without expectations, and no human can sustainably fulfill all expectations all the time. What people really want is to be wanted unconditionally, and that's an oxymoron. The closest you can come is for someone to agree to enter into a shared fiction with you such that they implicitly agree to ignore their reservations and irritations about you if you do the same for them. And in my experience that's even hard to pull off. The abstraction always leaks.
If I could go back for a "do-over" in life, yet knowing what I know now, I think I would approach my relationships with a lot less idealism and high expectations, and then I would naturally question whether I should even bother. Most likely I'd fly solo the whole way. It costs a lot less in emotional energy and even money.
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You bet! And I must check online to see what the experts have to say about why that is and how it came about. Then there's the issue of us not wanting people - using headphones, man-spreading, MGTOW and what- not. That's in public, I guess. I wonder do people coming home from stressful jobs just want to be left alone instead of wanted?